vikk

I booked my flight yesterday. I'm flying from Man to Bris on 21st Sept, but I cant believe how scared I am now that it's booked. It's not the actual flight or the arrival, it's having to tear myself away from the people that I love here and build a life without them in it. :scared: I'm in tears at the moment at the sheer thought of it. Are there any ways at all to make this easier? Does it get harder or easier once your actually on the plane? I really want to change my mind & chicken out of going, but I know I can't and I won't. I just feel this could be the biggest and most selfish mistake I've ever made. Sorry to throw a downer but please tell me that what I'm feeling is normal or that it gets better with time. My only consolation at the moment is wondering what the pilot looks like

bridiej

It's normal, I've already to begun to feel sad about leaving friends and family but it will be worth it.

beebopaloola

snap we fly from manchester on the 21st!!!
singapore airlines????
we arrive on the 22nd and i am excited like you would not believe,
i am socialising more now than ever!! so i imagine i will feel a downer on the way to airport!!! and i am dreading saying bye to my mum as we will be in floods of tears!!
at least the long flight will allow for red, puffy eyes to get back to normal..
keep smiling and the adventure begins in 29 days.....

4500 Times

Our flights have been booked for a few weeks now.
Shippers are coming on the 23rd Sept and we fly on the 24th Oct :scared:

We arn't at the teary stage yet but i imagine we will be nearer the time.

You just need to remember the reasons why you're going, and i'm sure you are 100% with your reasons. I don't want to still be sat in Blighty in say 5 yrs times saying " I wish we had gone and tried it"

I think that would be the worst feeling ever.

Keep your chin up

SarahB

Hiya....I'm normally floating around the NZ forum...hello to everyone in here!

I've only been in NZ since 12th June. Reading your post I was almost in tears as I remembered the day we left....it was awful. We stayed at my parents the night before as our house had been packed, cleaned and left ready for our tenents to move in. I cried the night before for hours at the thought of leaving my parents...my son is their only grand child and I still now feel so selfish at having taken him from them. On the morning I mustve looked a sight with red eyes from crying so much... I hugged them goodbye and started crying. We got in the taxi and I cried for ages and ages after we drove off. I think I had just about recovered by the time we got to heathrow one and a half hours later.

What you are feeling is totally normal...I felt exactly the same. I really feel for you. It will probably get easier for you on the journey as youve said good bye and youre so excited about everything.

Ive been here 2 months now and still miss my friends and family so much. I dont feel at all settled here but really do not want to go back to UK. This is a beautiful place and one of my biggest regrets is that my family arnt here to share all the beautiful things here with me.

I still have the odd tear now and then..... and you find yourself missing the oddest of things... that you wish you had brought with you.

I wish you luck with everything and for your new life!

Take care, I really feel for you having to do it as I know how painful it is.

Sarah B
xx

cranni

You poor thing, do you have your own family. Nobody can tell you how it will be for you, we all cope differently, all i can say is think of it as an adventure, a holiday, not forever, it helps, it did me as i left a close family [on my side] and my 3 older kids, it was heartbreaking.
The last couple of weeks i did not want to go, but had to, as we had worked so hard to get here, so i just thought , well if it does not work we go home, so what we have nothing to lose, we wont grow old with regrets.
9 months on, i fell wonderful, one of my older ones is here now, and the other comes out at xmas, i dont miss family, i speak to them all the time on web, and have morning coffe with my friend in NZ, i am on aapt, and my phone bill was 114 dollars, for a month and that was with over 400 dollars of UK calls.
It is not the end of the world anymore and is only a day away, have your crying sessions its natural, we all feel the same, my best friend is coming out to live next year[ hooray]. And i have some lovely friends here, and we all help each other because we dont have family here. Good luck for the future, Denise

swissfabs

Hey,

Im flying just a few days before you. Landing in BNE on Sept. 20th... From my experience being on the plane is much easier. the hardest bit is at the airport.... what i usually do is give my parents a call just before boarding... we have by then all stopped crying and we can be much more objective...
I will make sure I checkout the pilot though!!!!!

