I'm just wondering..
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I'm just wondering..
.. whether to still head to perth or head somewhere else.
My initial plans were to go to Perth cos that is where my brother and his family lives. However things have changed and it is clear we are not welcome anywhere near him or his family. (Long story going back many decades!)
It seemed fairer to my mum to be in WA cos then at least she would only have to fly into one airport to visit her kids. Mum is barely speaking to me since i told her our plans, tonight for the first time ever she sent text telling me not to ring her as i had planned, cos she is emotional
So NOW i am left, after nearly 40 years of trying to do the right thing and keep everyone happy, with the thought that perhaps i really ought to consider other areas of Australia, mainly cos of the cheaper housing.
I have been to Perth twice but have seen nothing else of Australia. I dont want to start another slag perth off thread BUT how do you know you have chosen the right place to live??
Its a whole new experience to me to be able to do what i choose and not what fits in with everyone elses expectations
My initial plans were to go to Perth cos that is where my brother and his family lives. However things have changed and it is clear we are not welcome anywhere near him or his family. (Long story going back many decades!)
It seemed fairer to my mum to be in WA cos then at least she would only have to fly into one airport to visit her kids. Mum is barely speaking to me since i told her our plans, tonight for the first time ever she sent text telling me not to ring her as i had planned, cos she is emotional
So NOW i am left, after nearly 40 years of trying to do the right thing and keep everyone happy, with the thought that perhaps i really ought to consider other areas of Australia, mainly cos of the cheaper housing.
I have been to Perth twice but have seen nothing else of Australia. I dont want to start another slag perth off thread BUT how do you know you have chosen the right place to live??
Its a whole new experience to me to be able to do what i choose and not what fits in with everyone elses expectations
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Re: I'm just wondering..
.. whether to still head to perth or head somewhere else.
My initial plans were to go to Perth cos that is where my brother and his family lives. However things have changed and it is clear we are not welcome anywhere near him or his family. (Long story going back many decades!)
It seemed fairer to my mum to be in WA cos then at least she would only have to fly into one airport to visit her kids. Mum is barely speaking to me since i told her our plans, tonight for the first time ever she sent text telling me not to ring her as i had planned, cos she is emotional
So NOW i am left, after nearly 40 years of trying to do the right thing and keep everyone happy, with the thought that perhaps i really ought to consider other areas of Australia, mainly cos of the cheaper housing.
I have been to Perth twice but have seen nothing else of Australia. I dont want to start another slag perth off thread BUT how do you know you have chosen the right place to live??
Its a whole new experience to me to be able to do what i choose and not what fits in with everyone elses expectations
My initial plans were to go to Perth cos that is where my brother and his family lives. However things have changed and it is clear we are not welcome anywhere near him or his family. (Long story going back many decades!)
It seemed fairer to my mum to be in WA cos then at least she would only have to fly into one airport to visit her kids. Mum is barely speaking to me since i told her our plans, tonight for the first time ever she sent text telling me not to ring her as i had planned, cos she is emotional
So NOW i am left, after nearly 40 years of trying to do the right thing and keep everyone happy, with the thought that perhaps i really ought to consider other areas of Australia, mainly cos of the cheaper housing.
I have been to Perth twice but have seen nothing else of Australia. I dont want to start another slag perth off thread BUT how do you know you have chosen the right place to live??
Its a whole new experience to me to be able to do what i choose and not what fits in with everyone elses expectations
Sometimes in life you cannot move forward when you are carrying everyone elses emotional baggage and problems.
Make a decision that suits you, go forward and live your life in a way that suits yourself and your partner.
Your family can choose which way they want to play it. If you keep your dignity, keep the lines of communication open but put your own needs first for a change, then the rest is up to them.
But you cannot move forward unless you give your family the choice of how they want to do it - they are either with you or not.
At the moment until you have made your choice, its about you and you must not feel bad about it.
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Sometimes in life you cannot move forward when you are carrying everyone elses emotional baggage and problems.
Make a decision that suits you, go forward and live your life in a way that suits yourself and your partner.
