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I often wonder if the person who is suffering from homesickness, if it rubs off on the child?
I know my husband and I have agreed that if one is unhappy then tough. We both say neither of us have the right to snatch the dream from the other.
Hard I know, but we have thought about it.
But I suppose it is different for each and every one of us.
I do know attitudes are contagious and it is very easy to be brought down or raised up by the person you share your life with.
Culture shock and adaptation, I think we do need an article or a section on the board to assist people in dealing with this.
One that is stuck to the top of the board and one that people don't need to search for.
Shame they don't do preperation courses for it.
I know my husband and I have agreed that if one is unhappy then tough. We both say neither of us have the right to snatch the dream from the other.
Hard I know, but we have thought about it.
But I suppose it is different for each and every one of us.
I do know attitudes are contagious and it is very easy to be brought down or raised up by the person you share your life with.
Culture shock and adaptation, I think we do need an article or a section on the board to assist people in dealing with this.
One that is stuck to the top of the board and one that people don't need to search for.
Shame they don't do preperation courses for it.
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Originally Posted by Juliecabs
Oh Margaret, don't get too down about it.
How far into your application are you? There may still be time for her to come round.
Where are you off to? We're off to the Gold Coast next August.
My youngest daughter is nearly 14 and is desperate to go. I could get her to email your daughter if that would help. We've been there on holiday so she knows quite a lot about great places to go and things to do, so if you're heading in the same direction she may be of help to you.
Julie
How far into your application are you? There may still be time for her to come round.
Where are you off to? We're off to the Gold Coast next August.
My youngest daughter is nearly 14 and is desperate to go. I could get her to email your daughter if that would help. We've been there on holiday so she knows quite a lot about great places to go and things to do, so if you're heading in the same direction she may be of help to you.
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Originally Posted by Margaret2
You don't know how much this post has cheered me up today, my 14 year old daughter is making me so miserable about the whole moving to aus, I am on the verge of calling the whole thing off, which would still make me miserable, but I love her so much. I have tried to get her to accept a year and if she is miserable we will come back, but things just seem to be worse at present, they have never been great since this whole thing started, but the more hormones involved the worse everything gets!!
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My 13 year old son and 11 year old daughter are really still very anti Oz, and to be honest joking aside I feel like the Mam from hell sometimes.
Its good finding a site like this, its good advice from family's going through the same experience .
We are just at the very start of the process and just hope things start to get better as really want my children to be happy.
Will show my son these posts as well and see what reaction I get
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Originally Posted by kerrieee
Hi Margaret , I actually was on the verge of calling the whole thing off as well.
My 13 year old son and 11 year old daughter are really still very anti Oz, and to be honest joking aside I feel like the Mam from hell sometimes.
Its good finding a site like this, its good advice from family's going through the same experience .
We are just at the very start of the process and just hope things start to get better as really want my children to be happy.
Will show my son these posts as well and see what reaction I get
,Kerry![Confused](https://britishexpats.com/forum/images/smilies/confused.gif)
My 13 year old son and 11 year old daughter are really still very anti Oz, and to be honest joking aside I feel like the Mam from hell sometimes.
Its good finding a site like this, its good advice from family's going through the same experience .
We are just at the very start of the process and just hope things start to get better as really want my children to be happy.
Will show my son these posts as well and see what reaction I get
,Kerry
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Hi Kerriee, and welcome to the site, it gets very addictive, think I am going to have to go into some sort of therapy to give it up lol, but you get a right laugh on it. We have just recently submitted our application so on the waiting game just now. Where are you from and where are you going. I'm up here in Scotland. I know for a fact when we get our visa and things start to really move, like selling the house things will get even worse with my teenager, but if we don't take this opportunity, I don't want to say in 10 years time wish we had, or how p#####d off would you be if in 10 years time the kids said, well we're off to australia. The only positive thing I can say about her is she is now accepting that we might actually go!!!, not happy just accepting the fact.
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Originally Posted by Margaret2
You don't know how much this post has cheered me up today, my 14 year old daughter is making me so miserable about the whole moving to aus, I am on the verge of calling the whole thing off, which would still make me miserable, but I love her so much. I have tried to get her to accept a year and if she is miserable we will come back, but things just seem to be worse at present, they have never been great since this whole thing started, but the more hormones involved the worse everything gets!!
