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dreaded phonecall...
well, i got one yesterday. was on the bus taking the kids home from school when my mums gp rang - she had collapsed in the surgery and was on her way to a and e. when i got there they had her in resus.
basically her lungs and heart are knackered cos of 50 odd years of heavy smoking.....she's now going to need oxygen at home and nursing input cos she wont be able to manage on her own. kinda puts things in a different light now....dunno what we will do migration wise, cos im her main carer in the family anyway, it will be put on me to see to her. not that i mind of course......just puts a different slant on things. after all the setbacks we have had with our plans to emigrate over the last 2 or 3 years i really thought this year was going to be "it". just shows you how wrong you can be. |
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Sorry to hear that TWT. After all the bad luck you have had this comes along. You have my sympathy.
Best wishes to you and your mum. :) |
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Sorry to hear your bad news. I know it is no consolation but at least you are nearby. I dread that kind of phone call from 12,000 miles away.
Hope you all cope ok with the situation. And have some karma! Binbird |
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hope all is well.
Claire x |
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Originally Posted by tiredwithtwins
well, i got one yesterday. was on the bus taking the kids home from school when my mums gp rang - she had collapsed in the surgery and was on her way to a and e. when i got there they had her in resus.
basically her lungs and heart are knackered cos of 50 odd years of heavy smoking.....she's now going to need oxygen at home and nursing input cos she wont be able to manage on her own. kinda puts things in a different light now....dunno what we will do migration wise, cos im her main carer in the family anyway, it will be put on me to see to her. not that i mind of course......just puts a different slant on things. after all the setbacks we have had with our plans to emigrate over the last 2 or 3 years i really thought this year was going to be "it". just shows you how wrong you can be. SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR MUM, HOPE SHE GETS BETTER SOON. Jo |
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Sorry to hear about your Mom, I hope that she is better soon.
Once her care is settled you will be able to decide easier about what you want to do with your move, I would just keep going now as things don't have to be decided yet. You have my sympathy as I know that it would have torn me in two to have to make that sort of decision and I know that it may yet come as you never know what is around the corner. Good luck and hugs. Nicky |
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Sorry to hear your news.
I hope your Mum is on the mend soon. And as far as Oz is concerned, if it's meant to happen it will I'm sure. Take care. Julie. x |
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Oh Sue I'm so,so sorry to hear about your mum:(
I hope she soon feels better and that things work out for you all:o Phoenix x |
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Originally Posted by tiredwithtwins
well, i got one yesterday. was on the bus taking the kids home from school when my mums gp rang - she had collapsed in the surgery and was on her way to a and e. when i got there they had her in resus.
basically her lungs and heart are knackered cos of 50 odd years of heavy smoking.....she's now going to need oxygen at home and nursing input cos she wont be able to manage on her own. kinda puts things in a different light now....dunno what we will do migration wise, cos im her main carer in the family anyway, it will be put on me to see to her. not that i mind of course......just puts a different slant on things. after all the setbacks we have had with our plans to emigrate over the last 2 or 3 years i really thought this year was going to be "it". just shows you how wrong you can be. as for the migration, well, certain things just take priority doont they,your time will come lady. take care sue, and you know you've got lots of faithful support on here too dont you. debs xx |
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Hope things get better for you all.
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Bugger, Sue. :o
Bugger that your mum is ill and bugger that it might put a spanner in the works with your migration...you've been a long time coming... It's too soon now, 'cos you have your mum to worry about but maybe when she is on the mend, have a think about what would have happened, Re: her care and carers if you had already been in OZ. That might help to put things into perspective for you and help you to make your migration decision. Either way, all the best and thoughts are with you. x :) |
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As Leigh just said, Bugger :rolleyes:
Oh Sue, you poor love, just when things seemed to be coming together for you. At least you are on the right side of the world at the moment. Let things settle a bit, then take stock, and remember your mates are all here for you Love and hugs Polly x |
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Originally Posted by tiredwithtwins
well, i got one yesterday. was on the bus taking the kids home from school when my mums gp rang - she had collapsed in the surgery and was on her way to a and e. when i got there they had her in resus.
