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Hello all, not been part of this forum for long and every day brings us closer to THE DREAM, but what I was wandering was how your families took the news, for me and the wife it has gone well so far, but then the only people we have told are her sister and her mum both of which were apprehensive at first but now support our decision. I have yet to tell any of my family and am unsure as to the reaction I will get (i'll post here when I do). How did it go for anybody else and did it make you think twice?

Cheers
Richard & Tammy

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We told our parents at the time we made the decision, my mum is 73 and even though she will miss us she wished she had the opportunity to 'get out of this country' at our age. she has watched 'wanted down under' every day and cried every day but she still supports us as she can see the future holds nothing for us in the UK..... it is hard but you need to think of your life and your families future...

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one side of family fine, excited, sad we were going but understood why. Asked all about it, cut anything out of the papers for us that was Australian etc :)

the other side...

refused to talk about it, therefore it wasnt happening! went mental - asked for everything we had ever been given by them back etc. Told us about everyone they new who had been to Australia and hated it - hot weather, flies, spiders, children dying from heat exhaustion etc We just stayed calm and bitched about them to each other and was fine in front of them despite how we felt inside. Eventually (a year later) have accepted it - just as well really cos we are here and loving it!

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Good luck, hope it goes well

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We were lucky both sides of the family said to go for it.. and although they'd miss us, they understood why we were doing it.

We've got one lot sorted with broadband & skype, so probably talk to them more now than we did when we live 40 mins drive down the road!

Same with my sis.. talk to her more now than we did in the UK!!

I'd tell them early.. so at least they've got time to get used to the idea and you're not just dropping it on them just before you fly out.. be up front!

Sonic x

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I told my mum and that way I knew the rest of the family would soon know:D My son had told his cousin but my sister thought it was kids talk. So I ended up telling her by text which was pretty funny as she only lived around the corner from me. They were all pretty shocked as we had spent the last 14 years stagnating in the same house and it was quite a impulsive decision but even though they were sad to see us go and yes they were apprehensive too, all my family wished us well and were soon making their plans for holidays with us:)

OH's family's reaction was mixed. Some were extremely supportive other were not and some didn't actually believe that we would do it. Even when the OH came out before me and the lads I think they thought I wouldn't go so he would have to come back:unsure: Ultimately though, people's reactions didn't make us think twice about it. It was something that we had decided to do for us and if others couldn't live with our decision then tough. Sounds hard but it's your dream not theirs. Good luck. Hope it all pans out well for you.

Mx

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Why do you think it will be a dream :)

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Very fine line sometimes between a dream and a nightmare........

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The Tropic of Capricorn in your case, Polly? ;)

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I favour the singing telegram method of informing relatives.

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I prefer Text:sneaky:

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Far too good.

I prefer not telling them at all and just sending a postcard once you're here.

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I prefer the not telling them at all and leaving it at that

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Good morning, most dreams become ideas, the idea becomes a plan, the plan then becomes reality and then reality seems like a dream.

Cheers
Richard & Tammy

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Does anybody know about the health care over there. We are thinking about the medical needed when applying, both me and the wife should pass as should the two eldest kids but our 7 month old daughter has a kidney problem she has a duplux system and reflux and its made the left kidney alot larger than the right one,which the doctors says should sort itself out but will need constant monitoring. Will this be a problem do you think as we don't know if this will go against us, not that we will put our plans ahead of our daughters health but any informaion will be a great help.

Cheers again
Richard & Tammy

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Shouldn't go against her at all. :)

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We have decided to tell our families that we are going for a couple of years then returning. We feel it will be easier for them if they don't think it's forever.
If we do decide to stay after that then they will be used to us being away.

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Thats a relief, we thought that because she will need some if only a little healthcare when we have only just arrived in the country it might go against her/us.

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Nope - lots of parents bring children needing healthcare into this country. Do a search on the threads. :)

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No. It only goes against you if it is going to cost the healthcare system a certain amount of money a year, think it's $20,000 or something like that.
Tracie

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This day just gets better and better... thankyou.
:) :) :)

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Never heard of any children dieing from heat exhaustion except the ones where the stupid parents accidently lock them in the car on a hot day.
Sounds like the usual intellligent comments from someone whose never been to OZ along with " you will get eaten alive by spiders in your sleep and the hole in the ozone layer will give you radiation poisoning":rofl:

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what's even more fun is when you have been once - returned to UK and survived endless upheavel and then you tell them you are going back to Aus.

Just done this and am getting very strange looks and negative comments from some. Also keep being told I am brave (think they really mean stupid!!).

