Friends
Oct 2nd 2005, 6:50 pm
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Friends
No not the American sit-com, but the people you go out with, invite round for dinner (ok that changes to BBQ in Oz), brings round a bottle of wine containing 10 litres (honest, that's what we are still working our way through) 
How easy have you found to make new friendships that you socialise with? (be it from work, other parents (if you have children), neighbours (*sings* every one needs good..... I willl stop there
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I remember reading some posts that true friendships, rather than just 'scratch the surface' friendships are something that are rare/non-existent. Is that generally true or is it that it needs time to build them up (took about 5 yrs to get a 10l bottle of wine from these friends who don't go to France v often)?
How easy have you found to make new friendships that you socialise with? (be it from work, other parents (if you have children), neighbours (*sings* every one needs good..... I willl stop there
) I remember reading some posts that true friendships, rather than just 'scratch the surface' friendships are something that are rare/non-existent. Is that generally true or is it that it needs time to build them up (took about 5 yrs to get a 10l bottle of wine from these friends who don't go to France v often)?
Oct 2nd 2005, 6:58 pm
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Re: Friends
Originally Posted by walaj
No not the American sit-com, but the people you go out with, invite round for dinner (ok that changes to BBQ in Oz), brings round a bottle of wine containing 10 litres (honest, that's what we are still working our way through)
How easy have you found to make new friendships that you socialise with? (be it from work, other parents (if you have children), neighbours (*sings* every one needs good..... I willl stop there )
I remember reading some posts that true friendships, rather than just 'scratch the surface' friendships are something that are rare/non-existent. Is that generally true or is it that it needs time to build them up (took about 5 yrs to get a 10l bottle of wine from these friends who don't go to France v often)?
How easy have you found to make new friendships that you socialise with? (be it from work, other parents (if you have children), neighbours (*sings* every one needs good..... I willl stop there
) I remember reading some posts that true friendships, rather than just 'scratch the surface' friendships are something that are rare/non-existent. Is that generally true or is it that it needs time to build them up (took about 5 yrs to get a 10l bottle of wine from these friends who don't go to France v often)?
Oct 2nd 2005, 7:01 pm
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Re: Friends
Originally Posted by walaj
No not the American sit-com, but the people you go out with, invite round for dinner (ok that changes to BBQ in Oz), brings round a bottle of wine containing 10 litres (honest, that's what we are still working our way through)
How easy have you found to make new friendships that you socialise with? (be it from work, other parents (if you have children), neighbours (*sings* every one needs good..... I willl stop there )
I remember reading some posts that true friendships, rather than just 'scratch the surface' friendships are something that are rare/non-existent. Is that generally true or is it that it needs time to build them up (took about 5 yrs to get a 10l bottle of wine from these friends who don't go to France v often)?
How easy have you found to make new friendships that you socialise with? (be it from work, other parents (if you have children), neighbours (*sings* every one needs good..... I willl stop there
) I remember reading some posts that true friendships, rather than just 'scratch the surface' friendships are something that are rare/non-existent. Is that generally true or is it that it needs time to build them up (took about 5 yrs to get a 10l bottle of wine from these friends who don't go to France v often)?
I must admit that my closest friends I have known for less than 5 years. I have 2 or 3 close friends that I have known for longer than that but I am not in touch with them very often.. They are the friends that will always be your friends, that you can ring up after a year and chat away as if you only spoke to them last week.
When I lost my husband recently it was the friends who I havent known for very long who were there for me with letters of support and regular calls and visits to see how me and the kids were doing!!
Tracey
Oct 2nd 2005, 7:23 pm
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Tracey first of all, sincere condolence for your loss - I could not bear to think what it must be like. Glad that you have found friends to give you support when you have needed it most.
I have made a few good friendships in the last 9mths, since giving birth, and it feels at times like I am a con (circumstances mean that it is best not to state our intentions yet) to build the friendship up when we are set to leave in the next 7mths, but on the other hand I think I should enjoy the moment.