basically her lungs and heart are knackered cos of 50 odd years of heavy smoking.....she's now going to need oxygen at home and nursing input cos she wont be able to manage on her own. kinda puts things in a different light now....dunno what we will do migration wise, cos im her main carer in the family anyway, it will be put on me to see to her. not that i mind of course......just puts a different slant on things. after all the setbacks we have had with our plans to emigrate over the last 2 or 3 years i really thought this year was going to be "it". just shows you how wrong you can be. |
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I'm so sorry to hear about your mum Sue and kinda stuck for words right now, instead I'm sending a huge cyber hug <huge hug>
We are all here for you mate and love ya to bits. |
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Hi TWT, I was in a similar position to you a few years back, albeit not with the stress of dealing with the migration process. I did however find my self caring for my mum who was diagnosed with lung cancer (out of the blue - total shock)! and at the same time going through a divorce. Sadly my mum passed away and i must say it was the most traumatic period of my life by a mile, because like you i was left to care for her 24hrs a day while my 2 brothers (both older) stood by. As i said i was dealing with a divorce too and i thought i would never cope. But i did, i had to and whatever the outcome you will too! But the most important thing is that whatever happens, you will always be able to cherish the time you had with your mum and you will feel good knowing that you did your best for her. Oz will always be there waiting for you, you will get there. I hope your mum improves soon, all my very best,
Gary. |
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Originally Posted by tiredwithtwins
well, i got one yesterday. was on the bus taking the kids home from school when my mums gp rang - she had collapsed in the surgery and was on her way to a and e. when i got there they had her in resus.
basically her lungs and heart are knackered cos of 50 odd years of heavy smoking.....she's now going to need oxygen at home and nursing input cos she wont be able to manage on her own. kinda puts things in a different light now....dunno what we will do migration wise, cos im her main carer in the family anyway, it will be put on me to see to her. not that i mind of course......just puts a different slant on things. after all the setbacks we have had with our plans to emigrate over the last 2 or 3 years i really thought this year was going to be "it". just shows you how wrong you can be. What sad news ! Best wishes to you, hope everything works out. |
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Sorry to hear your news, let's hope that your mum gets better soon. :(
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Sue, I'm really sorry to hear about your poor Mum and am sending you a big hug. Just take it a day at a time - your Mum is your priority at the moment, so no need to make any big decisions about Oz at the moment - it'll still be here when you're ready.
Nicky |
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aw bollox.
hope your mum gets better quick. im glad your there to help her through this. who cares about your plans for Oz. your mums health is more important that this place. sending our love pet. i would send you karma, but no one ever sends you any ;) keep your head up for your mum and if u ever need a wee shoulder, im here :)
Originally Posted by tiredwithtwins
well, i got one yesterday. was on the bus taking the kids home from school when my mums gp rang - she had collapsed in the surgery and was on her way to a and e. when i got there they had her in resus.
basically her lungs and heart are knackered cos of 50 odd years of heavy smoking.....she's now going to need oxygen at home and nursing input cos she wont be able to manage on her own. kinda puts things in a different light now....dunno what we will do migration wise, cos im her main carer in the family anyway, it will be put on me to see to her. not that i mind of course......just puts a different slant on things. after all the setbacks we have had with our plans to emigrate over the last 2 or 3 years i really thought this year was going to be "it". just shows you how wrong you can be. |
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thank you for all the kind messages - im quite stunned :o
ive jsut phoned the unit and she is moved onto a medical unit now - breathing is improving, heart rate and bp back to normal and she is waiting a senior review. they have referred her to the specialist nurses and will send in the OT, physios and social workers to ensure she has everything at home when they get closer to discharge. 'she only came in yesterday' i mentioned........'ah yes' was the reply 'but we are better at planning this sort of stuff now' . made me smile, cos the last time i worked there they couldnt organise a raffle!! the staff are lovely, and the nurse told me mum had been up and walked to the bathroom (with is amazing cos only 20 hours ago her O2 saturation was 72% on 100% oxygen and she couldnt say two words together she was so breathless). She has been having a joke with the nursing staff (I had to check they had the right patient..lol) and they said she was improving greatly. im going in to see her later when oh gets in from work. thank you so much for all your kind messages......xxxxxxxxx |
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So glad to hear some good news, you hang in there girlie, we are all with you.
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aw magic. great new. i will keep popping back to see how she is getting on ;)
Originally Posted by tiredwithtwins
thank you for all the kind messages - im quite stunned :o
ive jsut phoned the unit and she is moved onto a medical unit now - breathing is improving, heart rate and bp back to normal and she is waiting a senior review. they have referred her to the specialist nurses and will send in the OT, physios and social workers to ensure she has everything at home when they get closer to discharge. 'she only came in yesterday' i mentioned........'ah yes' was the reply 'but we are better at planning this sort of stuff now' . made me smile, cos the last time i worked there they couldnt organise a raffle!! the staff are lovely, and the nurse told me mum had been up and walked to the bathroom (with is amazing cos only 20 hours ago her O2 saturation was 72% on 100% oxygen and she couldnt say two words together she was so breathless). She has been having a joke with the nursing staff (I had to check they had the right patient..lol) and they said she was improving greatly. im going in to see her later when oh gets in from work. thank you so much for all your kind messages......xxxxxxxxx |
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Glad to hear your mum has shown improvement, bad luck for you all, wishing you strength and our thoughts are with you all (sending you karma :) )
Nicky |
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Oh crap. I'm so sorry your Mum is ill. I hope she recovers quickly.
