How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
Jan 24th 2006, 9:06 am
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How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
I don't mean those who come back for whatever reason... just those who go through all the stress of getting the visa then get cold feet / have a change of circumstances / etc etc etc..... and don't go in the first place.
I couldn't imagine not going because I'd spend the rest of my life thinking, "what if....??"
The reason I ask is that I've just spent the weekend saying tearful 'farewells' to much of my extended family.... my Uncle says, "you're doing this for me...."
.... and goes on to explain that he applied for - and got - a PR visa twenty years ago, but never went through with it. My cousin (19 years old) has apparently never forgiven him or let him forget: "I could have been Australian"
Sooo... how many? Anyone know?
Cheers,
RT x
I couldn't imagine not going because I'd spend the rest of my life thinking, "what if....??"
The reason I ask is that I've just spent the weekend saying tearful 'farewells' to much of my extended family.... my Uncle says, "you're doing this for me...."
.... and goes on to explain that he applied for - and got - a PR visa twenty years ago, but never went through with it. My cousin (19 years old) has apparently never forgiven him or let him forget: "I could have been Australian"Sooo... how many? Anyone know?
Cheers,
RT x
Jan 24th 2006, 10:14 am
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Re: How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
Originally Posted by Rogue Trader
I don't mean those who come back for whatever reason... just those who go through all the stress of getting the visa then get cold feet / have a change of circumstances / etc etc etc..... and don't go in the first place.
I couldn't imagine not going because I'd spend the rest of my life thinking, "what if....??"
The reason I ask is that I've just spent the weekend saying tearful 'farewells' to much of my extended family.... my Uncle says, "you're doing this for me....".... and goes on to explain that he applied for - and got - a PR visa twenty years ago, but never went through with it. My cousin (19 years old) has apparently never forgiven him or let him forget: "I could have been Australian"
Sooo... how many? Anyone know?
Cheers,
RT x
I couldn't imagine not going because I'd spend the rest of my life thinking, "what if....??"
The reason I ask is that I've just spent the weekend saying tearful 'farewells' to much of my extended family.... my Uncle says, "you're doing this for me...."
.... and goes on to explain that he applied for - and got - a PR visa twenty years ago, but never went through with it. My cousin (19 years old) has apparently never forgiven him or let him forget: "I could have been Australian"Sooo... how many? Anyone know?
Cheers,
RT x
I think there'll be quite a few people who've regretted not going over the years.
Started your packing for the 'party flight' yet?
Jules
P.S Bring a brolly - it's done nothing but b**dy rain today!
Jan 24th 2006, 10:49 am
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Re: How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
certainly not me!! cant wait to get out of here!!
regards
vb2
regards
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Jan 24th 2006, 10:50 am
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Re: How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
Originally Posted by julesandco
Thought you were having second thoughts there for a moment - not you of all people!
Nooo... no second thoughts for us
Bring it on..!!
Originally Posted by julesandco
Started your packing for the 'party flight' yet?
Can't wait Stick a beer in the fridge for us... we'll see ya in 3 weeks..!!
Originally Posted by julesandco
P.S Bring a brolly - it's done nothing but b**dy rain today!
See ya,
RT x
Jan 24th 2006, 10:50 am
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Re: How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
Originally Posted by Rogue Trader
I don't mean those who come back for whatever reason... just those who go through all the stress of getting the visa then get cold feet / have a change of circumstances / etc etc etc..... and don't go in the first place.
I couldn't imagine not going because I'd spend the rest of my life thinking, "what if....??"
The reason I ask is that I've just spent the weekend saying tearful 'farewells' to much of my extended family.... my Uncle says, "you're doing this for me....".... and goes on to explain that he applied for - and got - a PR visa twenty years ago, but never went through with it. My cousin (19 years old) has apparently never forgiven him or let him forget: "I could have been Australian"
Sooo... how many? Anyone know?
Cheers,
RT x
I couldn't imagine not going because I'd spend the rest of my life thinking, "what if....??"
The reason I ask is that I've just spent the weekend saying tearful 'farewells' to much of my extended family.... my Uncle says, "you're doing this for me...."
.... and goes on to explain that he applied for - and got - a PR visa twenty years ago, but never went through with it. My cousin (19 years old) has apparently never forgiven him or let him forget: "I could have been Australian"Sooo... how many? Anyone know?
