For all those with family issues...
Jan 31st 2006, 12:53 am
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For all those with family issues...
Although I am extremely happy and content here in Canberra, my husband son and step daughter, I have finally had the 'icing on the cake' recently!
We moved out here September 2004 and I had to leave my daughter behind (then 14) as she wanted to remain with her dad.
Contact has been difficult as she has blamed me for 'abandoning her' and I suppose (knowing my ex) that her feelings have been made worse by her dad - who tried so hard to stop me and my son from leaving (he is 18 and wanted to come out here).
Times have been really hard like christmas and New Year and specially birthdays - but yesterday I was on msn and she actually responded to my 'smiley face' (which is the only communication with her I have) - she actually asked me to put on the web cam and she put hers on - i got to see her for the first time since June 2004!!
Tears all round - but to anyone who maybe or is going through similar family problems - i offer you this in hope - TIME is the only healer of rifts and always try to keep in touch - even when you are ignored ( or in my case told to stay away from her and out of her life).
I haven't given up hope of a visit if she will come - but fingers crossed eh?
Sarah
We moved out here September 2004 and I had to leave my daughter behind (then 14) as she wanted to remain with her dad.
Contact has been difficult as she has blamed me for 'abandoning her' and I suppose (knowing my ex) that her feelings have been made worse by her dad - who tried so hard to stop me and my son from leaving (he is 18 and wanted to come out here).
Times have been really hard like christmas and New Year and specially birthdays - but yesterday I was on msn and she actually responded to my 'smiley face' (which is the only communication with her I have) - she actually asked me to put on the web cam and she put hers on - i got to see her for the first time since June 2004!!
Tears all round - but to anyone who maybe or is going through similar family problems - i offer you this in hope - TIME is the only healer of rifts and always try to keep in touch - even when you are ignored ( or in my case told to stay away from her and out of her life).
I haven't given up hope of a visit if she will come - but fingers crossed eh?
Sarah
Jan 31st 2006, 1:29 am
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Re: For all those with family issues...
That's nice to hear - glad bridges are beginning to be built. We don't have any "family issues" but I know how important web cam etc is to us in helping us keep in touch with loved ones.
Hope things keep getting better and better for you now.
Binbird
Hope things keep getting better and better for you now.
Binbird
Jan 31st 2006, 1:35 am
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Re: For all those with family issues...
Originally Posted by sasbear
Although I am extremely happy and content here in Canberra, my husband son and step daughter, I have finally had the 'icing on the cake' recently!
We moved out here September 2004 and I had to leave my daughter behind (then 14) as she wanted to remain with her dad.
Contact has been difficult as she has blamed me for 'abandoning her' and I suppose (knowing my ex) that her feelings have been made worse by her dad - who tried so hard to stop me and my son from leaving (he is 18 and wanted to come out here).
Times have been really hard like christmas and New Year and specially birthdays - but yesterday I was on msn and she actually responded to my 'smiley face' (which is the only communication with her I have) - she actually asked me to put on the web cam and she put hers on - i got to see her for the first time since June 2004!!
Tears all round - but to anyone who maybe or is going through similar family problems - i offer you this in hope - TIME is the only healer of rifts and always try to keep in touch - even when you are ignored ( or in my case told to stay away from her and out of her life).
I haven't given up hope of a visit if she will come - but fingers crossed eh?
Sarah
We moved out here September 2004 and I had to leave my daughter behind (then 14) as she wanted to remain with her dad.
Contact has been difficult as she has blamed me for 'abandoning her' and I suppose (knowing my ex) that her feelings have been made worse by her dad - who tried so hard to stop me and my son from leaving (he is 18 and wanted to come out here).
Times have been really hard like christmas and New Year and specially birthdays - but yesterday I was on msn and she actually responded to my 'smiley face' (which is the only communication with her I have) - she actually asked me to put on the web cam and she put hers on - i got to see her for the first time since June 2004!!
Tears all round - but to anyone who maybe or is going through similar family problems - i offer you this in hope - TIME is the only healer of rifts and always try to keep in touch - even when you are ignored ( or in my case told to stay away from her and out of her life).
I haven't given up hope of a visit if she will come - but fingers crossed eh?
Sarah
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Jan 31st 2006, 1:44 am
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Re: For all those with family issues...
Originally Posted by sasbear
Although I am extremely happy and content here in Canberra, my husband son and step daughter, I have finally had the 'icing on the cake' recently!
We moved out here September 2004 and I had to leave my daughter behind (then 14) as she wanted to remain with her dad.
