Cheesed off and fed up!!!
Mar 5th 2008, 11:54 am
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Cheesed off and fed up!!!
Hi everyone!,
It's been a while since I have been on here.
We have been in Oz now 8 months and things are pretty drab at the minute.
We were burgled on our arrival, hubby made redundant, eldest son gone back to UK in October!
My other son is quite settled howeverhe misses his brother desperatley. I am really trying hard to motivate myself although I am only working a few hours at the moment.
I really love Oz and despite current interest rate rises and house prices soaring I will never give up on this country.
It has been a very hard time and no one said it would be easy. Sometimes I feel that I have lost my family in the UK because they rarely contact me anymore. I have to make the calls, but I guess it was our decision to move, hence we make the calls!
I understand all of that but still feel lost. Hubby goes to work all day leaving me home alone as usual.When he returns and asks have I had a nice day I most times say yes. When he asks what I've been upto I would love to say: been shopping in the city, had lunch on the river with friends, did a shift at work, a thouroughly most enjoyable day! when really I have took little one to school, been ignored, come back washed, ironed, emptied cats litter tray, shopped for tea and then ready for the school run again.
I just wish things were more enjoyable at this moment in time.
In the UK there are lots of family problems and in some ways it is good to be on the other side of the world.
I guess my main upset is missing my 19 year old son. He is my world and I miss him deeply. I hope he comes back later this year but I know things will go pear shaped again because his girl doesn't want to live in Oz.
I also know that he has to live his own life, but is it so wrong of me to want him closer? Financially it is so hard flitting from country to country and hey we need the money due to the wages being rubbish here.
We are renting at the moment and having trouble finding an affordable property. I am sure if I had a place to call home that I would also feel more settled.
Please tell me it will all work out in the longterm.
I will never give up and I have no plans to return to the UK, I just wish things were a little better here
Jane x
It's been a while since I have been on here.
We have been in Oz now 8 months and things are pretty drab at the minute.
We were burgled on our arrival, hubby made redundant, eldest son gone back to UK in October!
My other son is quite settled howeverhe misses his brother desperatley. I am really trying hard to motivate myself although I am only working a few hours at the moment.
I really love Oz and despite current interest rate rises and house prices soaring I will never give up on this country.
It has been a very hard time and no one said it would be easy. Sometimes I feel that I have lost my family in the UK because they rarely contact me anymore. I have to make the calls, but I guess it was our decision to move, hence we make the calls!
I understand all of that but still feel lost. Hubby goes to work all day leaving me home alone as usual.When he returns and asks have I had a nice day I most times say yes. When he asks what I've been upto I would love to say: been shopping in the city, had lunch on the river with friends, did a shift at work, a thouroughly most enjoyable day! when really I have took little one to school, been ignored, come back washed, ironed, emptied cats litter tray, shopped for tea and then ready for the school run again.
I just wish things were more enjoyable at this moment in time.
In the UK there are lots of family problems and in some ways it is good to be on the other side of the world.
I guess my main upset is missing my 19 year old son. He is my world and I miss him deeply. I hope he comes back later this year but I know things will go pear shaped again because his girl doesn't want to live in Oz.
I also know that he has to live his own life, but is it so wrong of me to want him closer? Financially it is so hard flitting from country to country and hey we need the money due to the wages being rubbish here.
We are renting at the moment and having trouble finding an affordable property. I am sure if I had a place to call home that I would also feel more settled.
Please tell me it will all work out in the longterm.
I will never give up and I have no plans to return to the UK, I just wish things were a little better here
Jane x
Mar 5th 2008, 12:01 pm
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Re: Cheesed off and fed up!!!
Stop concentrating on your problems,forget the negatives and focus on the positive.
Only you can set yourself free.
Only you can set yourself free.
Mar 5th 2008, 12:05 pm
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Re: Cheesed off and fed up!!!
Hi everyone!,
It's been a while since I have been on here.
We have been in Oz now 8 months and things are pretty drab at the minute.
We were burgled on our arrival, hubby made redundant, eldest son gone back to UK in October!
My other son is quite settled howeverhe misses his brother desperatley. I am really trying hard to motivate myself although I am only working a few hours at the moment.
I really love Oz and despite current interest rate rises and house prices soaring I will never give up on this country.
It has been a very hard time and no one said it would be easy. Sometimes I feel that I have lost my family in the UK because they rarely contact me anymore. I have to make the calls, but I guess it was our decision to move, hence we make the calls!
I understand all of that but still feel lost. Hubby goes to work all day leaving me home alone as usual.When he returns and asks have I had a nice day I most times say yes. When he asks what I've been upto I would love to say: been shopping in the city, had lunch on the river with friends, did a shift at work, a thouroughly most enjoyable day! when really I have took little one to school, been ignored, come back washed, ironed, emptied cats litter tray, shopped for tea and then ready for the school run again.
I just wish things were more enjoyable at this moment in time.
In the UK there are lots of family problems and in some ways it is good to be on the other side of the world.
I guess my main upset is missing my 19 year old son. He is my world and I miss him deeply. I hope he comes back later this year but I know things will go pear shaped again because his girl doesn't want to live in Oz.
I also know that he has to live his own life, but is it so wrong of me to want him closer? Financially it is so hard flitting from country to country and hey we need the money due to the wages being rubbish here.
We are renting at the moment and having trouble finding an affordable property. I am sure if I had a place to call home that I would also feel more settled.
