L2 to North Carolina, possibly pregnant at 42
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Re: L2 to North Carolina, possibly pregnant at 42
Hi rbackhouse, Asheville 28803.
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Re: L2 to North Carolina, possibly pregnant at 42
Ok, can't help you much with Ashville. I'm in the Raleigh/Durham/Chapel Hill in central NC.
As far as meeting people etc http://www.meetup.com/ is generally recommended as a good starting point. They have quite a few British Expat groups in many areas if that interests you but also many other types of groups too.
As far as meeting people etc http://www.meetup.com/ is generally recommended as a good starting point. They have quite a few British Expat groups in many areas if that interests you but also many other types of groups too.
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Re: L2 to North Carolina, possibly pregnant at 42
Thanks Nutmegger, sounds like a good plan. Actually there were some numbers for brokers on the link that Kins sent me. So between you, you've got us in the right direction and less wading through treacle ! Feel better already ! Anyone in the NC area ? How do you go about making new friends without befriending everyone, some of your stories about relocation would be great if you're happy to share ?
The nearest city of any consequence is Hickory, and that is over an hour's drive away (70 miles), and has only half the population of Asheville. There isn't much of anything in Hickory other than furniture shops, including a four storey mall comprising only furniture shops! Charlotte is another hour (50 miles) beyond Hickory, and to be honest is barely worth the effort of getting there.
FWIW I have lived in NC for 13 years.
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Re: L2 to North Carolina, possibly pregnant at 42
In case you haven't done this yet:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asheville,_North_Carolina
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Re: L2 to North Carolina, possibly pregnant at 42
Ok, can't help you much with Ashville. I'm in the Raleigh/Durham/Chapel Hill in central NC.
As far as meeting people etc http://www.meetup.com/ is generally recommended as a good starting point. They have quite a few British Expat groups in many areas if that interests you but also many other types of groups too.
As far as meeting people etc http://www.meetup.com/ is generally recommended as a good starting point. They have quite a few British Expat groups in many areas if that interests you but also many other types of groups too.
To OP: aren't you lucky to be headed to Asheville! Not that I've been there, but I have heard only praise. It does seem a beautiful and interesting place to be. Good luck! May I just say that if you do end up here pregnant and having difficulties with insurance, a home birth could prove cheaper for you if that is something you are willing to go for.
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Re: L2 to North Carolina, possibly pregnant at 42
I'm in Apex which is a few miles east of Jordan Lake.
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Hi, rbackhouse, I was excited to see that there is another forum member in our area! We currently live near Saxapahaw (west of Chapel Hill), but are planning to move to Carrboro next month. Are you near Jordan Lake?
To OP: aren't you lucky to be headed to Asheville! Not that I've been there, but I have heard only praise. It does seem a beautiful and interesting place to be. Good luck! May I just say that if you do end up here pregnant and having difficulties with insurance, a home birth could prove cheaper for you if that is something you are willing to go for.
To OP: aren't you lucky to be headed to Asheville! Not that I've been there, but I have heard only praise. It does seem a beautiful and interesting place to be. Good luck! May I just say that if you do end up here pregnant and having difficulties with insurance, a home birth could prove cheaper for you if that is something you are willing to go for.
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Re: L2 to North Carolina, possibly pregnant at 42
Home births in NC are legally very dubious, though Asheville is the sort of place where you might find a few supporters for home births. ..... But a home birth as a 42-43 year old is not a low-risk matter and finding support for a home birth at that age might be rather difficult, combined with the fact that if there are complications during the birth, the cost of getting to hospital and additional risk and cost of the delay of getting to hospital could add considerable to the cost of the birth.
In case you hadn't guessed, I am appalled at the number of women who get emotionally blackmailed into "reducing risk" by having a caesarian. Home births can go wrong but so do plenty of hospital ones. Saying that, the leading criterion for decision making should never be financial.
About a million of my neighbours have had babies in the last year, cost with insurance seems to run about $1500-$2000 for normal hospital delivery.
I moved whilst pregnant once and I'm not sure I'd advise it.
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Re: L2 to North Carolina, possibly pregnant at 42
Home births in NC are legally very dubious, though Asheville is the sort of place where you might find a few supporters for home births. ..... But a home birth as a 42-43 year old is not a low-risk matter and finding support for a home birth at that age might be rather difficult, combined with the fact that if there are complications during the birth, the cost of getting to hospital and additional risk and cost of the delay of getting to hospital could add considerable to the cost of the birth.
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In NC and some other states the medical profession has cajoled the state legislature to push homebirths into a legally dubious grey area. A properly regulated and trained midwife cadre could provide a useful and safe service, but in NC there is no such thing, you either go the hospital route or you "wing it". Much as home births are a good idea, you need the right, trained support and that only exists informally in NC.
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Re: L2 to North Carolina, possibly pregnant at 42
I know, she should just do what the good doctor tells her and get a nice easy little caesarian..... cute little scar, "downstairs" not affected at all, and the doctor can fit it in when it suits him/her.
In case you hadn't guessed, I am appalled at the number of women who get emotionally blackmailed into "reducing risk" by having a caesarian. Home births can go wrong but so do plenty of hospital ones. Saying that, the leading criterion for decision making should never be financial.
In case you hadn't guessed, I am appalled at the number of women who get emotionally blackmailed into "reducing risk" by having a caesarian. Home births can go wrong but so do plenty of hospital ones. Saying that, the leading criterion for decision making should never be financial.
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Agreed but IIRC, about 30% of hospital births in the US turn into C-sections, and can do so at any time during labour, at very short notice and when the mother has neither the information nor the state of mind to counter-argue.