Do you think of Australia as 'home' yet?
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Re: Do you think of Australia as 'home' yet?
Yes I do consider Australia home now although I still call the UK home now and again because we still have our house and that is my home too. A bit confusing I know but my 'home' is in Australia
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Re: Do you think of Australia as 'home' yet?
[QUOTE=finsbury]I think that really gets close to hitting the nail on the head for me. I don't really think of 'home' that much in the normal course of events and then something will just come along and make me ponder. Think it had a lot to do with the FA Cup final over the weekend which used to be a day out with the lads in days gone by. Guess I just miss my old friends. Which brings back memories of places that I've once called home.
Your post hit home a bit, we watched the final in a pub in Frankston and had a great time and my BIL and myself both felt pretty homesick.
We got over it by getting completely smashed and getting home at 5.30am, next day just felt sick not homesick
Your post hit home a bit, we watched the final in a pub in Frankston and had a great time and my BIL and myself both felt pretty homesick.
We got over it by getting completely smashed and getting home at 5.30am, next day just felt sick not homesick
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Re: Do you think of Australia as 'home' yet?
Australia has been home for quite a few years. The UK is a distant memory - a past chapter.
I do occasionally call it home, but I mean home as in where my parents are.
Not one bit of homesickness ever.
I do occasionally call it home, but I mean home as in where my parents are.
Not one bit of homesickness ever.
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Re: Do you think of Australia as 'home' yet?
Originally Posted by finsbury
I still don't. I guess there does come a point in time when you do think of it as home. Or maybe not? I thought it would have something to do with being settled but I don't think it does. I have no desire to live in England but I do still think of it as home. Maybe that's just one of the things you never get over with having your heart in two different places.
Geez I'm procrastinating today. Oh well....back to work.....
Geez I'm procrastinating today. Oh well....back to work.....
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Re: Do you think of Australia as 'home' yet?
Originally Posted by hevs
Yes. Its where my heart is
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Re: Do you think of Australia as 'home' yet?
I guess I've gone the opposite way - when I came here I referred to Aus as "home". I wanted it to be my home in every way, and I really really tried. As time has gone on I have felt less and less comfortable here, and I suddenly realised one day that I was calling the UK "home". It happened without even thinking about it, certainly not a conscious thing.
When I went back for the first time I really felt like I was flying home, and coming back to Aus, even though I told myself it was stupid, I felt like I was landing in a strange country.
i thought getting my PR would make me more settled, but it hasn't. I shall keep trying - there must be a magic key to it somewhere
When I went back for the first time I really felt like I was flying home, and coming back to Aus, even though I told myself it was stupid, I felt like I was landing in a strange country.
i thought getting my PR would make me more settled, but it hasn't. I shall keep trying - there must be a magic key to it somewhere
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Re: Do you think of Australia as 'home' yet?
Originally Posted by Pollyana
there must be a magic key to it somewhere
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Re: Do you think of Australia as 'home' yet?
Absolutely!
We dread the day we have to go back to the UK.
Mooloolaba is the best! Home!
The Spinkways
We dread the day we have to go back to the UK.
Mooloolaba is the best! Home!
The Spinkways
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Re: Do you think of Australia as 'home' yet?
Originally Posted by finsbury
So maybe I should ask if the UK feels like home to you Vash?
But we have at least developed a working relationship.
Having spent nearly two and a half years here now, I agree with those who say that you need to spend at least two years in your new country before making a decision to remain or return home.
Of course, this will vary, depending on one's personal circumstances - but as a general rule of thumb, I believe it is sound.
#41
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Australia is home, England is home too.....but Australia is the home, I want to grow old in.
My immediate family are there and I feel more at ease there...
My immediate family are there and I feel more at ease there...
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Re: Do you think of Australia as 'home' yet?