Please tell me it will all work out in the longterm.
I will never give up and I have no plans to return to the UK, I just wish things were a little better here
Jane x
It's been a while since I have been on here.
We have been in Oz now 8 months and things are pretty drab at the minute.
We were burgled on our arrival, hubby made redundant, eldest son gone back to UK in October!
My other son is quite settled howeverhe misses his brother desperatley. I am really trying hard to motivate myself although I am only working a few hours at the moment.
I really love Oz and despite current interest rate rises and house prices soaring I will never give up on this country.
It has been a very hard time and no one said it would be easy. Sometimes I feel that I have lost my family in the UK because they rarely contact me anymore. I have to make the calls, but I guess it was our decision to move, hence we make the calls!
I understand all of that but still feel lost. Hubby goes to work all day leaving me home alone as usual.When he returns and asks have I had a nice day I most times say yes. When he asks what I've been upto I would love to say: been shopping in the city, had lunch on the river with friends, did a shift at work, a thouroughly most enjoyable day! when really I have took little one to school, been ignored, come back washed, ironed, emptied cats litter tray, shopped for tea and then ready for the school run again.
I just wish things were more enjoyable at this moment in time.
In the UK there are lots of family problems and in some ways it is good to be on the other side of the world.
I guess my main upset is missing my 19 year old son. He is my world and I miss him deeply. I hope he comes back later this year but I know things will go pear shaped again because his girl doesn't want to live in Oz.
I also know that he has to live his own life, but is it so wrong of me to want him closer? Financially it is so hard flitting from country to country and hey we need the money due to the wages being rubbish here.
We are renting at the moment and having trouble finding an affordable property. I am sure if I had a place to call home that I would also feel more settled.
Please tell me it will all work out in the longterm.
I will never give up and I have no plans to return to the UK, I just wish things were a little better here
Jane x
Mar 5th 2008, 12:10 pm
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Re: Cheesed off and fed up!!!
Big hugs to you Jane, I know all about missing your son as mine is back there too. It's really difficult isn't it?
When your OH asks what sort of day you have had, tell him the truth - he won't know how you feel unless you tell him. At least then he might be able to help you through it.
What you need to do is look for an expat meet near you and go to it, you will meet people that understand how hard it can be and you never know there might be a new best friend there waiting for you. If there isn't one of them, well then get one going
When your OH asks what sort of day you have had, tell him the truth - he won't know how you feel unless you tell him. At least then he might be able to help you through it.
What you need to do is look for an expat meet near you and go to it, you will meet people that understand how hard it can be and you never know there might be a new best friend there waiting for you. If there isn't one of them, well then get one going
Mar 5th 2008, 12:26 pm
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Re: Cheesed off and fed up!!!
I really do feel for you.. I too have been here (US) for 8 months and it is hard. I would be devastated if my 18yr old daughter returned back to the UK without us.
I'm VERY slowly starting to put myself 'out there', its very difficult, but i've joined a meetup.com group, and trying to get myself some friends!! I know whats its like to have ANOTHER empty day ahead of you, but i try to keep as positive as I can and try and see this whole experiance as an adventure - not always easy though
If you ever just need a chat or a rant, please feel free to IM me... I haven't got the answers but i'll always have a listening ear
Take care
Mar 5th 2008, 12:29 pm
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Re: Cheesed off and fed up!!!
Big hugs to you Jane, I know all about missing your son as mine is back there too. It's really difficult isn't it?
When your OH asks what sort of day you have had, tell him the truth - he won't know how you feel unless you tell him. At least then he might be able to help you through it.
What you need to do is look for an expat meet near you and go to it, you will meet people that understand how hard it can be and you never know there might be a new best friend there waiting for you. If there isn't one of them, well then get one going
When your OH asks what sort of day you have had, tell him the truth - he won't know how you feel unless you tell him. At least then he might be able to help you through it.
What you need to do is look for an expat meet near you and go to it, you will meet people that understand how hard it can be and you never know there might be a new best friend there waiting for you. If there isn't one of them, well then get one going
Mar 5th 2008, 12:33 pm
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Re: Cheesed off and fed up!!!
Oh my goodness.. If only it were that easy..
I really do feel for you.. I too have been here (US) for 8 months and it is hard. I would be devastated if my 18yr old daughter returned back to the UK without us.
I'm VERY slowly starting to put myself 'out there', its very difficult, but i've joined a meetup.com group, and trying to get myself some friends!! I know whats its like to have ANOTHER empty day ahead of you, but i try to keep as positive as I can and try and see this whole experiance as an adventure - not always easy though
If you ever just need a chat or a rant, please feel free to IM me... I haven't got the answers but i'll always have a listening ear
Take care
I really do feel for you.. I too have been here (US) for 8 months and it is hard. I would be devastated if my 18yr old daughter returned back to the UK without us.
I'm VERY slowly starting to put myself 'out there', its very difficult, but i've joined a meetup.com group, and trying to get myself some friends!! I know whats its like to have ANOTHER empty day ahead of you, but i try to keep as positive as I can and try and see this whole experiance as an adventure - not always easy though
If you ever just need a chat or a rant, please feel free to IM me... I haven't got the answers but i'll always have a listening ear
Take care
Mar 5th 2008, 12:33 pm
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Mar 5th 2008, 12:38 pm
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Lol sorry got a little confused there.. I'm in California
Mar 5th 2008, 12:40 pm
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