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Originally Posted by kerrieee
hi Margaret, think we are at the same stage my 13 year old is making me is miserable as well , and my 11 year starts cries if we mention oz, They are really good kids as well,Nice to know some one else out is going through the same thing, this forum has helped me a lot, kerry ![Confused](https://britishexpats.com/forum/images/smilies/confused.gif)
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Think we are definately on the same wave length here, think we were both posting simultaneously there,
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Originally Posted by Margaret2
Hi Kerriee, and welcome to the site, it gets very addictive, think I am going to have to go into some sort of therapy to give it up lol, but you get a right laugh on it. We have just recently submitted our application so on the waiting game just now. Where are you from and where are you going. I'm up here in Scotland. I know for a fact when we get our visa and things start to really move, like selling the house things will get even worse with my teenager, but if we don't take this opportunity, I don't want to say in 10 years time wish we had, or how p#####d off would you be if in 10 years time the kids said, well we're off to australia. The only positive thing I can say about her is she is now accepting that we might actually go!!!, not happy just accepting the fact.
My Husbands Company are looking for staff, for a new office in Brisbane so we are right at the start of the process, Have a meeting on Friday to find out more details, I am the same as you and dont want to look back and say what if in ten years time,Kids are taking the news really bad.
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Originally Posted by kerrieee
Hi Margaret , I'm In Newcastle , my husband works in Glasgow during the week.
My Husbands Company are looking for staff, for a new office in Brisbane so we are right at the start of the process, Have a meeting on Friday to find out more details, I am the same as you and dont want to look back and say what if in ten years time,Kids are taking the news really bad.
Kerry
My Husbands Company are looking for staff, for a new office in Brisbane so we are right at the start of the process, Have a meeting on Friday to find out more details, I am the same as you and dont want to look back and say what if in ten years time,Kids are taking the news really bad.
Kerry
Hi, I met a couple from newcastle (going to perth but), met them on a scottish meet, they have 2 boys 12 and 14 I think, and their boys seem to be ok about it, do you think we're doing something wrong?? Also met someone with 2 teenage girls who are now in Perth, and they couldn't wait to go, they also speak to my daughter on msn, one of them was telling her a couple of weeks how great school was, but still nothing positive from her!!
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[QUOTE=Professional Princess]I know my husband and I have agreed that if one is unhappy then tough. We both say neither of us have the right to snatch the dream from the other.
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That is very very true, but the flip side is life is too short for either one of you to be unhappy. Otherwise it could come down to choosing between a country & a marriage, something which could not be analysed before the feelings are in situ. With the world becoming smaller in terms of global travel/migration, it really shouldn't be difficult for couples to find a lifestyle in a country that suits both people.
Just my 2 pennies worth, have to have a read on here when the NZ forum is quiet!
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That is very very true, but the flip side is life is too short for either one of you to be unhappy. Otherwise it could come down to choosing between a country & a marriage, something which could not be analysed before the feelings are in situ. With the world becoming smaller in terms of global travel/migration, it really shouldn't be difficult for couples to find a lifestyle in a country that suits both people.
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Originally Posted by Margaret2
Hi, I met a couple from newcastle (going to perth but), met them on a scottish meet, they have 2 boys 12 and 14 I think, and their boys seem to be ok about it, do you think we're doing something wrong?? Also met someone with 2 teenage girls who are now in Perth, and they couldn't wait to go, they also speak to my daughter on msn, one of them was telling her a couple of weeks how great school was, but still nothing positive from her!!
Just wish they could see the bigger picture.
My Husband is very keen but he does not get the grief they give me about Oz when he is away working in Scotland.
My kids have moved schools a lot as we lived in Middle East when they were younger. I can see there point of view and do feel for them but I think Oz will better life.how far are you into the process? Kerry x
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Originally Posted by kerrieee
Hi, I think I am doing right thing some days and other i wish the job offer had never came up.
Just wish they could see the bigger picture.
My Husband is very keen but he does not get the grief they give me about Oz when he is away working in Scotland.
My kids have moved schools a lot as we lived in Middle East when they were younger. I can see there point of view and do feel for them but I think Oz will better life.how far are you into the process? Kerry x
Just wish they could see the bigger picture.
My Husband is very keen but he does not get the grief they give me about Oz when he is away working in Scotland.
My kids have moved schools a lot as we lived in Middle East when they were younger. I can see there point of view and do feel for them but I think Oz will better life.how far are you into the process? Kerry x
Our application has just been lodged, well think!! we went through an agent, but no real hiccups so far, just seemed to take ages, but that was our fault, both of us are rubbish at paperwork.
I have the opposite problem to you, my kids have always been in the same house, same friends, same school, so hence one of the reasons they don't want to go, well the teen anyway, to be honest I think I would probably get much of the same problems if we were moving to the next town, so may as well do it properly lol.
