neal

:scared: Following response from adelaidegirl have decided to stop paniking and look for support instead.Wouldn't wish this situation on anyone but we can't be the first.Have been thru' whole app. procedure/sold house/passed meds and police checks only to find husbands children from previous marriage need meds(agent didn't pick up on it till now) even though they're not coming with us.Ex-wife refused to let them have meds(delay so far nearly 2 months) and so we find someone he was with 9 years ago can decide whether or not we go-are we the only ones who find this absurd(not to mention devastating)??Present situation is she has arranged the meds for 16th but we expect her not to show up.Adelaidegirl suggests a stat.dec may be the answer if this happens-anyone got ANY experience of this please. "Mrs.Neal"

tiredwithtwins

sounds like you need a new agent!!!
no experience, but Im sure a similar question got asked a while ago and I think the outcome was that you can go through a solicitor to get some sort of legal letter stating the position. Have you tried ringing DIMIA?
Hope you get it sorted.....
sue

cherry6

If she wont take the child to the medical she has to sign a stat dec saying so. If she wont do that you have to prove to DIMA that you have done all you can. I have been in the same situation, and no, its not fair.

neal

Hi Cherry6 have just posted response to you on family med. site!"Will ask the same question here though-did you cancel visa cos of this situation or diff. reason?Not trying to be nosy just desperate.Mrs.Neal

Vegemite Kids

Just being nosy, but why do DIMIA need meds for the children if they arent migrating ?

cherry6

In case they decide to migrate in years to come.

Vegemite Kids

but then wouldnt they need new meds at that point anyway ?

neal

Apparently it's in case they ever need to come and live with us in Oz.Without putting too fine a point on it both their mother and their step-dad would have to pop their clogs before that is ever likely to happen,and our arguement has been that the medicals should be done if that situation ever arose.In reality there could be years between the children having the medicals done now and if they ever needed to come out to live with us ,by which time they could have developed any number of illnesses that would then be brought into the country.As you can see we have argued our case and are very upset!!

cherry6

Well I would have thought so. I presume DIMAs reasoning is that the child has a definate link with Aus because the parents there and can get in easier. What worries me is that if the child has a medical condition, will it affect the application? Even if they are not coming, will DIMA think 'well the child might come in the future, the mother could die and the child will be dependant on the father and therefore have to come to Aus'.

cherry6

Beat me to it Mrs Neal!

Vegemite Kids

sounds as if there are a couple of germans working for DIMIA. Thats the kind of bureuacratic nonsense you get here all the time.

Good luck & I hope Ex-wife wises up and starts to co-operate.

neal

Cherry6 we keep missing each other!Have read your response on other site.Fingers crossed she'll write stat. dec.Bloody nightmare isn't it.

cherry6

Mrs Neal, I think the best thing is that you keep a record of all the correspondence you have with her, telephone call etc. If she wont take the child to the medical request a stat dec from her, and if she wont do that then you will have to show proof to DIMA (which is quite difficult). I think it is about time DIMA stopped being paranoid about these situations, not everyone wants to come to Australia and they should stop presuming that is the case. If anything happened to the ex wife the child would not come to live with us as she would ensure her family took him, and we would not contest that.
Best of luck, keep me informed to your progress and I will let you know if I hear of anything useful.

Cherry

neal

Thanks Cherry.Just talking to someone who can see where we're coming from and who(unfortunately)has been thru similar helps .It can get very depressing.Must go and do house-wifely type things now.No doubt speak to you again.

tiredwithtwins

cant you get some kind of stat dec from a solicitor explaining the situation? god, dimia can be total nazi s sometimes!!
interested in this cos we will be in a similar situation in the coming months when we submit our application. hubby does speak to ex and sees kids when there is something in if for them ie birthdays christmas etc, but can see the slapper (our term for his ex) being a total pain about it all. as long as she doesnt have to pay for anything, we should be ok!!
hope you find a solution soon,

sue