Its becoming a dilemma for us
Oct 2nd 2006, 12:55 am
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Its becoming a dilemma for us
Since we put our house on the market back in April/May, we only had a few people showing interest on it, since we have gone multi agent we have so many viewers, and now we have people coming back for second viewing, which up to August we would have been over the moon by the interest been shown on the property.
Now we are having second thought, cause our first child has done so well with he's GCSE, and now taken 4 subject to do he's Level, now we dont know should we stay and let him finish he's A'Level and go to university in London, or take he's chance in OZ.
So confused we dont know what do, any help would be appreciated from parents who have gone through the same dilemma, did you do the right thing by moving them.
Now we are having second thought, cause our first child has done so well with he's GCSE, and now taken 4 subject to do he's Level, now we dont know should we stay and let him finish he's A'Level and go to university in London, or take he's chance in OZ.
So confused we dont know what do, any help would be appreciated from parents who have gone through the same dilemma, did you do the right thing by moving them.
Oct 2nd 2006, 12:59 am
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Re: Its becoming a dilemma for us
Originally Posted by chris and farideh
Since we put our house on the market back in April/May, we only had a few people showing interest on it, since we have gone multi agent we have so many viewers, and now we have people coming back for second viewing, which up to August we would have been over the moon by the interest been shown on the property.
Now we are having second thought, cause our first child has done so well with he's GCSE, and now taken 4 subject to do he's Level, now we dont know should we stay and let him finish he's A'Level and go to university in London, or take he's chance in OZ.
So confused we dont know what do, any help would be appreciated from parents who have gone through the same dilemma, did you do the right thing by moving them.
Now we are having second thought, cause our first child has done so well with he's GCSE, and now taken 4 subject to do he's Level, now we dont know should we stay and let him finish he's A'Level and go to university in London, or take he's chance in OZ.
So confused we dont know what do, any help would be appreciated from parents who have gone through the same dilemma, did you do the right thing by moving them.
Well I have one boy in the UK and one boy here in SA. I beleive that we made the right choice for them both.
My boy in the UK was finishing his A levels and then movingon to Uni, which he has now done. He's just turned 19 and he is having a ball.
My boy here is 13 and didn't want to come, he was adamant that he was returning as soon as he was 18. Now you'd not get him back to the UK for all the tea in china.
You need to ask him what he wants and go from there. He could always come out for a year and if it doesn't suit he can go back to the UK and sit his A levels at college.
Oct 2nd 2006, 1:00 am
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Re: Its becoming a dilemma for us
Originally Posted by chris and farideh
Since we put our house on the market back in April/May, we only had a few people showing interest on it, since we have gone multi agent we have so many viewers, and now we have people coming back for second viewing, which up to August we would have been over the moon by the interest been shown on the property.
Now we are having second thought, cause our first child has done so well with he's GCSE, and now taken 4 subject to do he's Level, now we dont know should we stay and let him finish he's A'Level and go to university in London, or take he's chance in OZ.
So confused we dont know what do, any help would be appreciated from parents who have gone through the same dilemma, did you do the right thing by moving them.
Now we are having second thought, cause our first child has done so well with he's GCSE, and now taken 4 subject to do he's Level, now we dont know should we stay and let him finish he's A'Level and go to university in London, or take he's chance in OZ.
So confused we dont know what do, any help would be appreciated from parents who have gone through the same dilemma, did you do the right thing by moving them.
Oct 2nd 2006, 1:02 am
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Re: Its becoming a dilemma for us
Originally Posted by Hutch
He's got this far through the UK system that personally (and that's all it is, just my view) I'd let him stay, get his A's and make the most of the (largely) free UK higher education system. How long have you got on your visas and how old are you?
I agree. Let him finish if you can.
Oct 2nd 2006, 1:07 am
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Re: Its becoming a dilemma for us
Originally Posted by Hutch
He's got this far through the UK system that personally (and that's all it is, just my view) I'd let him stay, get his A's and make the most of the (largely) free UK higher education system. How long have you got on your visas and how old are you?
university fees are £3000 now here in UK, what sort fee do they charge over there, do you know by any chance?
Oct 2nd 2006, 1:10 am
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Re: Its becoming a dilemma for us
Originally Posted by chris and farideh
we have only just validate our visa in June, so we have 5 years to go, me I'm old, I say a few days younger than god itself.
university fees are £3000 now here in UK, what sort fee do they charge over there, do you know by any chance?
university fees are £3000 now here in UK, what sort fee do they charge over there, do you know by any chance?
It depends on if you have PR and which course he does.
Oct 2nd 2006, 1:14 am
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Re: Its becoming a dilemma for us
Originally Posted by Wendy
It depends on if you have PR and which course he does.
He wants to do a degree in economy.