Cheers,
RT x
Jan 24th 2006, 11:03 am
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Re: How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
Oh this one struck a chord with me.
I was on the phone to my Dad a couple of days ago and he said to me 'When you get to Australia, you will be crying every night'
'Why?' I asked puzzled.
'Because you will be missing me' He said simply.
Like a ton of bricks it hit me. I only have one parent left, I have suddenly become so close to my sisters that I love them beyond anything. We were close before, but the family dynamics has changed since Mum died.
'I shall be hot on your heels to Australia, because I cannot stand the thought of never seeing you again' My sister said to me.
Jesus christ what am I putting them through? I thought and suddenly felt very scared and vulnerable.
Then I think back to Nov. 11th when we were told mum had cancer. Six weeks later she was dead.
That tells me that life is very short and even more so, unpredictable.
Emigrating hard on the family you leave behind? Damn right it is.
But I am looking on it that my wonderful sisters will have somewhere to visit, a country so beautiful and new experiences for them and their children to learn about.
I don't have cold feet, everyone knows how we have dreamt of Australia for the past 3 years but I would be lying if I said I wasn't scared.
I am aware that leaving my family will rip out my heart.
But I am also aware that my Mum would tell me to grab the opportunities that life has to offer whenever you get the chance.
Stepping out of the comfort zone is hard, but when you take a long hard look at how short life can be, having regrets is even worse.
Get the visa, give yourself the choice and try it.
I was on the phone to my Dad a couple of days ago and he said to me 'When you get to Australia, you will be crying every night'
'Why?' I asked puzzled.
'Because you will be missing me' He said simply.
Like a ton of bricks it hit me. I only have one parent left, I have suddenly become so close to my sisters that I love them beyond anything. We were close before, but the family dynamics has changed since Mum died.
'I shall be hot on your heels to Australia, because I cannot stand the thought of never seeing you again' My sister said to me.
Jesus christ what am I putting them through? I thought and suddenly felt very scared and vulnerable.
Then I think back to Nov. 11th when we were told mum had cancer. Six weeks later she was dead.
That tells me that life is very short and even more so, unpredictable.
Emigrating hard on the family you leave behind? Damn right it is.
But I am looking on it that my wonderful sisters will have somewhere to visit, a country so beautiful and new experiences for them and their children to learn about.
I don't have cold feet, everyone knows how we have dreamt of Australia for the past 3 years but I would be lying if I said I wasn't scared.
I am aware that leaving my family will rip out my heart.
But I am also aware that my Mum would tell me to grab the opportunities that life has to offer whenever you get the chance.
Stepping out of the comfort zone is hard, but when you take a long hard look at how short life can be, having regrets is even worse.
Get the visa, give yourself the choice and try it.
Jan 24th 2006, 11:15 am
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Re: How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
Originally Posted by Professional Princess
Oh this one struck a chord with me.
I was on the phone to my Dad a couple of days ago and he said to me 'When you get to Australia, you will be crying every night'
'Why?' I asked puzzled.
'Because you will be missing me' He said simply.
Like a ton of bricks it hit me. I only have one parent left, I have suddenly become so close to my sisters that I love them beyond anything. We were close before, but the family dynamics has changed since Mum died.
'I shall be hot on your heels to Australia, because I cannot stand the thought of never seeing you again' My sister said to me.
Jesus christ what am I putting them through? I thought and suddenly felt very scared and vulnerable.
Then I think back to Nov. 11th when we were told mum had cancer. Six weeks later she was dead.
That tells me that life is very short and even more so, unpredictable.
Emigrating hard on the family you leave behind? Damn right it is.
But I am looking on it that my wonderful sisters will have somewhere to visit, a country so beautiful and new experiences for them and their children to learn about.
I don't have cold feet, everyone knows how we have dreamt of Australia for the past 3 years but I would be lying if I said I wasn't scared.
I am aware that leaving my family will rip out my heart.
But I am also aware that my Mum would tell me to grab the opportunities that life has to offer whenever you get the chance.
Stepping out of the comfort zone is hard, but when you take a long hard look at how short life can be, having regrets is even worse.
Get the visa, give yourself the choice and try it.
I was on the phone to my Dad a couple of days ago and he said to me 'When you get to Australia, you will be crying every night'
'Why?' I asked puzzled.
'Because you will be missing me' He said simply.
