markymark

Hi All, Just need some advice. Having just got to the TRA stage my whole world has taken a nose dive. Last Saturday my wife went out to her friends for a girlie night in and said she wouldn't be long. By 2am she still wasn't home I was wide awake as our baby had woken up and would not go back to sleep. I called her mobile and when she answered I heard a bloke in the background say ( that will be the husband ) the phone went dead. I phoned again and I asked who the bloke was she said she was at a taxi rank waiting for a cab and it was a guy standing beside her. As it turns out the following day I found out she went back to the guys flat with him and his mate, I hit the roof and we had a big argument but she insists nothing happened she just went back for a coffee and to wait for a taxi. Anyone got any advice for me.

Timber Floor Au

Confront her with it or take it to counselling, or speak with her mates !

Fuzzyness

not really mate. you will have to decide whether you trust your wife or not. if not then get out quick.

S Oldfield

Think yuo ereally need to sort this with your wife. If you dont its gonna haunt you

WBB

sounds a bit dodgy to me mate, dont think this is the place to discuss it but if it were me i would want it sorted out pronto.

do you trust your wife?

Kelly T

Speak to her before you get far along in the process.
Maybe speak to her friends too.

Hope that you get it sorted out.

Carrianne

Difficult topic to discuss on here and possibly a bit too hurtful, use your instincts as only you really know.

I hope things work out for you.

Carrianne

Pollster

The million dollar question, there.

If yes, you have to believe her and make amends for hitting the roof

If no.........you have to ask yourself some hard questions, I think.

Florida_03

What does Dr Phil say?

philj6969

Hi Markymark,

Even if your wife did make a "mistake" you should forgive her at least once, for the sake of the baby and the time you have invested as a couple.

Best of luck with this one, your world must be upside down.

Phil.

paulf

as they all say, you must get this sorted before you proceed any further with your application.
No point in spending money for no reason if she has been playing away you would want to stay close to your kid here in the uk.
And it is best to find out now while still here.
Good luck.

karen and andy

Sorry to hear of your predicament, maybe you could ask someone to look after your baby, so then you could have a heart to heart and get everything out in the open.

Good luck

Karen

Lee-Louise

I think you should try to look at the wider picture after all this isn't just you and your wife, you have a baby to consider.
There are so many questions surrounding this:
Has she broken your trust before/have you broken hers.
How young is your baby? Has your wife been guilty of attention seeking? Not to be confused with adultry.
Have you given each other attention?
Without knowing so many things about your situation no-one can ease your mind.
However, keep talking to each other and listen to each other

Lee-Louise

Lany

Thats really awful, if she was having a girly night in why did she need to go to a taxi rank in the first place and y wud ther b men at a girly night?? It must be horrible for u. U need to have a long talk with her, but try to stay calm. hope it works out ok for u.