Contact has been difficult as she has blamed me for 'abandoning her' and I suppose (knowing my ex) that her feelings have been made worse by her dad - who tried so hard to stop me and my son from leaving (he is 18 and wanted to come out here).
Times have been really hard like christmas and New Year and specially birthdays - but yesterday I was on msn and she actually responded to my 'smiley face' (which is the only communication with her I have) - she actually asked me to put on the web cam and she put hers on - i got to see her for the first time since June 2004!!
Tears all round - but to anyone who maybe or is going through similar family problems - i offer you this in hope - TIME is the only healer of rifts and always try to keep in touch - even when you are ignored ( or in my case told to stay away from her and out of her life).
I haven't given up hope of a visit if she will come - but fingers crossed eh?
Sarah
We moved out here September 2004 and I had to leave my daughter behind (then 14) as she wanted to remain with her dad.
Contact has been difficult as she has blamed me for 'abandoning her' and I suppose (knowing my ex) that her feelings have been made worse by her dad - who tried so hard to stop me and my son from leaving (he is 18 and wanted to come out here).
Times have been really hard like christmas and New Year and specially birthdays - but yesterday I was on msn and she actually responded to my 'smiley face' (which is the only communication with her I have) - she actually asked me to put on the web cam and she put hers on - i got to see her for the first time since June 2004!!
Tears all round - but to anyone who maybe or is going through similar family problems - i offer you this in hope - TIME is the only healer of rifts and always try to keep in touch - even when you are ignored ( or in my case told to stay away from her and out of her life).
I haven't given up hope of a visit if she will come - but fingers crossed eh?
Sarah
Glad your daughter has come around and is talking to you.
Jan 31st 2006, 4:20 am
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Re: For all those with family issues...
Originally Posted by sasbear
Although I am extremely happy and content here in Canberra, my husband son and step daughter, I have finally had the 'icing on the cake' recently!
We moved out here September 2004 and I had to leave my daughter behind (then 14) as she wanted to remain with her dad.
Contact has been difficult as she has blamed me for 'abandoning her' and I suppose (knowing my ex) that her feelings have been made worse by her dad - who tried so hard to stop me and my son from leaving (he is 18 and wanted to come out here).
Times have been really hard like christmas and New Year and specially birthdays - but yesterday I was on msn and she actually responded to my 'smiley face' (which is the only communication with her I have) - she actually asked me to put on the web cam and she put hers on - i got to see her for the first time since June 2004!!
Tears all round - but to anyone who maybe or is going through similar family problems - i offer you this in hope - TIME is the only healer of rifts and always try to keep in touch - even when you are ignored ( or in my case told to stay away from her and out of her life).
I haven't given up hope of a visit if she will come - but fingers crossed eh?
Sarah
We moved out here September 2004 and I had to leave my daughter behind (then 14) as she wanted to remain with her dad.
Contact has been difficult as she has blamed me for 'abandoning her' and I suppose (knowing my ex) that her feelings have been made worse by her dad - who tried so hard to stop me and my son from leaving (he is 18 and wanted to come out here).
Times have been really hard like christmas and New Year and specially birthdays - but yesterday I was on msn and she actually responded to my 'smiley face' (which is the only communication with her I have) - she actually asked me to put on the web cam and she put hers on - i got to see her for the first time since June 2004!!
Tears all round - but to anyone who maybe or is going through similar family problems - i offer you this in hope - TIME is the only healer of rifts and always try to keep in touch - even when you are ignored ( or in my case told to stay away from her and out of her life).
I haven't given up hope of a visit if she will come - but fingers crossed eh?
Sarah
Hope that you continue to enjoy more time chatting with her - who knows where it will lead? Sue
Jan 31st 2006, 4:29 am
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Re: For all those with family issues...
Your story warmed my cockles. I hope your future conversations bring happiness, and some closeness.
Jan 31st 2006, 6:25 am
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Re: For all those with family issues...
Originally Posted by sasbear
Although I am extremely happy and content here in Canberra, my husband son and step daughter, I have finally had the 'icing on the cake' recently!
We moved out here September 2004 and I had to leave my daughter behind (then 14) as she wanted to remain with her dad.
Contact has been difficult as she has blamed me for 'abandoning her' and I suppose (knowing my ex) that her feelings have been made worse by her dad - who tried so hard to stop me and my son from leaving (he is 18 and wanted to come out here).