Like a ton of bricks it hit me. I only have one parent left, I have suddenly become so close to my sisters that I love them beyond anything. We were close before, but the family dynamics has changed since Mum died.
'I shall be hot on your heels to Australia, because I cannot stand the thought of never seeing you again' My sister said to me.
Jesus christ what am I putting them through? I thought and suddenly felt very scared and vulnerable.
Then I think back to Nov. 11th when we were told mum had cancer. Six weeks later she was dead.
That tells me that life is very short and even more so, unpredictable.
Emigrating hard on the family you leave behind? Damn right it is.
But I am looking on it that my wonderful sisters will have somewhere to visit, a country so beautiful and new experiences for them and their children to learn about.
I don't have cold feet, everyone knows how we have dreamt of Australia for the past 3 years but I would be lying if I said I wasn't scared.
I am aware that leaving my family will rip out my heart.
But I am also aware that my Mum would tell me to grab the opportunities that life has to offer whenever you get the chance.
Stepping out of the comfort zone is hard, but when you take a long hard look at how short life can be, having regrets is even worse.
Get the visa, give yourself the choice and try it.
RT
Jan 24th 2006, 11:22 am
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Re: How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
Karma is shitting me I have to spread before giving it. Thats crap if someone writes a good, constructive post like Sam has just done then i should be able to give Karma and not spread it.
It just cheapens the whole thing.
It just cheapens the whole thing.
Jan 24th 2006, 11:42 am
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Re: How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
Originally Posted by Rogue Trader
Hey Jules, how you going?
Nooo... no second thoughts for us Bring it on..!!
A big box of Aussie party stuff arrived the other day..... complete with 4-foot tall inflatable kangaroos and a 6-foot shark...!!! Can't wait
Stick a beer in the fridge for us... we'll see ya in 3 weeks..!!
Whinging Pom
See ya,
RT x
Nooo... no second thoughts for us
Bring it on..!!A big box of Aussie party stuff arrived the other day..... complete with 4-foot tall inflatable kangaroos and a 6-foot shark...!!!
Can't wait Stick a beer in the fridge for us... we'll see ya in 3 weeks..!!
Whinging Pom
See ya,
RT x
Jan 24th 2006, 11:51 am
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Re: How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
Originally Posted by rick07
Just out of interest, where did you get the inflatable kangaroo and sharks??
...but things are so much more impressive in inches Oh well... for half-sized inflatable kangaroos and sharks, look here: http://www.partypacks.co.uk/list.asp...urce=googleppc (click on "Themed Party Packs" and you'll see the 'Australian' link).
RT.
Last edited by Rogue Trader; Jan 24th 2006 at 11:53 am.
Jan 24th 2006, 12:59 pm
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Re: How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
Originally Posted by Rogue Trader
Hmmm...... just had a look at them... and it seems my memory is getting mixed up between inches and centimetres...!!! Men ...but things are so much more impressive in inches
Oh well... for half-sized inflatable kangaroos and sharks, look here: http://www.partypacks.co.uk/list.asp...urce=googleppc (click on "Themed Party Packs" and you'll see the 'Australian' link).
RT.
...but things are so much more impressive in inches Oh well... for half-sized inflatable kangaroos and sharks, look here: http://www.partypacks.co.uk/list.asp...urce=googleppc (click on "Themed Party Packs" and you'll see the 'Australian' link).
RT.
Jan 24th 2006, 1:02 pm
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Re: How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
Originally Posted by Rogue Trader
I don't mean those who come back for whatever reason... just those who go through all the stress of getting the visa then get cold feet / have a change of circumstances / etc etc etc..... and don't go in the first place.
I couldn't imagine not going because I'd spend the rest of my life thinking, "what if....??"
The reason I ask is that I've just spent the weekend saying tearful 'farewells' to much of my extended family.... my Uncle says, "you're doing this for me....".... and goes on to explain that he applied for - and got - a PR visa twenty years ago, but never went through with it. My cousin (19 years old) has apparently never forgiven him or let him forget: "I could have been Australian"
Sooo... how many? Anyone know?
Cheers,
RT x
I couldn't imagine not going because I'd spend the rest of my life thinking, "what if....??"
The reason I ask is that I've just spent the weekend saying tearful 'farewells' to much of my extended family.... my Uncle says, "you're doing this for me...."
