Been here two months and want to go home!
Mar 11th 2007, 1:30 pm
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Re: Been here two months and want to go home!
tracey you tell me,you are more qualified to answer that than me?what could i do?i hope not tracey...have you ever felt you could leave your hubby there?
because coming back here is not an option for me...
p.s i do not mean that to be offensive..
honest.xxxare there any singles clubs?i am not a bad looking bloke and i still have all my hair..and my teeth...!!!!!!!!
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Mar 11th 2007, 2:25 pm
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Re: Been here two months and want to go home!
There's plenty work out here and you can get many interviews although the competition may be high for those positions.
I wouldn't worry too much about it. What line of work are you in?
Mar 11th 2007, 6:50 pm
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Re: Been here two months and want to go home!
I've only been out of work for 3 months (since being here) not 12. I'm in I.T. but not the high end stuff. I turned a couple of positions down initially as I wanted to get something which was right for me, I probably should've just taken the first one offered though but thats not me.
There's plenty work out here and you can get many interviews although the competition may be high for those positions.
I wouldn't worry too much about it. What line of work are you in?
There's plenty work out here and you can get many interviews although the competition may be high for those positions.
I wouldn't worry too much about it. What line of work are you in?
Mar 11th 2007, 7:06 pm
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Re: Been here two months and want to go home!
Hello everyone
Well I don't want this post to sound negative but can't stop thinking about going home even though couldn't wait to get out here.
Australia is a beautiful country. We are living in Sydney near Cronulla a really nice part of the country. Love the beaches, love the weather but missing my mum and dad so much.
Both me and my husband are finding it so hard without the support of the grandparents looking after the kids. Kids really missing their grandparents too. My daughter cries for her nana all the time which makes me feel really awful.
Kids have started school which they actually like which is good. I am still not working, maybe I will feel better when I do, hope so.
found the whole thing about Australians working shorter hours a bit of a myth. My husband and other friends and family work in Sydney and generally finish about 6.30 - 7.00pm the same if not later than UK, so things on that score not that much different really. In general find the wages lower but frustratingly house prices higher. But then suppose this depends on the area. Sydney is the biggest city in Australia I suppose
We have been to Australia before on a long holiday and loved it but really think I mixed up enjoying a place to holiday rather than actually living here.
Really don't want to put people off coming, think if you want to do it you should go for it even if you end up coming home at least you have tried!
Well I don't want this post to sound negative but can't stop thinking about going home even though couldn't wait to get out here.
Australia is a beautiful country. We are living in Sydney near Cronulla a really nice part of the country. Love the beaches, love the weather but missing my mum and dad so much.
Both me and my husband are finding it so hard without the support of the grandparents looking after the kids. Kids really missing their grandparents too. My daughter cries for her nana all the time which makes me feel really awful.
Kids have started school which they actually like which is good. I am still not working, maybe I will feel better when I do, hope so.
found the whole thing about Australians working shorter hours a bit of a myth. My husband and other friends and family work in Sydney and generally finish about 6.30 - 7.00pm the same if not later than UK, so things on that score not that much different really. In general find the wages lower but frustratingly house prices higher. But then suppose this depends on the area. Sydney is the biggest city in Australia I suppose
We have been to Australia before on a long holiday and loved it but really think I mixed up enjoying a place to holiday rather than actually living here.
Really don't want to put people off coming, think if you want to do it you should go for it even if you end up coming home at least you have tried!
Good luck and hopefully in a few months we'll be reading a post telling us how much you love your new life.
Nikki
Mar 12th 2007, 4:43 am
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Re: Been here two months and want to go home!
Hi there, I arrived in Sydney at the beginning of December and am living in Cronulla. I know exactly how you feel except my other half is Australian and doesn't share my feelings which puts us in a bit of a predicament!
I am also finding it very hard to get work here which I know doesn't help as I have so much time on my hands to sit around and stew about things. I am very close to my family and had a good career in the UK and can't help but feel at the moment like I have lost both.
I am also finding it very hard to get work here which I know doesn't help as I have so much time on my hands to sit around and stew about things. I am very close to my family and had a good career in the UK and can't help but feel at the moment like I have lost both.
Mar 12th 2007, 4:48 am
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Re: Been here two months and want to go home!