Times have been really hard like christmas and New Year and specially birthdays - but yesterday I was on msn and she actually responded to my 'smiley face' (which is the only communication with her I have) - she actually asked me to put on the web cam and she put hers on - i got to see her for the first time since June 2004!!
Tears all round - but to anyone who maybe or is going through similar family problems - i offer you this in hope - TIME is the only healer of rifts and always try to keep in touch - even when you are ignored ( or in my case told to stay away from her and out of her life).
I haven't given up hope of a visit if she will come - but fingers crossed eh?
Sarah
We moved out here September 2004 and I had to leave my daughter behind (then 14) as she wanted to remain with her dad.
Contact has been difficult as she has blamed me for 'abandoning her' and I suppose (knowing my ex) that her feelings have been made worse by her dad - who tried so hard to stop me and my son from leaving (he is 18 and wanted to come out here).
Times have been really hard like christmas and New Year and specially birthdays - but yesterday I was on msn and she actually responded to my 'smiley face' (which is the only communication with her I have) - she actually asked me to put on the web cam and she put hers on - i got to see her for the first time since June 2004!!
Tears all round - but to anyone who maybe or is going through similar family problems - i offer you this in hope - TIME is the only healer of rifts and always try to keep in touch - even when you are ignored ( or in my case told to stay away from her and out of her life).
I haven't given up hope of a visit if she will come - but fingers crossed eh?
Sarah
It must have been a heart-breaking time for you over the past few years so I can only imagine how chuffed you were that things are finally looking up.
That's great news
Jan 31st 2006, 8:05 am
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Re: For all those with family issues...
Originally Posted by Bella Donna
That's great news, Sarah. Don't give up hope that you will resolve things between you. As your daughter gets older she may view things differently and change her mind. Kids never think the same at 18 as they do at 14. Hope that you continue to enjoy more time chatting with her - who knows where it will lead?
Sue
Hope that you continue to enjoy more time chatting with her - who knows where it will lead? Sue
I'm so pleased for you that she's starting to reach out - it must have been a very painful couple of years for your family but perhaps this is the corner turned now.
Nicky
Jan 31st 2006, 8:11 am
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Re: For all those with family issues...
Were gunna have this sort of thing, so that gives us hope. Thank you for sharing your story.
yours Lace xx
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Jan 31st 2006, 9:31 am
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oh sarah, things might be definately turning around then??? i do hope so, you've gone through such a lot!
keep smiling
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Jan 31st 2006, 9:38 am
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Re: For all those with family issues...
Originally Posted by sasbear
Although I am extremely happy and content here in Canberra, my husband son and step daughter, I have finally had the 'icing on the cake' recently!
We moved out here September 2004 and I had to leave my daughter behind (then 14) as she wanted to remain with her dad.
Contact has been difficult as she has blamed me for 'abandoning her' and I suppose (knowing my ex) that her feelings have been made worse by her dad - who tried so hard to stop me and my son from leaving (he is 18 and wanted to come out here).
Times have been really hard like christmas and New Year and specially birthdays - but yesterday I was on msn and she actually responded to my 'smiley face' (which is the only communication with her I have) - she actually asked me to put on the web cam and she put hers on - i got to see her for the first time since June 2004!!
Tears all round - but to anyone who maybe or is going through similar family problems - i offer you this in hope - TIME is the only healer of rifts and always try to keep in touch - even when you are ignored ( or in my case told to stay away from her and out of her life).
I haven't given up hope of a visit if she will come - but fingers crossed eh?
Sarah
We moved out here September 2004 and I had to leave my daughter behind (then 14) as she wanted to remain with her dad.
Contact has been difficult as she has blamed me for 'abandoning her' and I suppose (knowing my ex) that her feelings have been made worse by her dad - who tried so hard to stop me and my son from leaving (he is 18 and wanted to come out here).
Times have been really hard like christmas and New Year and specially birthdays - but yesterday I was on msn and she actually responded to my 'smiley face' (which is the only communication with her I have) - she actually asked me to put on the web cam and she put hers on - i got to see her for the first time since June 2004!!
Tears all round - but to anyone who maybe or is going through similar family problems - i offer you this in hope - TIME is the only healer of rifts and always try to keep in touch - even when you are ignored ( or in my case told to stay away from her and out of her life).
I haven't given up hope of a visit if she will come - but fingers crossed eh?
Sarah
Thanks for sharing,
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Jan 31st 2006, 8:16 pm
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Thank you for all your kind words - it has been hard - but their are worse things in life I suppose - but it is hard to think of any when you feel so distraught !