Must admit those I know from Uni, we seem to have grown further apart as we lead our own lives and Uni becomes a distance past, but as you say can call up & chat if no time had passed.
I have made a few good friendships in the last 9mths, since giving birth, and it feels at times like I am a con (circumstances mean that it is best not to state our intentions yet) to build the friendship up when we are set to leave in the next 7mths, but on the other hand I think I should enjoy the moment.
Must admit those I know from Uni, we seem to have grown further apart as we lead our own lives and Uni becomes a distance past, but as you say can call up & chat if no time had passed.
Oct 2nd 2005, 8:50 pm
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Re: Friends
Originally Posted by walaj
Tracey first of all, sincere condolence for your loss - I could not bear to think what it must be like. Glad that you have found friends to give you support when you have needed it most.
I have made a few good friendships in the last 9mths, since giving birth, and it feels at times like I am a con (circumstances mean that it is best not to state our intentions yet) to build the friendship up when we are set to leave in the next 7mths, but on the other hand I think I should enjoy the moment.
Must admit those I know from Uni, we seem to have grown further apart as we lead our own lives and Uni becomes a distance past, but as you say can call up & chat if no time had passed.
I have made a few good friendships in the last 9mths, since giving birth, and it feels at times like I am a con (circumstances mean that it is best not to state our intentions yet) to build the friendship up when we are set to leave in the next 7mths, but on the other hand I think I should enjoy the moment.
Must admit those I know from Uni, we seem to have grown further apart as we lead our own lives and Uni becomes a distance past, but as you say can call up & chat if no time had passed.
so I have decided to live my life as I have learnt that it's too short to waste!!! and God only knows how much longer I am going to be in the UK!!!Thanks for your kind thoughts Walaj
Tracey
Oct 2nd 2005, 8:57 pm
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Re: Friends
Originally Posted by tracey.d
I feel the same. Have been socialising more than I did when my husband was here as we tended to do things more as a family. I initially toughtit was a bad idea to build up a social circle as such because it might make it more difficult for me to leave. Then again I think sod it, I should already have left by now but am stuck here because of my house so I have decided to live my life as I have learnt that it's too short to waste!!! and God only knows how much longer I am going to be in the UK!!!
Thanks for your kind thoughts Walaj
Tracey
so I have decided to live my life as I have learnt that it's too short to waste!!! and God only knows how much longer I am going to be in the UK!!!Thanks for your kind thoughts Walaj
Tracey
hiya tracey,
i didn't know either, really sorry about your loss. you are one brave lady for taking such a huge , gigantic step, to the other side of the world!!!
i'm the same as you, two of my bestst friends ever, i've only known since i did my training 7 years ago. i couldn't imagine them not being there for me , ever. in fact, they've already started a savings club to get some flights over!
you checked your off duty yet for the 27th?
debs x
Oct 2nd 2005, 9:11 pm
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Re: Friends
Originally Posted by debbiemc
hiya tracey,
i didn't know either, really sorry about your loss. you are one brave lady for taking such a huge , gigantic step, to the other side of the world!!!
i'm the same as you, two of my bestst friends ever, i've only known since i did my training 7 years ago. i couldn't imagine them not being there for me , ever. in fact, they've already started a savings club to get some flights over!
you checked your off duty yet for the 27th?
debs x
i didn't know either, really sorry about your loss. you are one brave lady for taking such a huge , gigantic step, to the other side of the world!!!
i'm the same as you, two of my bestst friends ever, i've only known since i did my training 7 years ago. i couldn't imagine them not being there for me , ever. in fact, they've already started a savings club to get some flights over!
you checked your off duty yet for the 27th?
debs x
Havent seen the November off duty yet but I am sure I am off on annual leave that week. Am at work tomorrow so hopefully it will be out then. I hope I am off because I am really looking forward to it. Mind, will have to be getting another visa the amount of partys etc. I've been to lately and planning on going to
. But, as I said lifes too short 
Tracey