fabie

vikk

Hi Beebopaloola, No I'm not flying with singapore, Im flying with Emirates and I wont arrive until 23rd I'm so pleased that you are excited. There will be so much to see and do out there and so many new people to meet so I'm really looking forward to that. I suppose It's just focusing on the good parts that gets you through all of this. Have you started packing yet?

vikk

Your so right , I would much rather regret doing something than not doing it, & I would be sat here in 5 years saying I' wish I had gone.' thank you for your encouragement. Are you not scared at all?

vikk

I've only been in NZ since 12th June. Reading your post I was almost in tears as I remembered the day we left....it was awful. We stayed at my parents the night before as our house had been packed, cleaned and left ready for our tenents to move in. I cried the night before for hours at the thought of leaving my parents...my son is their only grand child and I still now feel so selfish at having taken him from them. On the morning I mustve looked a sight with red eyes from crying so much... I hugged them goodbye and started crying. We got in the taxi and I cried for ages and ages after we drove off. I think I had just about recovered by the time we got to heathrow one and a half hours later.

What you are feeling is totally normal...I felt exactly the same. I really feel for you. It will probably get easier for you on the journey as youve said good bye and youre so excited about everything.

Ive been here 2 months now and still miss my friends and family so much. I dont feel at all settled here but really do not want to go back to UK. This is a beautiful place and one of my biggest regrets is that my family arnt here to share all the beautiful things here with me.

I still have the odd tear now and then..... and you find yourself missing the oddest of things... that you wish you had brought with you.

I wish you luck with everything and for your new life!

Take care, I really feel for you having to do it as I know how painful it is.

Sarah B
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Hi sarah I'm sorry that I brought all the tears and bad times back to you. Its good to hear that you went through all that and despite it all you have still not decided to change your mind and return home and that you are really loving it out there. I really admire you for working throu it all and sticking it out. I hope I am able to do the same. Thanks for your reply Vikk x

Timber Floor Au

Reminds me of a saying.

Its better to have been a has been than a never was !

Enjoy your flight All emirates pilots are Female !!!

vikk

Hello Denise,
No I dont have family of my own, I will be going out by myself although I have got to know one or 2 of the expats from here, which have and will be a total god-send. I have no idea how people can do this without such a fab site like this. I am trying to see it as an extended holiday too, I think I'll feel trapped if I tell myself it is for good at the moment. Thank you for the tip over the aapt thing is it a telephone co. or a phonecard? I'm going to have to look into that. I've been trying to set up a web cam and headphones with my laptop but i'm not having much success yet, I have been trying skype out but there is a 15 second delay. So I'll keep trying.

Lucky you having your best friend come to live out there. Thats so exciting. Does s/he have their visa yet? My parents and one of my friends have said they will come out to visit next year so I'm really looking forward to that. I wish they'd decide to stay too. Maybe I'll have to pinch their passports so they can't leave. Thank you again for all of your help Vikk x

cantwait

Hi Vikk.

We've not booked our flight's yet but hope to be about 4wks behind you, my mum's just come back into my life after 2yrs of not talking to each other and we are just crying all the time at the thought of leaving each other now things are going so well between us, and i feel so selfish taking the children away from her now,and the thought of leaving all my close friends really upsets me, my best friend has ME and would love to come with us if she could.

I know how your feeling vikk cause i feel just the same, so chin up girl we will all be there for each other in Brisbane, through happy and sad times we will all be in the same boat, we are all doing this for the same reason and it will be worth.

C u soon Vikk.

take care paula.

Timber Floor Au

At least you and your mum made up before you left, gotta be a godsend

vikk

Hi Fabie
I hope your right about the plane. My parents wont let me go to the airport by myself, so I hope Manchester have stocked up on Kleenex. There will be wails and tears, red eyes and blubs, It won't be pretty. I just hope they still let me on the plane with a big red swolen mascarad face. I may have to save that phone call until Dubai.

Where abouts in Brisbane are you headed for? I have no idea yet. It will all depend on the work situation when I get out there. I'm looking forward to meeting up with everyone on the other side and putting a few faces to names. Hope to see you there, give the pilot my love. X