Gill |
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Originally Posted by tiredwithtwins
thank you for all the kind messages - im quite stunned :o
ive jsut phoned the unit and she is moved onto a medical unit now - breathing is improving, heart rate and bp back to normal and she is waiting a senior review. they have referred her to the specialist nurses and will send in the OT, physios and social workers to ensure she has everything at home when they get closer to discharge. 'she only came in yesterday' i mentioned........'ah yes' was the reply 'but we are better at planning this sort of stuff now' . made me smile, cos the last time i worked there they couldnt organise a raffle!! the staff are lovely, and the nurse told me mum had been up and walked to the bathroom (with is amazing cos only 20 hours ago her O2 saturation was 72% on 100% oxygen and she couldnt say two words together she was so breathless). She has been having a joke with the nursing staff (I had to check they had the right patient..lol) and they said she was improving greatly. im going in to see her later when oh gets in from work. thank you so much for all your kind messages......xxxxxxxxx |
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Originally Posted by tiredwithtwins
well, i got one yesterday. was on the bus taking the kids home from school when my mums gp rang - she had collapsed in the surgery and was on her way to a and e. when i got there they had her in resus.
basically her lungs and heart are knackered cos of 50 odd years of heavy smoking.....she's now going to need oxygen at home and nursing input cos she wont be able to manage on her own. kinda puts things in a different light now....dunno what we will do migration wise, cos im her main carer in the family anyway, it will be put on me to see to her. not that i mind of course......just puts a different slant on things. after all the setbacks we have had with our plans to emigrate over the last 2 or 3 years i really thought this year was going to be "it". just shows you how wrong you can be. Take care Ginny |
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Aww, glad to hear your mum has perked up Sue. Thinking of you and yours. x :)
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Originally Posted by tiredwithtwins
thank you for all the kind messages - im quite stunned :o
ive jsut phoned the unit and she is moved onto a medical unit now - breathing is improving, heart rate and bp back to normal and she is waiting a senior review. they have referred her to the specialist nurses and will send in the OT, physios and social workers to ensure she has everything at home when they get closer to discharge. 'she only came in yesterday' i mentioned........'ah yes' was the reply 'but we are better at planning this sort of stuff now' . made me smile, cos the last time i worked there they couldnt organise a raffle!! the staff are lovely, and the nurse told me mum had been up and walked to the bathroom (with is amazing cos only 20 hours ago her O2 saturation was 72% on 100% oxygen and she couldnt say two words together she was so breathless). She has been having a joke with the nursing staff (I had to check they had the right patient..lol) and they said she was improving greatly. im going in to see her later when oh gets in from work. thank you so much for all your kind messages......xxxxxxxxx I know when my mum was admitted with COPD last year, her sats were 65% and they said she would need home Oxygen and she proved them all wrong. She was in heart, lung and kidney failure and was still discharged a week later. What I am saying is that I reckon from what you say she is tough and will fight it and surprise you. With regards to your migration, you do what feels right for you because if something feels wrong, thats because it usually is. And if you want to stay with your mum, you do it. I think Mums are pretty special and your mum is so going to prove that in the next coming weeks. And dont forget to look after yourself as well. Take care of yourself. Love Sam |
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Originally Posted by tiredwithtwins
thank you for all the kind messages - im quite stunned :o
ive jsut phoned the unit and she is moved onto a medical unit now - breathing is improving, heart rate and bp back to normal and she is waiting a senior review. they have referred her to the specialist nurses and will send in the OT, physios and social workers to ensure she has everything at home when they get closer to discharge. 'she only came in yesterday' i mentioned........'ah yes' was the reply 'but we are better at planning this sort of stuff now' . made me smile, cos the last time i worked there they couldnt organise a raffle!! the staff are lovely, and the nurse told me mum had been up and walked to the bathroom (with is amazing cos only 20 hours ago her O2 saturation was 72% on 100% oxygen and she couldnt say two words together she was so breathless). She has been having a joke with the nursing staff (I had to check they had the right patient..lol) and they said she was improving greatly. im going in to see her later when oh gets in from work. thank you so much for all your kind messages......xxxxxxxxx Aw honey, I hope everything works out for you. Thinking of you. Wendy |
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thank you for all your messages - they are lovely.
been in to see my mum this evening and she continues to improve. the only downside is that she now has diabetes, and is undergoing investiogations for 'further possible complications'. i asked what they meant by that and got a shrug.........her blood chemistry isnt right and they dont know why. even the consultant was baffled, but wanted more tests. mothers eh? she feels much much better though, but cant get far without that oxygen... we have decided to go ahead with the tra and visa application, and will just 'wait and see' what happens..... thanks again for the messages.... sue x ps - i thought this thread had been deleted - searched for it and couldnt find it!!! |
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Hope things work out well for you and your mum. It's one of those things that goes through your mind when you decide to move away, but hope that you'll never have to deal with.
