I Suspect The Trouble Is About To Start...
Oct 25th 2005, 3:33 pm
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I Suspect The Trouble Is About To Start...
Until now, my in-laws have been "OK" with us moving. Not happy with it, and would rather we weren't but not getting in our way. I suspect this is about to change....
This morning, I was collecting the kids who had been staying overnight with them and thanked them for having them. MIL replied, no problem, we have to take them when we get the chance these days! Then she added, actually, we want to talk to you both about your plans to emigrate! This was said with a very stern voice and face. I asked her if there was a problem and all she would say is that they want to speak to both of us!!
I called Mr Herrchook and he suspects they're either going to tell us not to go, or are going to grill us SS style on why we are going. We're going to do homework big style so we can answer everything they throw at us. We know ourselves that it's the best thing for us all but they're going to take some convincing I think!
BIL was round this afternoon and I asked if they'd spoken to him about it and all he would say is that there's a lot about our move they're not happy with. <SIGH>
Wish us luck, I can see this turning out to be quite a battle knowing my in-laws.
This morning, I was collecting the kids who had been staying overnight with them and thanked them for having them. MIL replied, no problem, we have to take them when we get the chance these days! Then she added, actually, we want to talk to you both about your plans to emigrate! This was said with a very stern voice and face. I asked her if there was a problem and all she would say is that they want to speak to both of us!!
I called Mr Herrchook and he suspects they're either going to tell us not to go, or are going to grill us SS style on why we are going. We're going to do homework big style so we can answer everything they throw at us. We know ourselves that it's the best thing for us all but they're going to take some convincing I think!
BIL was round this afternoon and I asked if they'd spoken to him about it and all he would say is that there's a lot about our move they're not happy with. <SIGH>
Wish us luck, I can see this turning out to be quite a battle knowing my in-laws.
Oct 25th 2005, 3:36 pm
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Oh Christ!!
Good luck and give as good as you get and at the end of the day its your decision and you can do as you please
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Good luck and give as good as you get and at the end of the day its your decision and you can do as you please
Hilary
Oct 25th 2005, 3:37 pm
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Re: I Suspect The Trouble Is About To Start...
Originally Posted by hilary6
Oh Christ!!
Good luck and give as good as you get and at the end of the day its your decision and you can do as you please
Hilary
Good luck and give as good as you get and at the end of the day its your decision and you can do as you please
Hilary
Oct 25th 2005, 3:38 pm
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Originally Posted by herrchook
Until now, my in-laws have been "OK" with us moving. Not happy with it, and would rather we weren't but not getting in our way. I suspect this is about to change....
This morning, I was collecting the kids who had been staying overnight with them and thanked them for having them. MIL replied, no problem, we have to take them when we get the chance these days! Then she added, actually, we want to talk to you both about your plans to emigrate! This was said with a very stern voice and face. I asked her if there was a problem and all she would say is that they want to speak to both of us!!
I called Mr Herrchook and he suspects they're either going to tell us not to go, or are going to grill us SS style on why we are going. We're going to do homework big style so we can answer everything they throw at us. We know ourselves that it's the best thing for us all but they're going to take some convincing I think!
BIL was round this afternoon and I asked if they'd spoken to him about it and all he would say is that there's a lot about our move they're not happy with. <SIGH>
Wish us luck, I can see this turning out to be quite a battle knowing my in-laws.
This morning, I was collecting the kids who had been staying overnight with them and thanked them for having them. MIL replied, no problem, we have to take them when we get the chance these days! Then she added, actually, we want to talk to you both about your plans to emigrate! This was said with a very stern voice and face. I asked her if there was a problem and all she would say is that they want to speak to both of us!!
I called Mr Herrchook and he suspects they're either going to tell us not to go, or are going to grill us SS style on why we are going. We're going to do homework big style so we can answer everything they throw at us. We know ourselves that it's the best thing for us all but they're going to take some convincing I think!
BIL was round this afternoon and I asked if they'd spoken to him about it and all he would say is that there's a lot about our move they're not happy with. <SIGH>
Wish us luck, I can see this turning out to be quite a battle knowing my in-laws.
I know how you feel,my parents and in laws both keep avoiding the australia word,and how we could be so cruel to take their grandchildren away.
they will come around in time.