Your family can choose which way they want to play it. If you keep your dignity, keep the lines of communication open but put your own needs first for a change, then the rest is up to them.
But you cannot move forward unless you give your family the choice of how they want to do it - they are either with you or not.
At the moment until you have made your choice, its about you and you must not feel bad about it.
Make a decision that suits you, go forward and live your life in a way that suits yourself and your partner.
Your family can choose which way they want to play it. If you keep your dignity, keep the lines of communication open but put your own needs first for a change, then the rest is up to them.
But you cannot move forward unless you give your family the choice of how they want to do it - they are either with you or not.
At the moment until you have made your choice, its about you and you must not feel bad about it.
I dont feel bad about it, i feel strangely liberated by their reactions to me wanting more for my family. I dont have a partner which is prob why i rant on here more than is healthy. Its me and the kids, and together we will conquer the world JUST not quite sure where to set up camp
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Thanks PP
I dont feel bad about it, i feel strangely liberated by their reactions to me wanting more for my family. I dont have a partner which is prob why i rant on here more than is healthy. Its me and the kids, and together we will conquer the world JUST not quite sure where to set up camp
I dont feel bad about it, i feel strangely liberated by their reactions to me wanting more for my family. I dont have a partner which is prob why i rant on here more than is healthy. Its me and the kids, and together we will conquer the world JUST not quite sure where to set up camp
And if you dont get on with the family in WA, then a bit of distance won't hurt
Had we got our visa, we would have loved Brissie or Sydney but had our sponsorship for WA.
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My instincts tell me you should try somewhere else. You mentioned you haven't done that yet so I would do your research and find a place that ticks all your boxes.
And if you dont get on with the family in WA, then a bit of distance won't hurt
Had we got our visa, we would have loved Brissie or Sydney but had our sponsorship for WA.
And if you dont get on with the family in WA, then a bit of distance won't hurt
Had we got our visa, we would have loved Brissie or Sydney but had our sponsorship for WA.
my instincts tell me much the same thing. Only problem is that i know so little about other areas.
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It will be a fresh start for you and unlike WA, you wont be near family that may/may not complicate things and attempt to belittle your efforts to build up your life.
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on a score of 1 - 5 (5 beign most expensive) what is housing cost like across australia??
perth
melbourne
brisbane
sydney
adelaide
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MMMMMmmmm its sounding very tempting idea to land in say sydney and spend some time travelling before coming to a decision. any idea how long i have to get kids into school??
on a score of 1 - 5 (5 beign most expensive) what is housing cost like across australia??
perth
melbourne
brisbane
sydney
adelaide
on a score of 1 - 5 (5 beign most expensive) what is housing cost like across australia??
perth
melbourne
brisbane
sydney
adelaide
But you should get some answers from the Aussie side shortly I reckon.
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MMMMMmmmm its sounding very tempting idea to land in say sydney and spend some time travelling before coming to a decision. any idea how long i have to get kids into school??
on a score of 1 - 5 (5 beign most expensive) what is housing cost like across australia??
perth 4
melbourne 3
brisbane 2
sydney 4
adelaide 1
on a score of 1 - 5 (5 beign most expensive) what is housing cost like across australia??
perth 4
melbourne 3
brisbane 2
sydney 4
adelaide 1
Of course you will get more money working in Sydney and Perth (depending on what you do) than you would in say Tasmania. From research Adelaide is just a little lower than Brisbane and again Melbourne is somewhere inbetween so it's all comparable really.
You have three months to enrol the kids in school.
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I think Sydney and Perth are about on par with house prices, Adelaide and Brisbane are close but I think ADL has the edge just. Melbourne is about in the middle. Tasmania also has cheaper housing like Adelaide. (see red writing above)
Of course you will get more money working in Sydney and Perth (depending on what you do) than you would in say Tasmania. From research Adelaide is just a little lower than Brisbane and again Melbourne is somewhere inbetween so it's all comparable really.
You have three months to enrol the kids in school.