Only you can know what's right for you. No one can judge you for it. Take care and best of luck. |
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Hi Sue
I haven't posted for ages but really want you to get as many good wishes as possible right now. Your family will always come first - and these things are sent to try us but at the end of the day you need to emigrate with no emotional baggage and regrets. Hope your mum improves quickly. Sue |
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Sue...so sorry to read about your 'dreaded phonecall' :(
As others have said, at least you're on the right side of the world and can be there & see her. We're all thinking of you & send all the best wishes we can for your mum's speedy recovery. Petra Ps. Don't forget about YOU |
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Originally Posted by tiredwithtwins
well, i got one yesterday. was on the bus taking the kids home from school when my mums gp rang - she had collapsed in the surgery and was on her way to a and e. when i got there they had her in resus.
basically her lungs and heart are knackered cos of 50 odd years of heavy smoking.....she's now going to need oxygen at home and nursing input cos she wont be able to manage on her own. kinda puts things in a different light now....dunno what we will do migration wise, cos im her main carer in the family anyway, it will be put on me to see to her. not that i mind of course......just puts a different slant on things. after all the setbacks we have had with our plans to emigrate over the last 2 or 3 years i really thought this year was going to be "it". just shows you how wrong you can be. hi TWT, I haven't posted for a while but i really understand where you are coming from. We had the house up for sale in June '05, removal quotes and ready to go....when my mum ended up very suddenly and unexpectedly in hospital - critically ill Aug '05. My mum has M.S. and my dad (main carer) had to have a hernia op which required 6 weeks rest, So me and my 2 sisters (oh, and my dad) decided respite care was the best option, after all it was short term - 6 weeks out of her life. Well.........condition went dramatically downhill after 4 weeks into resbite. My siste rand I, unhappy with resident GP's diagnosis, took her to local hospital where she was diagnosed with hypothermia (temp 31oC) and bilateral pneumonia. Ended up in ICU venilated for 2 weeks with the probability she would not survive due to her MS. So......house taken off the market immediately - how the f*** could i emigrate just now. To cut a long story short, she did survive and we are taking things further with this 'nursing home'. I am now at the stage where my son is taking ogrades here in May and I have to validate by March. It will be a very expensive holiday for 6 of us!!!!Things are meant to happen for a reason - I wasn't meant to be in Perth by last September as planned - just as well the house didn't sell or we'd have been up shit creek. Sorry for rabbiting on. I'm off to Benidorm in the morning for 3 nights as i had abit of a shit year '05. So cheers in advance to you all. Shona xxxxxx |
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Originally Posted by tiredwithtwins
well, i got one yesterday. was on the bus taking the kids home from school when my mums gp rang - she had collapsed in the surgery and was on her way to a and e. when i got there they had her in resus.
basically her lungs and heart are knackered cos of 50 odd years of heavy smoking.....she's now going to need oxygen at home and nursing input cos she wont be able to manage on her own. kinda puts things in a different light now....dunno what we will do migration wise, cos im her main carer in the family anyway, it will be put on me to see to her. not that i mind of course......just puts a different slant on things. after all the setbacks we have had with our plans to emigrate over the last 2 or 3 years i really thought this year was going to be "it". just shows you how wrong you can be. |
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Hi Sue
Sorry about your news, its so difficult when things like this happen. Try to stay strong and look after yourself too!! Hugs sent, and give your mum my best wishes Ang x |
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hi sue, im so sorry to hear about your mum. But as others have said, when your mum is more stable, maybe you could get your family together and get them to help with your mum, so that you can fulfil your dream of emigrating.
Wishing you love and hugs Trish xx |
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Originally Posted by jimtrish
hi sue, im so sorry to hear about your mum. But as others have said, when your mum is more stable, maybe you could get your family together and get them to help with your mum, so that you can fulfil your dream of emigrating.
Wishing you love and hugs Trish xx |
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Originally Posted by FRAYNE
Glad to hear your mum is improving best wishes Janet
Scottie&alison :) :) :) |
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