Thanks for all the advice i really appreciate it and it does make me feel better. Am going to give it a year and then if I still feel this way make plans to go home.
Think my husband would stay here forever but luckily really understands how I feel. I was worried about missing family before I left so knew what to expect. Luckily we have friends over here so we are not completly alone but they are all without children so think it is different for them.
Have to say even if I go or stay have really learned to appreciate my family a lot more than I did in the UK
Anyway thanks again
Think my husband would stay here forever but luckily really understands how I feel. I was worried about missing family before I left so knew what to expect. Luckily we have friends over here so we are not completly alone but they are all without children so think it is different for them.
Have to say even if I go or stay have really learned to appreciate my family a lot more than I did in the UK
Anyway thanks again
Mar 12th 2007, 4:57 am
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Re: Been here two months and want to go home!
Hello everyone
Well I don't want this post to sound negative but can't stop thinking about going home even though couldn't wait to get out here.
Australia is a beautiful country. We are living in Sydney near Cronulla a really nice part of the country. Love the beaches, love the weather but missing my mum and dad so much.
Both me and my husband are finding it so hard without the support of the grandparents looking after the kids. Kids really missing their grandparents too. My daughter cries for her nana all the time which makes me feel really awful.
Kids have started school which they actually like which is good. I am still not working, maybe I will feel better when I do, hope so.
found the whole thing about Australians working shorter hours a bit of a myth. My husband and other friends and family work in Sydney and generally finish about 6.30 - 7.00pm the same if not later than UK, so things on that score not that much different really. In general find the wages lower but frustratingly house prices higher. But then suppose this depends on the area. Sydney is the biggest city in Australia I suppose
We have been to Australia before on a long holiday and loved it but really think I mixed up enjoying a place to holiday rather than actually living here.
Really don't want to put people off coming, think if you want to do it you should go for it even if you end up coming home at least you have tried!
Well I don't want this post to sound negative but can't stop thinking about going home even though couldn't wait to get out here.
Australia is a beautiful country. We are living in Sydney near Cronulla a really nice part of the country. Love the beaches, love the weather but missing my mum and dad so much.
Both me and my husband are finding it so hard without the support of the grandparents looking after the kids. Kids really missing their grandparents too. My daughter cries for her nana all the time which makes me feel really awful.
Kids have started school which they actually like which is good. I am still not working, maybe I will feel better when I do, hope so.
found the whole thing about Australians working shorter hours a bit of a myth. My husband and other friends and family work in Sydney and generally finish about 6.30 - 7.00pm the same if not later than UK, so things on that score not that much different really. In general find the wages lower but frustratingly house prices higher. But then suppose this depends on the area. Sydney is the biggest city in Australia I suppose
We have been to Australia before on a long holiday and loved it but really think I mixed up enjoying a place to holiday rather than actually living here.
Really don't want to put people off coming, think if you want to do it you should go for it even if you end up coming home at least you have tried!
I hope others who are back in the UK and "100% committed to making it work in Oz" etc read this and realise that no matter how determined you are and how much you plan the finest detail, you cannot tell in advance how well you will adjust to the new life abroad...
Hope you get settled in soon!
S
Mar 12th 2007, 5:03 am
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Re: Been here two months and want to go home!
Cheers Bridie, I actually quite like the thought of living somehwere like you in Bunbury etc, somewhere thats a little quieter but still has all of the amenities which you need.
I know its a hell of a lot quieter up here than the UK but its still busy in Perth. I'm not sure what the market for IT work is in places like Bunbury though.
I've never visited Bunbury but I will have to do soon.
I know its a hell of a lot quieter up here than the UK but its still busy in Perth. I'm not sure what the market for IT work is in places like Bunbury though.
I've never visited Bunbury but I will have to do soon.
Mar 12th 2007, 5:39 am
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Re: Been here two months and want to go home!
well if mrs astonman does want to come back,because she is really unhappy what could i do?hide her passport?
tracey you tell me,you are more qualified to answer that than me?what could i do?i hope not tracey...have you ever felt you could leave your hubby there?
because coming back here is not an option for me...
p.s i do not mean that to be offensive.. honest.xxx
are there any singles clubs?i am not a bad looking bloke and i still have all my hair..and my teeth...!!!!!!!!
tracey you tell me,you are more qualified to answer that than me?what could i do?i hope not tracey...have you ever felt you could leave your hubby there?
because coming back here is not an option for me...
p.s i do not mean that to be offensive..
honest.xxxare there any singles clubs?i am not a bad looking bloke and i still have all my hair..and my teeth...!!!!!!!!