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Originally Posted by Margaret2
Our application has just been lodged, well think!! we went through an agent, but no real hiccups so far, just seemed to take ages, but that was our fault, both of us are rubbish at paperwork.
I have the opposite problem to you, my kids have always been in the same house, same friends, same school, so hence one of the reasons they don't want to go, well the teen anyway, to be honest I think I would probably get much of the same problems if we were moving to the next town, so may as well do it properly lol.
I have the opposite problem to you, my kids have always been in the same house, same friends, same school, so hence one of the reasons they don't want to go, well the teen anyway, to be honest I think I would probably get much of the same problems if we were moving to the next town, so may as well do it properly lol.
Then I was Wondering if a family holiday to Brisbane would help the kids out.
I would rather save the money for the move.
Have been watching a new life down under on a Sunday night has helped a tiny bit.
Have to sign of soon , to complete paperwork for work tomorrow.
hope we can chat again lol Kerry
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mmmm... tricky one isn't it, i think of teenagers as 'unreason dressed in reasons garb.' none could have protested more than our willful little beggars!!! well lots of bribery ensued and they are settled now but it took a lot of patience on our part.
my advice based on our experience is:
stand fast in your descision - through out their lives you have made lots of descisions that, given the choice at the time, they wouldn't have agreed with i.e. potty training, first day at school, stabilizers off the bike, innoculations, curfew, groundings etc. but you did them because you knew that in the long run it was for the best. I know that moving across the other side of the world is completely different but if you put it in to perspective - if you or your husband had a job offer in cornwall or for that matter 30 minutes from your current home town, the effect on your childrens lives would be exactly the same. The surrounding area, school, home etc would all be different and they wouldn't go to any great lengths to keep in touch with their mates except via MSN. They would innitially give you a hard time but they'd get over it.
My main bit of advice though is: be careful not to back them in to a corner that they can't get out of. don't keep trying to change their minds. they are not going to wake up one day and say 'actually i think it is a great idea now,' just get them to agree to give it a go - say 6-12 months then, when they have experienced it you will be able to respect their opinions. Our most adamant protester has settled quicker than any of us - but if you had asked me two weeks ago it was a different story!!! School has made a big difference - thank god the ozzy teenagers are soooo friendly! also it made a big difference when they sussed out the public transport and could get about independently.
any way good luck (you'll need it!!)- just remember 'you are the grown up and actually you do know best'
don't let the b*^&^%rs gring you down!!
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PS we have only been here a month
my advice based on our experience is:
stand fast in your descision - through out their lives you have made lots of descisions that, given the choice at the time, they wouldn't have agreed with i.e. potty training, first day at school, stabilizers off the bike, innoculations, curfew, groundings etc. but you did them because you knew that in the long run it was for the best. I know that moving across the other side of the world is completely different but if you put it in to perspective - if you or your husband had a job offer in cornwall or for that matter 30 minutes from your current home town, the effect on your childrens lives would be exactly the same. The surrounding area, school, home etc would all be different and they wouldn't go to any great lengths to keep in touch with their mates except via MSN. They would innitially give you a hard time but they'd get over it.
My main bit of advice though is: be careful not to back them in to a corner that they can't get out of. don't keep trying to change their minds. they are not going to wake up one day and say 'actually i think it is a great idea now,' just get them to agree to give it a go - say 6-12 months then, when they have experienced it you will be able to respect their opinions. Our most adamant protester has settled quicker than any of us - but if you had asked me two weeks ago it was a different story!!! School has made a big difference - thank god the ozzy teenagers are soooo friendly! also it made a big difference when they sussed out the public transport and could get about independently.
any way good luck (you'll need it!!)- just remember 'you are the grown up and actually you do know best'
don't let the b*^&^%rs gring you down!!
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Originally Posted by kerrieee
Hi Again
I think your right my 13 year probably does feel insecure, and just getting used to UK again myself , I'm sure they will come around soon as they realise there not only British kids down under, it will less of culture shock as well this time around.Thanks for your help kerry
ps where the children home just in case?
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I think your right my 13 year probably does feel insecure, and just getting used to UK again myself , I'm sure they will come around soon as they realise there not only British kids down under, it will less of culture shock as well this time around.Thanks for your help kerry
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She is happy here, but i always said to her to treat it as an adventure, never say never. I lived in oz when i was a teeniager , my mum took us back when i was 15 so i know how hard it is, i hated her for it, i hated school, but looking back i understand now why she did it. Good luck to you.
oh by the way it cost us a new car as well, for my daughter, and i am still paying.
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