I've often wondered whether it is different for those folks who are on spouse visas and whose partner has wanted to return home and those who immigrate here because it is their dream. I really enjoy living here and love Mrs F more than anything in this world or the next, but it's not my dream to live in Australia. And they are very different emotional drivers when you consider them.
Polly, the Bhuddists would say that the magic key is called acceptance. Accept totally where you are now and don't resist what is. I haven't reached that point because part of me still thinks of England as home and I haven't accepted that Australia is, in fact, my home. And that's why I still feel some unease around calling Australia 'home'. But the bizarre thing is, that the home I pine for in England doesn't really exist anymore. It's more of a memory than a reality.
My reality is here. I've got a good job, exciting prospects ahead, a lovely house and very supportive family and friends who love me dearly. But despite that, a small piece of my heart lies somewhere else, and this small discussion board journey, has made me realise that I'm probably not as settled as I thought.
And I think maybe simply realising that will in itself help. That its ok not to be totally settled here and that its ok to miss my friends and family. But that doesn't mean that life here is bad or better somewhere else. It just is what it is. I guess I'm just going to need a bit more time before I can call Australia home.
Thanks for listening to my idle ramblings and best wishes for all your respective journey's.
Polly, the Bhuddists would say that the magic key is called acceptance. Accept totally where you are now and don't resist what is. I haven't reached that point because part of me still thinks of England as home and I haven't accepted that Australia is, in fact, my home. And that's why I still feel some unease around calling Australia 'home'. But the bizarre thing is, that the home I pine for in England doesn't really exist anymore. It's more of a memory than a reality.
My reality is here. I've got a good job, exciting prospects ahead, a lovely house and very supportive family and friends who love me dearly. But despite that, a small piece of my heart lies somewhere else, and this small discussion board journey, has made me realise that I'm probably not as settled as I thought.
And I think maybe simply realising that will in itself help. That its ok not to be totally settled here and that its ok to miss my friends and family. But that doesn't mean that life here is bad or better somewhere else. It just is what it is. I guess I'm just going to need a bit more time before I can call Australia home.
Thanks for listening to my idle ramblings and best wishes for all your respective journey's.
Originally Posted by Pollyana
I guess I've gone the opposite way - when I came here I referred to Aus as "home". I wanted it to be my home in every way, and I really really tried. As time has gone on I have felt less and less comfortable here, and I suddenly realised one day that I was calling the UK "home". It happened without even thinking about it, certainly not a conscious thing.
When I went back for the first time I really felt like I was flying home, and coming back to Aus, even though I told myself it was stupid, I felt like I was landing in a strange country.
i thought getting my PR would make me more settled, but it hasn't. I shall keep trying - there must be a magic key to it somewhere
When I went back for the first time I really felt like I was flying home, and coming back to Aus, even though I told myself it was stupid, I felt like I was landing in a strange country.
i thought getting my PR would make me more settled, but it hasn't. I shall keep trying - there must be a magic key to it somewhere
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Re: Do you think of Australia as 'home' yet?
Originally Posted by Ozzy dog
Hi,
This is something that I keep saying and being corrected on. I refer constantly to the 'UK' as home. My eldest will correct me by saying you are home. When I wright to my old boss and say I'm homesick - he comes back with, you are home.
At the moment I have absolutely no desire to return to the UK (home), we've been here 16 months, but clearly at the moment I consider it a home that I've had and still refer to in that way. When I use the term home here I mean our house, not Australia yet. I think it can take time, I feel that we are still very much settling in and I'm very much missing my family which has probably got alot to do with how I view things.
Tracey
This is something that I keep saying and being corrected on. I refer constantly to the 'UK' as home. My eldest will correct me by saying you are home. When I wright to my old boss and say I'm homesick - he comes back with, you are home.
At the moment I have absolutely no desire to return to the UK (home), we've been here 16 months, but clearly at the moment I consider it a home that I've had and still refer to in that way. When I use the term home here I mean our house, not Australia yet. I think it can take time, I feel that we are still very much settling in and I'm very much missing my family which has probably got alot to do with how I view things.