Of course you will get more money working in Sydney and Perth (depending on what you do) than you would in say Tasmania. From research Adelaide is just a little lower than Brisbane and again Melbourne is somewhere inbetween so it's all comparable really.
You have three months to enrol the kids in school.
Thankyou Wendy and everyone else too who replied or PMd me.
I am beginning to think a bit of a trip round oz may be in order when we arrive but in the meantime i am googling the different states etc.
Oh and kids think 3 months without school is a great idea
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I would do a bit of research into climate/weather for different regions and also whether there are jobs in your occupation/trade (look on the various job web sites). Then look at house prices.
That should narrow it down a bit.
I wouldn't worry too much about schools at the initial stage: each state/area/city will have good and bad schools.
Gina
That should narrow it down a bit.
I wouldn't worry too much about schools at the initial stage: each state/area/city will have good and bad schools.
Gina
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I would do a bit of research into climate/weather for different regions and also whether there are jobs in your occupation/trade (look on the various job web sites). Then look at house prices.
That should narrow it down a bit.
I wouldn't worry too much about schools at the initial stage: each state/area/city will have good and bad schools.
Gina
That should narrow it down a bit.
I wouldn't worry too much about schools at the initial stage: each state/area/city will have good and bad schools.
Gina
Thanks Gina
I will do that and I am also gonna bend a few ears at the North West meet in a couple of weeks
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Re: I'm just wondering..
.. whether to still head to perth or head somewhere else.
My initial plans were to go to Perth cos that is where my brother and his family lives. However things have changed and it is clear we are not welcome anywhere near him or his family. (Long story going back many decades!)
It seemed fairer to my mum to be in WA cos then at least she would only have to fly into one airport to visit her kids. Mum is barely speaking to me since i told her our plans, tonight for the first time ever she sent text telling me not to ring her as i had planned, cos she is emotional
So NOW i am left, after nearly 40 years of trying to do the right thing and keep everyone happy, with the thought that perhaps i really ought to consider other areas of Australia, mainly cos of the cheaper housing.
I have been to Perth twice but have seen nothing else of Australia. I dont want to start another slag perth off thread BUT how do you know you have chosen the right place to live??
Its a whole new experience to me to be able to do what i choose and not what fits in with everyone elses expectations
My initial plans were to go to Perth cos that is where my brother and his family lives. However things have changed and it is clear we are not welcome anywhere near him or his family. (Long story going back many decades!)
It seemed fairer to my mum to be in WA cos then at least she would only have to fly into one airport to visit her kids. Mum is barely speaking to me since i told her our plans, tonight for the first time ever she sent text telling me not to ring her as i had planned, cos she is emotional
So NOW i am left, after nearly 40 years of trying to do the right thing and keep everyone happy, with the thought that perhaps i really ought to consider other areas of Australia, mainly cos of the cheaper housing.
I have been to Perth twice but have seen nothing else of Australia. I dont want to start another slag perth off thread BUT how do you know you have chosen the right place to live??
Its a whole new experience to me to be able to do what i choose and not what fits in with everyone elses expectations
daunted,you know i admire what your doing i think you and what your doing are fantastic,i am sorry to read about your mom,it must be really hard for you ladies to leave your mothers behind but unless your going to miss your mom terribly and will not be able to cope with out her over there then dont give in,in time your mom will come round and accept that you want a better life for you and yours..
as regards perth,you loved it did'nt you?i know the housing is expensive but there are units that you could rent?it will be hard but you are a survivor,your starting a new life ,i know you will meet a nice chap and then there will be two of you to share the burden of perth house prices..you wont be on your own for ever..trust me
dont get ground down my darling ,you can see it through..
take care..
marcus..xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Aww - Huggles for you hon
I can only say I know the liberated feeling from mother etc myself - and it gets easier in time.
Time to do whats right for you and your kids - tis what I have done and I certainly don't regret it
I can only say I know the liberated feeling from mother etc myself - and it gets easier in time.
Time to do whats right for you and your kids - tis what I have done and I certainly don't regret it