wheatsheaf42

I am sure everyone here is agreed that a medical approach would be a great idea. Can I just say though that if I were him I would be very anti and he wouldn't want to admit to psycholgical/mental problems because of the stigma attached to the label. Men do have a tendancy to refuse to accept such help- no doubt I over-generalise. I feel sorry for the family but suspect the mind is set in coming back. One possibility is to see what would happen if he came back on his own for a month's break. What I wouldn't want to do is uproot the whole clan if there is the chance it isn't all as it seems.

redlion

Jesus it only seems like two mins since i remember you all getting the go-ahead to set off, im so sorry you now find yourself in this predicament. I am sure you will try every avenue before you make your decision to stay or return, whatever choice you make i wish you all the very best of luck in whatever comes next. Take care.

Nev.

Angela Marie

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I am really sorry to read your post, but would like to say although your (quite rightly worried about your OH) - please dont forget your own wellbeing in this situation.

Hope you sort out either way
Angela

Weasy

Oh my lord H, I saw on the other forum that you were looking for flights home and did wonder what was wrong. I'm so sorry to hear about your problems and I do hope you'll consider talking to your OH about getting some help before you go to yet more expense and upheaval to move back to the UK.

If you do still decide to go back I'd just like to wish you all the luck in the world and hope that that resolves things.

Lou
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Tableland

According to your posts you have been in Adelaide about a month - is this right? This is terrible. You're sure you can't get your OH any further help? A phobia is a serious business and has to be treated, but the problem is this can take a long time. Moving all the way back after what effectively amounts to just a few days seems a very radical response. Has he always hasthese fears or did they develeop in the last few weeks? Herpetophobia and ophidiophobia are pretty common.

Has he talked to neighbours, etc. about the extremely low risk of danger? All this sounds like rational advice, but then phobias are by their very nature irrational. All I can do is hope you find a way to deal with it and enjoy your newlife, and if this is impossible, then good luck with your move back to the UK.

emmals

Well at least you can take the experience with you and never say you were too scared to try a new life.....get on that flight with your heads held high,concentrate on your marraige at the end of the day it is those we love that has the most importance in our life...........well done for doing it

Grayling

Phobias are fairly easy to treat.
I have treated hundreds of people with such conditions.

For Adelaide try here:

http://www.aacbtsa.asn.au/

G

TeresaG

I'm really sorry to hear that things aren't working out for you.

I do agree with what the others have said though and that perhaps some counselling for his phobia would be a good idea. My aunt lives in Canada and for a long time had a real phobia of snakes and really wanted to come back to the UK. She was convinced to have some counselling and it has really helped her. It might be worth a try for your husband and could be a good route to go down before the upheaval of moving back here again.

I hope that you are both happy whatever you decide.

Vash the Stampede

Speaking as someone who suffers from severe acrophobia, you and your husband both have my sympathy. I know from experience that phobias can be utterly debilitating.

I concur with the advice given by others; seek medical help locally, and see how that works out. Give yourselves a reasonable timeframe for improvement/resolution. Returning home is a perfectly sensible option, but only as a last resort IMHO.

Best of British luck, whatever you do.

Lord Pom Percy

If the Phobia could be cured would you both still want to stay in Adelaide, are there other reasons as well that you want to go back to the Uk or don't like OZ or Adelaide?

busterboy

..and to you too!

Vash the Stampede

Don't worry about me, mate; acrophobia is dead easy to manage.

Thanks for the thought, though.

busterboy

I thought you has mistyped agarophobia...yup you can avoid your particular fear where you can....agarophobia...cripes, very difficult!

mark 'n' joe

I agree, please try and get your OH some therapy or try hypnotherapy. Its got to be worth a go before the expense and upheavel of coming back to the Uk.

I hope all works out for you.

Joex

mark 'n' joe

I had to look up acrophobia, you learn something new everyday! All the best.

Joex