Anyway again good luck!
Oct 25th 2005, 3:38 pm
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Ooh gosh, sounds ominous - lots of luck to you. Maybe they just want to make sure you've weighed up all the pros and cons. Maybe the little ones said something about being unsure about going - guess you won't know til you've had 'the talk'.
They should be proud you've got some get up and go. I'll send you some karma
They should be proud you've got some get up and go. I'll send you some karma
Oct 25th 2005, 3:40 pm
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Re: I Suspect The Trouble Is About To Start...
Originally Posted by MJELNC
GOOD LUCK
I know how you feel,my parents and in laws both keep avoiding the australia word,and how we could be so cruel to take their grandchildren away.
they will come around in time.
Anyway again good luck!
I know how you feel,my parents and in laws both keep avoiding the australia word,and how we could be so cruel to take their grandchildren away.
they will come around in time.
Anyway again good luck!
Oct 25th 2005, 3:41 pm
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Re: I Suspect The Trouble Is About To Start...
Originally Posted by herrchook
Until now, my in-laws have been "OK" with us moving. Not happy with it, and would rather we weren't but not getting in our way. I suspect this is about to change....
This morning, I was collecting the kids who had been staying overnight with them and thanked them for having them. MIL replied, no problem, we have to take them when we get the chance these days! Then she added, actually, we want to talk to you both about your plans to emigrate! This was said with a very stern voice and face. I asked her if there was a problem and all she would say is that they want to speak to both of us!!
I called Mr Herrchook and he suspects they're either going to tell us not to go, or are going to grill us SS style on why we are going. We're going to do homework big style so we can answer everything they throw at us. We know ourselves that it's the best thing for us all but they're going to take some convincing I think!
BIL was round this afternoon and I asked if they'd spoken to him about it and all he would say is that there's a lot about our move they're not happy with. <SIGH>
Wish us luck, I can see this turning out to be quite a battle knowing my in-laws.
This morning, I was collecting the kids who had been staying overnight with them and thanked them for having them. MIL replied, no problem, we have to take them when we get the chance these days! Then she added, actually, we want to talk to you both about your plans to emigrate! This was said with a very stern voice and face. I asked her if there was a problem and all she would say is that they want to speak to both of us!!
I called Mr Herrchook and he suspects they're either going to tell us not to go, or are going to grill us SS style on why we are going. We're going to do homework big style so we can answer everything they throw at us. We know ourselves that it's the best thing for us all but they're going to take some convincing I think!
BIL was round this afternoon and I asked if they'd spoken to him about it and all he would say is that there's a lot about our move they're not happy with. <SIGH>
Wish us luck, I can see this turning out to be quite a battle knowing my in-laws.
As far as I see it - you wouldn't be going unless you'd thought long and hard about it and presumably the decision is largely based on you providing a better quality of life for your family. It's no one's decision but yours.
Oct 25th 2005, 3:43 pm
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Re: I Suspect The Trouble Is About To Start...
Originally Posted by Kerrygold
Good Luck.
As far as I see it - you wouldn't be going unless you'd thought long and hard about it and presumably the decision is largely based on you providing a better quality of life for your family. It's no one's decision but yours.
As far as I see it - you wouldn't be going unless you'd thought long and hard about it and presumably the decision is largely based on you providing a better quality of life for your family. It's no one's decision but yours.
Jeez, this was worse than telling my parents I wanted to move out!!!
Oct 25th 2005, 3:45 pm
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It cant be easy for parents when their families are leaving but on the other hand its not a decision you've taken easily.
I think Im at the stage where Im gonna be having 'words' with my family.
Ive tried seeing it from their point of view, now its time for them to see it from our point of view (thats fighting talk)
Like you say they might want to go with you
:scared:
Good luck
Hilary
I think Im at the stage where Im gonna be having 'words' with my family.
Ive tried seeing it from their point of view, now its time for them to see it from our point of view (thats fighting talk)
Like you say they might want to go with you
:scared: Good luck
Hilary
Oct 25th 2005, 3:52 pm
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Re: I Suspect The Trouble Is About To Start...
Originally Posted by herrchook
Until now, my in-laws have been "OK" with us moving. Not happy with it, and would rather we weren't but not getting in our way. I suspect this is about to change....