Am v v nervous but hope all works this time.

Keep positive.................:)

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we told family and friends right at the beginning, alot of tears.
At the time i wished that we had not told anyone until 3-4 months before we are due to leave, the anger, emotional blackmail and general horribleness (is that a word?) was very difficult, but we never doubted that we had made the right decision, that was about 15 months ago, we now have our visas, its all very real and most of the family have had time to come round to the idea, which they wouldnt have been able to do if we had told them just before we left, we leave in september and hopefully the few stragglers that are yet to come round will have done by then!!!
its a very difficult time and i suppose there is no easy way round it, people surprise you, some are unexpectedly supportive whilst others who you have been close to forever want you hung out to dry!
Good luck and get a crash helmet!;)

Beth:)

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I agree with the post above. My parens have not reacted well at all to my wish to move to Perth. Emotional blackmail, blame, is terrible, but they'll have to get used to thei idea. I know I've got a long way to go, but parents should realise that times are different and that their kids' happiness and future counts for something.

I really have a fight on my hands now.But if it's a choice btw being with my fiance and my folks...I'll book my ticket first thing tomorrow morning.

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There is no real easy way to do it, just choose the day a bit better than me. I told my mum on mothers day :o did not go down well at all. It was a real rollercoaster ride first she would not speak to me then the blackmail after a few chats she just began to accept it.
She came over for a holiday with her sister for 4 weeks and has started saving again for the next trip.

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Good luck guys...ours are still trying to get us to change our minds

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Was only issues with outlaws when we told everyone of our plans. Couldn't understnd why though seeing how they intend to move to Malta in a few years!

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The way things are going, mine are only going to let me leave in a coffin.

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Hi there, my hubbies family were fantastic (we told them right from the start) they think it's the best thing we could do, but they live over 100 miles away and we never see them so that was easy. My mum was a completely different story, when we first told her we were thinking about it she has a hairy fit - she dumped her poor boyfriend, gave my brother dogs abuse and wouldnt speak to me for ages :ohmy: , so we just went ahead and applied without telling her, we didnt hide it just didnt say anything, we got our visa in May last year then validated in October, telling her it was just a wee holiday to check it out (not a lie really), so now we had to tell her or else we would be having to hide the for sale sign every time she came to visit:o , so now she knows she is devastated and says we are making a huge mistake.

So a word of advice this is not how you should go about telling your mum!
Clairex

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i'd say tell them you are thinking about it. stress the fact it is a dream of yours and would make you happy. don't say anything definate until it is actually more definate.eg. you have the visa!

i plan to move over in a few years after i have accomplished what i wish to accomplish over here and i have already told my mother and so far she seems supportive. may be different when the time comes but this way she's more prepared.

good luck.

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i have read this thread with interest. will make note not to mention it on mothers day :rofl:
i know she is going to be devastated. we live over 200 miles apart so dont see loads of each other but i am always the one who is the 'dependable, reliable daughter'!! she didnt talk to me for 3 weeks when i told her i was moving 200miles away so god only knows what will happen this time! :ohmy: im going on holiday to perth at easter and will get the topic broached when i come back, ie love it out there, wish i could go, thinking about doing it etc etc then run for cover like i never run before!:ohmy:

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Wasn't sure what reaction or responses i would get with this subject but all seems positive and there are some interesting stories. Think we'll take the advice about not telling them its deffinate until there is a visa in our hand, but saying that just thinking about it might be a mistake in some peoples eyes. I know for a fact that when I tell my dad we'll both know we'll never see each other again unless we were to come back for a visit. I think it will be the kids that everyone will miss the most though, but with technology nowadays we'll only be a webcam away or even a phonecall and then theres the free accomodation for any visitors (something we never had :) ). Just been looking at the application forms for TAR, and visa application itself oh and the medical, MY GOD THEY'RE A NOSEY BUNCH...... only kidding. Heres to a life in Ozland.

Richard & Tammy

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:confused: I don't know where to start. I will not miss any of my family if I go but I just dont know how to go about anything can you give me any help pleeeeese?

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Hello all, just told grandma, bless her wished us luck if its what we want to do and agreed that it would be best for the kids as theres nothing for them to do or look forward to in this country. Even told us about people she knew who had done the same and had never looked back. Her first words '' I had better start saving up for my plane ticket''. Told dad, didn't say a word, but we did tell him we're just thinking about it not actually planning and downloading forms printing forms out etc, Now we just have to tell my mum and tammys dad, save the best 'til last as they say......

Richard & Tammy