Thank you again everyone out there feeling much more positive and determined that things will work out - eventually.
Sarah
Canberra
Thank you again everyone out there
feeling much more positive and determined that things will work out - eventually.Sarah
Canberra
Jan 31st 2006, 8:21 pm
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Re: For all those with family issues...
Originally Posted by sasbear
Thank you for all your kind words - it has been hard - but their are worse things in life I suppose - but it is hard to think of any when you feel so distraught !
Thank you again everyone out there feeling much more positive and determined that things will work out - eventually.
Sarah
Canberra
Thank you again everyone out there
feeling much more positive and determined that things will work out - eventually.Sarah
Canberra
Aww Sarah, it brought a tear to my eye reading your post. I hope this is the start of positive beginnings for you both, I really do.
Jackie x
Jan 31st 2006, 8:26 pm
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Re: For all those with family issues...
Originally Posted by sasbear
Although I am extremely happy and content here in Canberra, my husband son and step daughter, I have finally had the 'icing on the cake' recently!
We moved out here September 2004 and I had to leave my daughter behind (then 14) as she wanted to remain with her dad.
Contact has been difficult as she has blamed me for 'abandoning her' and I suppose (knowing my ex) that her feelings have been made worse by her dad - who tried so hard to stop me and my son from leaving (he is 18 and wanted to come out here).
Times have been really hard like christmas and New Year and specially birthdays - but yesterday I was on msn and she actually responded to my 'smiley face' (which is the only communication with her I have) - she actually asked me to put on the web cam and she put hers on - i got to see her for the first time since June 2004!!
Tears all round - but to anyone who maybe or is going through similar family problems - i offer you this in hope - TIME is the only healer of rifts and always try to keep in touch - even when you are ignored ( or in my case told to stay away from her and out of her life).
I haven't given up hope of a visit if she will come - but fingers crossed eh?
Sarah
We moved out here September 2004 and I had to leave my daughter behind (then 14) as she wanted to remain with her dad.
Contact has been difficult as she has blamed me for 'abandoning her' and I suppose (knowing my ex) that her feelings have been made worse by her dad - who tried so hard to stop me and my son from leaving (he is 18 and wanted to come out here).
Times have been really hard like christmas and New Year and specially birthdays - but yesterday I was on msn and she actually responded to my 'smiley face' (which is the only communication with her I have) - she actually asked me to put on the web cam and she put hers on - i got to see her for the first time since June 2004!!
Tears all round - but to anyone who maybe or is going through similar family problems - i offer you this in hope - TIME is the only healer of rifts and always try to keep in touch - even when you are ignored ( or in my case told to stay away from her and out of her life).
I haven't given up hope of a visit if she will come - but fingers crossed eh?
Sarah
Hi
I went through something similar with my dad and he only lived a few mile away. We fell out when I was 15 and we didn't speak until I was 29.
I'd rather not say on here why we fell out, but I have to say the best thing I did was getting in touch again. Sadly he passed away with Cancer 6 months after we got back in touch, but it taught me that life's too short to hold grudges.
Make the extra effort to get to know her in what ever way you can. I guarantee it is worth it.
I regret all the years we didn't speak, all over something which really didn't matter anyway.
Good luck with it.
Wendy
Jan 31st 2006, 8:37 pm
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Re: For all those with family issues...
Originally Posted by WendyC
Hi
I went through something similar with my dad and he only lived a few mile away. We fell out when I was 15 and we didn't speak until I was 29.
I'd rather not say on here why we fell out, but I have to say the best thing I did was getting in touch again. Sadly he passed away with Cancer 6 months after we got back in touch, but it taught me that life's too short to hold grudges.
Make the extra effort to get to know her in what ever way you can. I guarantee it is worth it.
I regret all the years we didn't speak, all over something which really didn't matter anyway.
Good luck with it.
Wendy
I went through something similar with my dad and he only lived a few mile away. We fell out when I was 15 and we didn't speak until I was 29.
I'd rather not say on here why we fell out, but I have to say the best thing I did was getting in touch again. Sadly he passed away with Cancer 6 months after we got back in touch, but it taught me that life's too short to hold grudges.
Make the extra effort to get to know her in what ever way you can. I guarantee it is worth it.
I regret all the years we didn't speak, all over something which really didn't matter anyway.
Good luck with it.
Wendy
Aww Wendy, you are so right. Life is much too short isn't it? You must have been very brave to get intouch with your dad again after all that time. At least you were with him when he needed you most.
Think we need a "crying buckets of tears" icon please mods.