This morning, I was collecting the kids who had been staying overnight with them and thanked them for having them. MIL replied, no problem, we have to take them when we get the chance these days! Then she added, actually, we want to talk to you both about your plans to emigrate! This was said with a very stern voice and face. I asked her if there was a problem and all she would say is that they want to speak to both of us!!
I called Mr Herrchook and he suspects they're either going to tell us not to go, or are going to grill us SS style on why we are going. We're going to do homework big style so we can answer everything they throw at us. We know ourselves that it's the best thing for us all but they're going to take some convincing I think!
BIL was round this afternoon and I asked if they'd spoken to him about it and all he would say is that there's a lot about our move they're not happy with. <SIGH>
Wish us luck, I can see this turning out to be quite a battle knowing my in-laws.
This morning, I was collecting the kids who had been staying overnight with them and thanked them for having them. MIL replied, no problem, we have to take them when we get the chance these days! Then she added, actually, we want to talk to you both about your plans to emigrate! This was said with a very stern voice and face. I asked her if there was a problem and all she would say is that they want to speak to both of us!!
I called Mr Herrchook and he suspects they're either going to tell us not to go, or are going to grill us SS style on why we are going. We're going to do homework big style so we can answer everything they throw at us. We know ourselves that it's the best thing for us all but they're going to take some convincing I think!
BIL was round this afternoon and I asked if they'd spoken to him about it and all he would say is that there's a lot about our move they're not happy with. <SIGH>
Wish us luck, I can see this turning out to be quite a battle knowing my in-laws.
and welcome to the club.We're sitting here stuck for words!
Here's part of our saga:
http://britishexpats.com/forum/showthread.php?t=324277
We can fully appreciate how you may feel. Lynn is going to telephone her mum as a last ditch attempt, in ooh... about 5 minutes time, heh heh, I'm off out on me bike, she'll be pissed by the time I get back I reckon!
Mums just got back from Hong Kong after visiting Lynns sister for 3 weeks, reckon she'll be in a good mood?? Answers please.
Lynns friend has offered to take and collect the kids from school everyday while we are away and stay for tea now and again so her Mum won't be balls out with our 8 & 5 year olds.
Good luck to you both
Rich & Lynn
Oct 25th 2005, 3:52 pm
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I don't know how much power these people have over your life, but if this were me I wouldn't be too worried about it. Making the decision to go and live in a place as far away as Australia is a big thing to do and most put a lot of thought into it. It's not something that you just "do" one day after a few beers.
So for some inward-looking nimrod to turn round and say "you're not to go" is just patronising and rude. Yes, they have a right to be upset, yes they will miss you, yes it's a tough emotional thing to go through.
No, they can't "tell you" not to go. Tell them to broaden their horizons a tad, they might like it.
So for some inward-looking nimrod to turn round and say "you're not to go" is just patronising and rude. Yes, they have a right to be upset, yes they will miss you, yes it's a tough emotional thing to go through.
No, they can't "tell you" not to go. Tell them to broaden their horizons a tad, they might like it.
Oct 25th 2005, 4:05 pm
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Re: I Suspect The Trouble Is About To Start...
Originally Posted by tableland
I don't know how much power these people have over your life, but if this were me I wouldn't be too worried about it. Making the decision to go and live in a place as far away as Australia is a big thing to do and most put a lot of thought into it. It's not something that you just "do" one day after a few beers.
So for some inward-looking nimrod to turn round and say "you're not to go" is just patronising and rude. Yes, they have a right to be upset, yes they will miss you, yes it's a tough emotional thing to go through.
No, they can't "tell you" not to go. Tell them to broaden their horizons a tad, they might like it.
So for some inward-looking nimrod to turn round and say "you're not to go" is just patronising and rude. Yes, they have a right to be upset, yes they will miss you, yes it's a tough emotional thing to go through.
No, they can't "tell you" not to go. Tell them to broaden their horizons a tad, they might like it.
We agree - like you said its not a decision made in a day - and remember for kids aswell its a great opportunity for them - although we haven't got children my dad would still like us to stay (blimey Im 30 lol) but at the end of the day we want to go and it took me over a year to give my fella an answer about going .