.... and goes on to explain that he applied for - and got - a PR visa twenty years ago, but never went through with it. My cousin (19 years old) has apparently never forgiven him or let him forget: "I could have been Australian"Sooo... how many? Anyone know?
Cheers,
RT x
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Jan 24th 2006, 1:12 pm
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Re: How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
Originally Posted by zbettyboop
Daft People Beth
Nice One..!! 
Jan 24th 2006, 1:14 pm
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Re: How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
Originally Posted by Professional Princess
Oh this one struck a chord with me.
I was on the phone to my Dad a couple of days ago and he said to me 'When you get to Australia, you will be crying every night'
'Why?' I asked puzzled.
'Because you will be missing me' He said simply.
Like a ton of bricks it hit me. I only have one parent left, I have suddenly become so close to my sisters that I love them beyond anything. We were close before, but the family dynamics has changed since Mum died.
'I shall be hot on your heels to Australia, because I cannot stand the thought of never seeing you again' My sister said to me.
Jesus christ what am I putting them through? I thought and suddenly felt very scared and vulnerable.
Then I think back to Nov. 11th when we were told mum had cancer. Six weeks later she was dead.
That tells me that life is very short and even more so, unpredictable.
Emigrating hard on the family you leave behind? Damn right it is.
But I am looking on it that my wonderful sisters will have somewhere to visit, a country so beautiful and new experiences for them and their children to learn about.
I don't have cold feet, everyone knows how we have dreamt of Australia for the past 3 years but I would be lying if I said I wasn't scared.
I am aware that leaving my family will rip out my heart.
But I am also aware that my Mum would tell me to grab the opportunities that life has to offer whenever you get the chance.
Stepping out of the comfort zone is hard, but when you take a long hard look at how short life can be, having regrets is even worse.
Get the visa, give yourself the choice and try it.
I was on the phone to my Dad a couple of days ago and he said to me 'When you get to Australia, you will be crying every night'
'Why?' I asked puzzled.
'Because you will be missing me' He said simply.
Like a ton of bricks it hit me. I only have one parent left, I have suddenly become so close to my sisters that I love them beyond anything. We were close before, but the family dynamics has changed since Mum died.
'I shall be hot on your heels to Australia, because I cannot stand the thought of never seeing you again' My sister said to me.
Jesus christ what am I putting them through? I thought and suddenly felt very scared and vulnerable.
Then I think back to Nov. 11th when we were told mum had cancer. Six weeks later she was dead.
That tells me that life is very short and even more so, unpredictable.
Emigrating hard on the family you leave behind? Damn right it is.
But I am looking on it that my wonderful sisters will have somewhere to visit, a country so beautiful and new experiences for them and their children to learn about.
I don't have cold feet, everyone knows how we have dreamt of Australia for the past 3 years but I would be lying if I said I wasn't scared.
I am aware that leaving my family will rip out my heart.
But I am also aware that my Mum would tell me to grab the opportunities that life has to offer whenever you get the chance.
Stepping out of the comfort zone is hard, but when you take a long hard look at how short life can be, having regrets is even worse.
Get the visa, give yourself the choice and try it.
I really understand where you're coming from. I lost my Dad very suddenly on December 27th 1999. Then my hubby lost his Dad, also very suddenly three years later - both very young; mine 55, his 67.
It really, really upsets me to think of my Mum (my BEST friend in the whole world) on the other side of the world on her own, but the irony is, if we hadn't lost our Dads, we probably wouldn't be here. Losing a loved one is the biggest kick up the ar*e you will ever get.
Neither Paul or I wanted to reach 60 (if we get that far) and think, 'if only.....' I know it's a cliche, and Paul only said tonight - 'at least we are here and we can say we've done it'.
I won't lie, it is hard at times and it is very early days for us yet. I'm just glad the kids are settling well. The hardest part of the whole process for me was handing in their 'resignation' from the school they loved and inform them finally that we were leaving for good. That really brought it home to me. It's fine to screw up your own life - but your kid's?
Life is a journey. God knows, sometimes it's more of a uphill battle that we'd like, but take the risk. What's the worst that can happen? You end up back in the UK? So what?
Lots of love Sam. I've been reading your blog and can empathise with what you are going through. Keep strong. Give that ginger monster a hug.
Jules x
Jan 25th 2006, 12:19 am
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Re: How many people get a visa... but don't go through with the move..??
Originally Posted by glittababe
its good for a holiday, but they wouldn't want to live there.