Oct 2nd 2006, 1:15 am
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Re: Its becoming a dilemma for us
Originally Posted by chris and farideh
As it is pretty late here Wendy & the brain has gone dead, what is a PR.
He wants to do a degree in economy.
He wants to do a degree in economy.
Permanent Residency.
On a Temporary Visa you will have to pay International Fees, whereas on a Permanent Visa you will only pay domestic fees, which are considerably less.
Oct 2nd 2006, 1:17 am
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Originally Posted by Wendy
Permanent Residency.
On a Temporary Visa you will have to pay International Fees, whereas on a Permanent Visa you will only pay domestic fees, which are considerably less.
On a Temporary Visa you will have to pay International Fees, whereas on a Permanent Visa you will only pay domestic fees, which are considerably less.
Oct 2nd 2006, 1:21 am
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Re: Its becoming a dilemma for us
Originally Posted by chris and farideh
Is STNI a perment visa? well thats what we have.
Yes it is.
Don't know how much courses are, maybe have a look on the Uni SA website in the morning and see.
http://www.unisa.edu.au/
I think you really need to speak to him and see what he wants to do.
Oct 2nd 2006, 3:21 am
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Re: Its becoming a dilemma for us
Originally Posted by chris and farideh
Since we put our house on the market back in April/May, we only had a few people showing interest on it, since we have gone multi agent we have so many viewers, and now we have people coming back for second viewing, which up to August we would have been over the moon by the interest been shown on the property.
Now we are having second thought, cause our first child has done so well with he's GCSE, and now taken 4 subject to do he's Level, now we dont know should we stay and let him finish he's A'Level and go to university in London, or take he's chance in OZ.
So confused we dont know what do, any help would be appreciated from parents who have gone through the same dilemma, did you do the right thing by moving them.
Now we are having second thought, cause our first child has done so well with he's GCSE, and now taken 4 subject to do he's Level, now we dont know should we stay and let him finish he's A'Level and go to university in London, or take he's chance in OZ.
So confused we dont know what do, any help would be appreciated from parents who have gone through the same dilemma, did you do the right thing by moving them.
Oct 2nd 2006, 8:10 am
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Re: Its becoming a dilemma for us
Originally Posted by chris and farideh
Since we put our house on the market back in April/May, we only had a few people showing interest on it, since we have gone multi agent we have so many viewers, and now we have people coming back for second viewing, which up to August we would have been over the moon by the interest been shown on the property.
Now we are having second thought, cause our first child has done so well with he's GCSE, and now taken 4 subject to do he's Level, now we dont know should we stay and let him finish he's A'Level and go to university in London, or take he's chance in OZ.
So confused we dont know what do, any help would be appreciated from parents who have gone through the same dilemma, did you do the right thing by moving them.
Now we are having second thought, cause our first child has done so well with he's GCSE, and now taken 4 subject to do he's Level, now we dont know should we stay and let him finish he's A'Level and go to university in London, or take he's chance in OZ.
So confused we dont know what do, any help would be appreciated from parents who have gone through the same dilemma, did you do the right thing by moving them.
On the other hand I personally think that you should be leaving the choice of univertisy up to your son. After all he will be 18 and he shouldn't need you to make this sort of decision for him.
Our plan is to make the move to oz (visa permitting) for myself, OH and two younger kids once eldest has finished his A levels but it will be up to him to decide if the uk or oz is the place for him. I have already been helping him to find info on universities in both countries and we will give him the same financial support wherever he decides to live but it will be up to him.
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Oct 2nd 2006, 10:02 am
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My son keep saying he's not totally sure, if he wants to come with us or not, but if he decide he stays, he doesn't like the idea of us being so far away from us, so I was wondering is any uni in Oz can match, London School of Economy, Cambridge or Oxford university.
God I hate this, its driving all of us mad.
God I hate this, its driving all of us mad.
Oct 2nd 2006, 11:14 am
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Re: Its becoming a dilemma for us
Originally Posted by chris and farideh
My son keep saying he's not totally sure, if he wants to come with us or not, but if he decide he stays, he doesn't like the idea of us being so far away from us, so I was wondering is any uni in Oz can match, London School of Economy, Cambridge or Oxford university.
God I hate this, its driving all of us mad.
God I hate this, its driving all of us mad.
Oct 2nd 2006, 11:32 am
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Re: Its becoming a dilemma for us
Originally Posted by Hutch
As much as I like my new country - I don't think there are any uni's in this country that can get close to the three you've mentioned. If he's truly capable of gaining admission to one of those seats of learning I'd say you should prod him gently in that direction. I don't think there are many students worldwide, let alone the UK, who wouldn't give their right arm to attend LSE, Cambridge or Oxford.
This is why we have dilemma, dont want to mess with he's future.