Luck has it that my old man happens to love me more than he loves Oz, so despite putting up protests in the beginning about not wanting to go back, he now realises that our marriage is more important to him than a place to live. Bless him to bits!
Mar 12th 2007, 5:59 am
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Re: Been here two months and want to go home!
what ever it has cost you financially ,at least you have tried and come through it together.lots of people never try anything in life..
i wrote something here and then thought about it,so i edited it.
in my case if it does work but not for my wife,then it is something we are both entering into..it would be a nightmare i think to go over there thinking it was your partners idea to go and not yours,a real recipe for arguments..
if and thats a big if,it does not work out,as much as i dont want to drag my family all round the world,it will be a move again in the search of happiness...but it wont be back to the u.k..thats something i am a thousand percent sure of...
marcus..
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Mar 12th 2007, 6:08 am
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I thought it was so sweet.......
Mar 12th 2007, 6:45 am
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Re: Been here two months and want to go home!
To the OP, go day by day and each day try to find something that makes you smile, if you can't do that then I would go back to the UK, treat your time here as a long break from the UK. Nothing lost but money and whilst that is a pain in the neck in the grand scheme of things is not the end of the world.
I don't think giving time scales is particularly useful as everyone is different, has come from different circumstances and their self preservation levels are different. You may go back and then become a ping pong pom, you may go back and be as happy as a pig in shit for the rest of your lives or you may find you love this place and don't want to leave but you have to try first, not sit and mope however much of a mental struggle that is to fight.
Get yourself some work and see how you feel then. Good luck
Mar 12th 2007, 8:21 am
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Re: Been here two months and want to go home!
I've never read it as a switch flicking. I always assumed people meant that if you didn't settle immediately but gave it time and got used to stuff you would either have come to love it or definitely hate it by two years. Two years is nothing when you consider your life, unfortunately if you are somewhere you really really hate and feel ill when you wake up each morning then two years is a life sentence.
To the OP, go day by day and each day try to find something that makes you smile, if you can't do that then I would go back to the UK, treat your time here as a long break from the UK. Nothing lost but money and whilst that is a pain in the neck in the grand scheme of things is not the end of the world.
I don't think giving time scales is particularly useful as everyone is different, has come from different circumstances and their self preservation levels are different. You may go back and then become a ping pong pom, you may go back and be as happy as a pig in shit for the rest of your lives or you may find you love this place and don't want to leave but you have to try first, not sit and mope however much of a mental struggle that is to fight.
Get yourself some work and see how you feel then. Good luck
To the OP, go day by day and each day try to find something that makes you smile, if you can't do that then I would go back to the UK, treat your time here as a long break from the UK. Nothing lost but money and whilst that is a pain in the neck in the grand scheme of things is not the end of the world.
I don't think giving time scales is particularly useful as everyone is different, has come from different circumstances and their self preservation levels are different. You may go back and then become a ping pong pom, you may go back and be as happy as a pig in shit for the rest of your lives or you may find you love this place and don't want to leave but you have to try first, not sit and mope however much of a mental struggle that is to fight.
Get yourself some work and see how you feel then. Good luck
Definitely try and focus on the good things - try and do the things you enjoy about Aus, and try and see tht things you want to see. Sometimes even if you try and focus on the good things it still doesn't feel right, and thats when you have to make a decision to go or stay. I would say if possible not to make a decision until you have a job and have settled into a "normal" routine. Then once you are living an ordinary everyday existence, if it still doesn't work think about leaving.
And if you can't - and believe me there are many people who can't just "go home" for many reasons - you then have to focus on enjoying what you can, and find your own way of getting through life, same as you would if you were back "home" before you thought of emigrating.
Mar 12th 2007, 9:33 am
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Re: Been here two months and want to go home!
Funny old world eh 
Mar 12th 2007, 9:36 am
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Sorry to hear you are having a hard time. I hope things improve for you.