Originally Posted by Cain0

Ive also looked at the new points immigration system that may be implemented in the USA by 2018. I am working to achieve as many points as possible before that time.

Originally Posted by SilverEyes

North Carolina is a very nice place to live. You'll find that all parts of the United States have very distinct cultures. The South is (in general) a friendly place with a culture that emphasizes family, community, church, and civic duty. That is a broad generalization and though it is the culture's template, it will be played out differently (or not at all), depending on many, many social and personal factors.

North Carolina is not in the Deep South. It is influenced a bit by New England. The mix of Southern and New England culture is lovely and can make a strong impression. My husband lived there for years when he was younger and a part of him still thinks of it as home.

Being there just shy of three months was probably painful because you were there just long enough to have made connections, but not long enough to experience all the number of annoying, irritating experiences that are a part of everyday life. Such as dealing with assholes and dickheads - which are definitely everywhere. That being the case, you are bound to have made some special memories while there.

Also, I can definitely see how you would find Americans exceptionally open, tuned in, and interested in you. By and large, Americans are smitten with the British. On top of being (I believe you said) English, you seem to be young, healthy, intelligent, and socially engaging. Combine all of these things, and yes, you are going to be a very popular young man. It would be hard for anyone to give that up.

Visiting somewhere that feels so welcoming, establishing friendships and connections, being mentally, physically and socially engaged and happy - all of that will most certainly lead to a sense of happiness and general life satisfaction. Of course you feel unhappy right now. It's understandable. But of course things are going to get better. The solution? Keep in mind your goal to move there. Work towards it. With hard work and careful planning, many things are possible.

I would not concentrate on despondency. I would use that feeling of connection and the memory of happy times to fuel my drive to move there. Keep your eye on your goal. That is all. They say that (perhaps at times wildly unrealistic) optimism is a very American quality. Well adopt that quality. Keep in touch with your friends there. Visit as often as you can. Plan a visit now in order to give yourself something to work towards. You say you feel a strong emotional connection to American women. Perhaps a romance will grow naturally between you and a young lady in that country. You can stay in touch easily these days through the internet. You can visit her and your friends and develop that relationship. There are many possibilities and, I believe, always a solution, when the motivation is strong enough.

Good luck to you.

Originally Posted by Golden Boy

He's spot on there, Americans absolutely adore us, at first, but after three or four months the novelty wears off and your accent and uniquely British mannerisms will start to gate on them

Originally Posted by Golden Boy

He's spot on there, Americans absolutely adore us, at first, but after three or four months the novelty wears off and your accent and uniquely British mannerisms will start to gate on them, then............The party's over

So what you experienced there before was not completely real

Originally Posted by MMcD

Cain0....
If I were a few decades younger and single - I'd be your American girfriend

You sound great!

Originally Posted by Cain0

Thanks for that information! I will definitely bring this up with my University to see if it is possible. I do Business which is obviously pretty common so it shouldn't be that difficult to arrange. I just don't want to pay American fees as I desperately can't afford it.

Originally Posted by Golden Boy

... Its hard to go back and conform to a very narrow band of socially acceptable behaviors, back to dutifully take your place in a ridged class structure, back to the doom and gloom of the U.K.

Originally Posted by Cain0

Yes, I am currently doing Business Management at Manchester University and I am probably going to try to get a job at one of the big 4 after my degree (PwC, KPMG ect). I achieved a first degree in my first year and I am currently looking at work placements in the US for my third year.

Originally Posted by Cain0

Thanks, thats great advice. I do plan on travelling and I want to get a job where I can go all over.

Originally Posted by Bob

Oh, I thought you were talking about the US there for a second

Originally Posted by hungryhorace

It's as if the OP thinks that there isn't a class structure here in the US. Whilst it's not as defined - or as discussed - as it is in England, there is a definite class structure. ....

Originally Posted by Bob

Speaking of, in-laws knew someone who was offered a million bucks for their land last year as someone wanted to build a golf course.They refused, saying they didn't know where they'd put their trailer

Originally Posted by Golden Boy

.... he needs to stay in the South, or go out West. I prefer the West. Get a wife down south, then move her out West.

Thats a plan

Originally Posted by Pulaski

Oh no! There's definitely social split that divides the US population: those who live in trailers, and those who don't!

Originally Posted by Golden Boy

He's spot on there, Americans absolutely adore us, at first, but after three or four months the novelty wears off