Tracey
Uk is still home to me, and i think always will be in my heart.
But to my hubby and kids this is home, so i go along with it.
I dont want to go back to UK, but my family is there, my roots.
And i could still live in either place.
Denise
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Re: Do you think of Australia as 'home' yet?
Originally Posted by finsbury
I've often wondered whether it is different for those folks who are on spouse visas and whose partner has wanted to return home and those who immigrate here because it is their dream. I really enjoy living here and love Mrs F more than anything in this world or the next, but it's not my dream to live in Australia. And they are very different emotional drivers when you consider them.
Polly, the Bhuddists would say that the magic key is called acceptance. Accept totally where you are now and don't resist what is. I haven't reached that point because part of me still thinks of England as home and I haven't accepted that Australia is, in fact, my home. And that's why I still feel some unease around calling Australia 'home'. But the bizarre thing is, that the home I pine for in England doesn't really exist anymore. It's more of a memory than a reality.
My reality is here. I've got a good job, exciting prospects ahead, a lovely house and very supportive family and friends who love me dearly. But despite that, a small piece of my heart lies somewhere else, and this small discussion board journey, has made me realise that I'm probably not as settled as I thought.
And I think maybe simply realising that will in itself help. That its ok not to be totally settled here and that its ok to miss my friends and family. But that doesn't mean that life here is bad or better somewhere else. It just is what it is. I guess I'm just going to need a bit more time before I can call Australia home.
Thanks for listening to my idle ramblings and best wishes for all your respective journey's.
Polly, the Bhuddists would say that the magic key is called acceptance. Accept totally where you are now and don't resist what is. I haven't reached that point because part of me still thinks of England as home and I haven't accepted that Australia is, in fact, my home. And that's why I still feel some unease around calling Australia 'home'. But the bizarre thing is, that the home I pine for in England doesn't really exist anymore. It's more of a memory than a reality.
My reality is here. I've got a good job, exciting prospects ahead, a lovely house and very supportive family and friends who love me dearly. But despite that, a small piece of my heart lies somewhere else, and this small discussion board journey, has made me realise that I'm probably not as settled as I thought.
And I think maybe simply realising that will in itself help. That its ok not to be totally settled here and that its ok to miss my friends and family. But that doesn't mean that life here is bad or better somewhere else. It just is what it is. I guess I'm just going to need a bit more time before I can call Australia home.
Thanks for listening to my idle ramblings and best wishes for all your respective journey's.
My mum and dad have been here 3 months and go back on Monday, so i am feeling very down at the moment, thats probably why i feel very unsettled at the moment.
Anyway thats another story.
Home is where the heart is, and my heart is here with my hubby and children.
But there is just something missing
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Re: Do you think of Australia as 'home' yet?
Originally Posted by cranni
I know exactly how you feel. Memories can not be taken away and i have 45 years of them in UK, and lately i keep thinking about as i was growing up, i dont know why.
My mum and dad have been here 3 months and go back on Monday, so i am feeling very down at the moment, thats probably why i feel very unsettled at the moment.
Anyway thats another story.
Home is where the heart is, and my heart is here with my hubby and children.
But there is just something missing
My mum and dad have been here 3 months and go back on Monday, so i am feeling very down at the moment, thats probably why i feel very unsettled at the moment.
Anyway thats another story.
Home is where the heart is, and my heart is here with my hubby and children.
But there is just something missing
We tend to walk down memory lane when we are grieving, its a natural part of the process of loss and moving on. Sounds like you might be preparing yourself for your parents going. Your feelings of being unsettled could be to do with your inpending loss, something will be missing 'them'. Speaking as someone struggling with grief like feelings at the moment, your not alone.
Try not to be too hard on yourself, getting used to a new country for some is quite complex and about far more than just 'liking it'. Hang in there.
Thinking of you
Tracey