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Re: CSA
I don't think lazy half arsed Dads should shirk their responsibilities.
I don't think money grabbing succubusses should be milking dads for all they can score. Does this help? |
Re: CSA
Originally Posted by kporte
(Post 7626203)
I don't think lazy half arsed Dads should shirk their responsibilities.
I don't think money grabbing succubusses should be milking dads for all they can score. Does this help? |
Re: CSA
The bottom line is that anyone going into the whole emigration thing needs to do so with their eyes wide open and fully aware of how things work. The CSA system being just one of them. It would be very naive of me to just pack my bags and jump on a plane without having any idea what my financial commitments are, what standard of living I can expect, how I am to live and support my family, etc. This doesnt just relate to the CSA, but all the other costs that leave our bank accounts every month in order for us to live.
To find things out, I thought I'd join a friendly forum of people who have experienced similar things and would be willing to help! I didnt come on here to be attacked or judged by ignorant people that know absolutely nothing about my personal circumstances and have got zero right to have a go at me. My personal life is exactly that and I have no intentions of splashing it all over this forum for people to pick at. I would therefore appreciate the same level of respect I try to afford to others and that is to help where and if I can and keep my personal feelings to myself. This thread has concerntrated more on the moralities of the issue, rather than the original question I was trying to ask. For all those of you who have offered support and helpful advise, thank you very much. Really....it is appreciated. |
Re: CSA
Originally Posted by Yorky1969
(Post 7626230)
The bottom line is that anyone going into the whole emigration thing needs to do so with their eyes wide open and fully aware of how things work. The CSA system being just one of them. It would be very naive of me to just pack my bags and jump on a plane without having any idea what my financial commitments are, what standard of living I can expect, how I am to live and support my family, etc. This doesnt just relate to the CSA, but all the other costs that leave our bank accounts every month in order for us to live.
To find things out, I thought I'd join a friendly forum of people who have experienced similar things and would be willing to help! I didnt come on here to be attacked or judged by ignorant people that know absolutely nothing about my personal circumstances and have got zero right to have a go at me. My personal life is exactly that and I have no intentions of splashing it all over this forum for people to pick at. I would therefore appreciate the same level of respect I try to afford to others and that is to help where and if I can and keep my personal feelings to myself. This thread has concerntrated more on the moralities of the issue, rather than the original question I was trying to ask. For all those of you who have offered support and helpful advise, thank you very much. Really....it is appreciated. |
Re: CSA
No disrespect is meant by this at all, but being a woman, you will never be able to see things from a genuine "absent" fathers perspective. We have absolutely no rights what so ever. The system favours the parent with care all the time and is open to exploitation, usually at the "absent" fathers expense (emotionally and mentally, as well as financially). Anyway, enough on the subject.
Originally Posted by RenShen
(Post 7626307)
I am sorry if my post has upset you and on reflection I could have worded it better. This subject really pushes my buttons but I accept that I don't know all of your circumstances. It was the limited company bit that did it for me but yes, you obviously had your reasons and they might not have been the same as those in my experience.
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Re: CSA
Originally Posted by NikiL
(Post 7622836)
And considering the OP was trying to find out how it worked as he felt he had a moral obligation to pay for his kids and wondered if a one off lump sum would be a way your response seems, hmm, shall we say rather snide.
Do you know the OP's specific situation? No? Do you know if he gets to see his kids? No? Nor do I. Thats why I won't judge him. Its not a question of it being inconvenient to pay for the kids - its a matter of the ex has to go through a certain legal process in the UK to be able to do so through the CSA and maybe he's trying to work out an easier way to do it, and maybe, just maybe he's not just looking at his perspective. well said I mean OP clearly stated that he wanted to make sure he took care of his kids not take off and pay nothing. |
Re: CSA
Originally Posted by RenShen
(Post 7626307)
I am sorry if my post has upset you and on reflection I could have worded it better. This subject really pushes my buttons but I accept that I don't know all of your circumstances. It was the limited company bit that did it for me but yes, you obviously had your reasons and they might not have been the same as those in my experience.
I didn't see my daughter for 2 years because my ex wanted 80%, yes 80% of my nett wages as maintenance. She was also working at the time. |
Re: CSA
[QUOTE=Loch Lomond;7626991]You're talking on behalf of a friend..FFS. You haven't been through the shit that is CSA and maintenance payments. Get a life and stop being self righteous.
I didn't see my daughter for 2 years because my ex wanted 80%, yes 80% of my nett wages as maintenance. She was also working at the time.[/QUOTE Would I be right in assuming the reason you didn't see her is because you disagreed with the 80% and weren't allowed to see her. If you don't mind me asking how did you cope that has to be so hard |
Re: CSA
I can relate to that Loch, so I sympathise.
Dont want to know the details as I know how personal these things are. And quite frankly, its non of my business! Hope your managing ok and thanks for your support. All the best.;) [QUOTE=Baby75;7627043]
Originally Posted by Loch Lomond
(Post 7626991)
You're talking on behalf of a friend..FFS. You haven't been through the shit that is CSA and maintenance payments. Get a life and stop being self righteous.
I didn't see my daughter for 2 years because my ex wanted 80%, yes 80% of my nett wages as maintenance. She was also working at the time.[/QUOTE Would I be right in assuming the reason you didn't see her is because you disagreed with the 80% and weren't allowed to see her. If you don't mind me asking how did you cope that has to be so hard |
Re: CSA
Originally Posted by Yorky1969
(Post 7613342)
I am planning to emigrate in the next 12-18 months and have an existing CSA commitment until 2017 for a daughter that wont be emigtating with me. Is anyone else in the same predicament that can share there experiences? Do the Australian CSA take over my case or do I stay with the UK branch? Is the system different in Australia which can change the amounts I pay now etc?
Any input is appreciated. Thanks! :) |
Re: CSA
[QUOTE=Baby75;7627043]
Originally Posted by Loch Lomond
(Post 7626991)
You're talking on behalf of a friend..FFS. You haven't been through the shit that is CSA and maintenance payments. Get a life and stop being self righteous.
I didn't see my daughter for 2 years because my ex wanted 80%, yes 80% of my nett wages as maintenance. She was also working at the time.[/QUOTE Would I be right in assuming the reason you didn't see her is because you disagreed with the 80% and weren't allowed to see her. If you don't mind me asking how did you cope that has to be so hard |
Re: CSA
[quote=Baby75;7627043]
Originally Posted by Loch Lomond
(Post 7626991)
You're talking on behalf of a friend..FFS. You haven't been through the shit that is CSA and maintenance payments. Get a life and stop being self righteous.
I didn't see my daughter for 2 years because my ex wanted 80%, yes 80% of my nett wages as maintenance. She was also working at the time.[/QUOTE Would I be right in assuming the reason you didn't see her is because you disagreed with the 80% and weren't allowed to see her. If you don't mind me asking how did you cope that has to be so hard Oh, and notice I say absent parent. I am not banging the feminism drum here. |
Re: CSA
[QUOTE=RenShen;7628043]
Originally Posted by Baby75
(Post 7627043)
The limited company stuff was about a friend, yes. However there are quite a few reasons why matters of absent parents and maintenance payments affect me and I have "been through the shit" because I do "have a life" and it has given me many ups and downs. As I had just apologised to the OP the aggression of your tone is really unnecessary. Oh, and notice I say absent parent. I am not banging the feminism drum here. |
Re: CSA
Yes, there is.
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