Besides my family have all got there own lives aswell - we dont revolve around each other.
You will be fine - just stick to your guns !
Oct 25th 2005, 4:20 pm
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Re: I Suspect The Trouble Is About To Start...
Originally Posted by herrchook
Until now, my in-laws have been "OK" with us moving. Not happy with it, and would rather we weren't but not getting in our way. I suspect this is about to change....
This morning, I was collecting the kids who had been staying overnight with them and thanked them for having them. MIL replied, no problem, we have to take them when we get the chance these days! Then she added, actually, we want to talk to you both about your plans to emigrate! This was said with a very stern voice and face. I asked her if there was a problem and all she would say is that they want to speak to both of us!!
I called Mr Herrchook and he suspects they're either going to tell us not to go, or are going to grill us SS style on why we are going. We're going to do homework big style so we can answer everything they throw at us. We know ourselves that it's the best thing for us all but they're going to take some convincing I think!
BIL was round this afternoon and I asked if they'd spoken to him about it and all he would say is that there's a lot about our move they're not happy with. <SIGH>
Wish us luck, I can see this turning out to be quite a battle knowing my in-laws.
This morning, I was collecting the kids who had been staying overnight with them and thanked them for having them. MIL replied, no problem, we have to take them when we get the chance these days! Then she added, actually, we want to talk to you both about your plans to emigrate! This was said with a very stern voice and face. I asked her if there was a problem and all she would say is that they want to speak to both of us!!
I called Mr Herrchook and he suspects they're either going to tell us not to go, or are going to grill us SS style on why we are going. We're going to do homework big style so we can answer everything they throw at us. We know ourselves that it's the best thing for us all but they're going to take some convincing I think!
BIL was round this afternoon and I asked if they'd spoken to him about it and all he would say is that there's a lot about our move they're not happy with. <SIGH>
Wish us luck, I can see this turning out to be quite a battle knowing my in-laws.
Their main concerns is in relation to the grand kids and missing them growing up. So what I have done is to buy them DVD player and setup up my computer system to burn DVD’s of the kids directly from my camcorder. We will start it at Christmas so if we do eventually go I can post them DVD’s of the kids every week. Whilst it not the same it should help soften the blow a little.
Good luck and I hope it works but don’t be surprised if you get blamed for the whole thing I know I am already, they will get over it with time but as long as you both are happy with the decision and stick together you will be fine
Oct 25th 2005, 4:32 pm
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Re: I Suspect The Trouble Is About To Start...
Originally Posted by rossifumi
and welcome to the club.We're sitting here stuck for words!
Here's part of our saga:
http://britishexpats.com/forum/showthread.php?t=324277
We can fully appreciate how you may feel. Lynn is going to telephone her mum as a last ditch attempt, in ooh... about 5 minutes time, heh heh, I'm off out on me bike, she'll be pissed by the time I get back I reckon!
Mums just got back from Hong Kong after visiting Lynns sister for 3 weeks, reckon she'll be in a good mood?? Answers please.
Lynns friend has offered to take and collect the kids from school everyday while we are away and stay for tea now and again so her Mum won't be balls out with our 8 & 5 year olds.
Good luck to you both
Rich & Lynn
Oct 25th 2005, 5:07 pm
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Re: I Suspect The Trouble Is About To Start...
Well after their holiday in the Far east for three weeks it appears Lynn's mum has far more pressing tasks to deal with in her life, yep, she has to decorate the house and that is going to take up all her time! I kid you not.
She also doesn't want to have 'to pick up the 'pieces' when she returns to her home and the mess her husband has left? Even he can wash up one knife, one fork, one spoon and one cup everyday.
FFS, hello!! Stuck for words again.
I cannot help but laugh, LOTS, mind you we're on the vino now.
Bye for now, we're on the beer!!! Shallymoo!
Rich & Lynn (motherless!)
She also doesn't want to have 'to pick up the 'pieces' when she returns to her home and the mess her husband has left? Even he can wash up one knife, one fork, one spoon and one cup everyday.
FFS, hello!! Stuck for words again.
I cannot help but laugh, LOTS, mind you we're on the vino now.
Bye for now, we're on the beer!!! Shallymoo!
Rich & Lynn (motherless!)