IF YOU KNEW THEN WHAT YOU KNOW NOW
would you have ever emigrated,i feel i have given up so much to be here my house my friends family taking the kids away from everything they knew,and if it wasnt for family coming out this yr i would be going home sooner,they are the only thing that is keeping me here
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Re: IF YOU KNEW THEN WHAT YOU KNOW NOW
Originally Posted by kericare
(Post 6521290)
would you have ever emigrated,i feel i have given up so much to be here my house my friends family taking the kids away from everything they knew,and if it wasnt for family coming out this yr i would be going home sooner,they are the only thing that is keeping me here
If i knew what i know now, then to be honest "no" i wouldn't have come. But that's not the case is it, i am here and trying to make the best of it. I will be back home oneday, until then i'll just keep plodding on...(littlest HOBO):D |
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It's been an experience - like lying on a bed of nails.
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hi nu-shooz,thanks for the reply what you have said is exactly how i feel,i would have always been wondering what if if we had never done it,but my heart is just not here its back home with everything and everyone around me
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Originally Posted by Sally Redux
(Post 6521304)
It's been an experience - like lying on a bed of nails.
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Re: IF YOU KNEW THEN WHAT YOU KNOW NOW
Originally Posted by kericare
(Post 6521290)
would you have ever emigrated,i feel i have given up so much to be here my house my friends family taking the kids away from everything they knew,and if it wasnt for family coming out this yr i would be going home sooner,they are the only thing that is keeping me here
Okay Missy, I having been where you are about a year ago am going to take you in hand....:) (In case you don't think I know, I will give you a short summation - loneliness, desperation, grief, anger, home sickness and people sickness, general state of being overwhelmed, fear, disappointment, to name but a few). Here are my top tips for making it through the next year:
*Don't spend all of your time in Mbttuk. I love lots of the posters in Mbbtuk but it is too soon for you to be in there so often. * Do keep posting, there is a lot of support to be found here. Best of luck to you. |
Re: IF YOU KNEW THEN WHAT YOU KNOW NOW
Originally Posted by busterboy
(Post 6521316)
It has been said that emigrating leaves no place for problems to hide.
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Re: IF YOU KNEW THEN WHAT YOU KNOW NOW
Originally Posted by busterboy
(Post 6521316)
Okay Missy, I having been where you are about a year ago am going to take you in hand....:) (In case you don't think I know, I will give you a short summation - loneliness, desperation, grief, anger, home sickness and people sickness, general state of being overwhelmed, fear, disappointment, to name but a few).
Here are my top tips for making it through the next year:
*Don't spend all of your time in Mbttuk. I love lots of the posters in Mbbtuk but it is too soon for you to be in there so often. * Do keep posting, there is a lot of support to be found here. Best of luck to you. |
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Originally Posted by northernbird
(Post 6521341)
Fantastic post my friend :D
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Re: IF YOU KNEW THEN WHAT YOU KNOW NOW
Originally Posted by busterboy
(Post 6521353)
I got some of this advice from you Chum!:)
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hi busterboy,thankyou for the things you wrote down,i have met some good friends here but i still feel lonely,i have 2 boys that are at school and also have twins that are 3 they go to nusrery 2 days a week,so that gives me a bit of a break but i still am finding it hard to make friends i feel i cant just go up to anyone and say will you be my friend i know it sounds silly,but i just feel so lonely and keep thinking of home all the time and just wanting my old life back,we have been here for nearly 4 months now but feel like a yr already,for the people that have settled down here and are getting on with things good on them i wish them all the luck i wish i was like that i feel like an alien and so iscolated i take the kids down the park and see all the other mums down their who have already got their group of friends its so hard to make friends when you dont know anybody here,some people i have met dont have little ones so that makes it harder,when you said about seeing the doctor well i actually am going tommorrow i have never felt this low in all my life like i do now,i just cant seem to pick myself up and am in a rut.i didnt realise it would be so hard i knew it would be hard but not like this,i need some aduld conversation thanks for taking the time to reply to me anyway
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Re: IF YOU KNEW THEN WHAT YOU KNOW NOW
Originally Posted by busterboy
(Post 6521316)
Okay Missy, I having been where you are about a year ago am going to take you in hand....:) (In case you don't think I know, I will give you a short summation - loneliness, desperation, grief, anger, home sickness and people sickness, general state of being overwhelmed, fear, disappointment, to name but a few).
Here are my top tips for making it through the next year:
*Don't spend all of your time in Mbttuk. I love lots of the posters in Mbbtuk but it is too soon for you to be in there so often. * Do keep posting, there is a lot of support to be found here. Best of luck to you. There are not many other times when you would experience loss in every area of your life in the way that immigration leaves you feeling. Having a plan of action is a great idea. I really wish you luck, remember it is early days. Tracey x |
Re: IF YOU KNEW THEN WHAT YOU KNOW NOW
Originally Posted by kericare
(Post 6521361)
hi busterboy,thankyou for the things you wrote down,i have met some good friends here but i still feel lonely,i have 2 boys that are at school and also have twins that are 3 they go to nusrery 2 days a week,so that gives me a bit of a break but i still am finding it hard to make friends i feel i cant just go up to anyone and say will you be my friend i know it sounds silly,but i just feel so lonely and keep thinking of home all the time and just wanting my old life back,we have been here for nearly 4 months now but feel like a yr already,for the people that have settled down here and are getting on with things good on them i wish them all the luck i wish i was like that i feel like an alien and so iscolated i take the kids down the park and see all the other mums down their who have already got their group of friends its so hard to make friends when you dont know anybody here,some people i have met dont have little ones so that makes it harder,when you said about seeing the doctor well i actually am going tommorrow i have never felt this low in all my life like i do now,i just cant seem to pick myself up and am in a rut.i didnt realise it would be so hard i knew it would be hard but not like this,i need some aduld conversation thanks for taking the time to reply to me anyway
You have to try harder. I have met loads of friends by putting myself out. I even ended up on Northernbirds doorstep:D It is hard i know....i don't normally meet up with strangers, but when you have no option you have to do it. It gets easier after the first time. Just do it, see how you feel. |
Re: IF YOU KNEW THEN WHAT YOU KNOW NOW
Originally Posted by kericare
(Post 6521361)
hi busterboy,thankyou for the things you wrote down,i have met some good friends here but i still feel lonely,i have 2 boys that are at school and also have twins that are 3 they go to nusrery 2 days a week,so that gives me a bit of a break but i still am finding it hard to make friends i feel i cant just go up to anyone and say will you be my friend i know it sounds silly,but i just feel so lonely and keep thinking of home all the time and just wanting my old life back,we have been here for nearly 4 months now but feel like a yr already,for the people that have settled down here and are getting on with things good on them i wish them all the luck i wish i was like that i feel like an alien and so iscolated i take the kids down the park and see all the other mums down their who have already got their group of friends its so hard to make friends when you dont know anybody here,some people i have met dont have little ones so that makes it harder,when you said about seeing the doctor well i actually am going tommorrow i have never felt this low in all my life like i do now,i just cant seem to pick myself up and am in a rut.i didnt realise it would be so hard i knew it would be hard but not like this,i need some aduld conversation thanks for taking the time to reply to me anyway
there are bound to be a couple of them around your area so you can go and mix with mums with similar aged children. |
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how do you do it though i cant just walk up to anyone in the street lol
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