Experience of the UK Border for Americans
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To answer your question, I'd still go with "just a friend, ..... met him on an exchange visit". So honest, but don't build it up into a substantial enduring relationship.
Oh, and in case she gets the third degree and they start going through her luggage I'd recommend she brings no lovey-dovey gifts and leaves her Victoria's Secret underwear at home too.
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Re: Experience of the UK Border for Americans
Thanks RICH. That was really interesting. From reading that thread, just be completely up front and honest;
I'm here to visit the university of st andrews on an official visit day since i have an unconditional offer. Im staying with a friend/boyfriend who also happens to study at the university. i will leaving on the 8th april. Do you think they are less likely to give her a hard time for saying 'boyfriend' over 'friend'?
Bringing documents is to prove ties, albeit weak, to the US will be beneficial. Someone mentioned that parents can be a help. Since I'm 19 and she's 17, would my parents meeting her at the airport have any benefit beyond just me meeting her? My parents aren't rich, they would simply say that she is staying with us and we will be providing her with accommodation and food.
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Daniel
I'm here to visit the university of st andrews on an official visit day since i have an unconditional offer. Im staying with a friend/boyfriend who also happens to study at the university. i will leaving on the 8th april. Do you think they are less likely to give her a hard time for saying 'boyfriend' over 'friend'?
Bringing documents is to prove ties, albeit weak, to the US will be beneficial. Someone mentioned that parents can be a help. Since I'm 19 and she's 17, would my parents meeting her at the airport have any benefit beyond just me meeting her? My parents aren't rich, they would simply say that she is staying with us and we will be providing her with accommodation and food.
Thanks
Daniel
Last edited by Johnny4123; Jan 27th 2015 at 4:32 am. Reason: Didn't see Pulaski comment
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Do NOT provide any proof of how often you've been to the USA. Do you not understand you should try to MINIMIZE your relationship?
Also, she should only answer the specific question asked. If she says "boyfriend", stop there. Don't say he's also studying at St. Andrews blah blah blah, unless the officer specifically asks where he studies. Volunteering more information just leads to more questioning.
Rene
Also, she should only answer the specific question asked. If she says "boyfriend", stop there. Don't say he's also studying at St. Andrews blah blah blah, unless the officer specifically asks where he studies. Volunteering more information just leads to more questioning.
Rene
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So, Rene, you're saying she should simply say -
Where are you staying?
I'm staying with my friend who also happens to study at the university
How did you meet him/her?
We met online? We met in the USA?
i don't want her to get caught lying because that will surely get her denied entry.
Sorry if it seems that i am somewhat stupid, i just want to ensure i give her the correct information so i get to see her again in March.
Where are you staying?
I'm staying with my friend who also happens to study at the university
How did you meet him/her?
We met online? We met in the USA?
i don't want her to get caught lying because that will surely get her denied entry.
Sorry if it seems that i am somewhat stupid, i just want to ensure i give her the correct information so i get to see her again in March.
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Alright, so ill just wait for her in the airport.
She will tell the border official that she is arriving to visit the university of st andrews on an official visit day
She will also tell him/her that she will stay with me, a friend, who she met three years ago online? or in person in the us?
If there is an issue, do you think they would get in contact with me?
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Daniel
She will tell the border official that she is arriving to visit the university of st andrews on an official visit day
She will also tell him/her that she will stay with me, a friend, who she met three years ago online? or in person in the us?
If there is an issue, do you think they would get in contact with me?
thanks
Daniel
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Personally I don't think so. (i) they'll be outside the airport so immigration officer won't see them (ii) it is again building up a relationship that you really, seriously, need to downplay, and (iii) Sally's daughter's boyfriend had an entirely separate problem. As a young Middle Eastern man traveling alone he came with a lot of "political baggage" that left him open to being linked to concerns about terrorism either domestically (in the UK), or perhaps traveling onwards to Syria, so I don't see much you can learn from Sally's story. Needless to say that wasn't actually what he was doing, but that would be the concern that the immigration officers would have when they saw him.
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How did you meet him/her?
We met online?
We met online?
We met in the USA?
don't want her to get caught lying because that will surely get her denied entry.
Sorry if it seems that i am somewhat stupid, i just want to ensure i give her the correct information so i get to see her again in March.
Rene
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Alright, so ill just wait for her in the airport.
She will tell the border official that she is arriving to visit the university of st andrews on an official visit day
She will also tell him/her that she will stay with me, a friend, who she met three years ago online? or in person in the us? ....
She will tell the border official that she is arriving to visit the university of st andrews on an official visit day
She will also tell him/her that she will stay with me, a friend, who she met three years ago online? or in person in the us? ....
It's hard to say if they'd contact you, waiting outside, but I sincerely doubt it.
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If there is an issue, do you think they would get in contact with me?
I have a UKC friend who used to visit the USA every summer for about 5 years in a row. We were just friends, but he used to stay at my place (back when I was single), and use my house as a base and then travel around other places during his stay. Anyway, after all those visits, he got stopped at JFK in New York on his way into the USA and got asked all these questions and who was he visiting so often and what was our relationship, etc. He told them we're good friends and he stays at my place, and they said they think he is going to marry me and stay in the USA. So about 5:00 am I get a call from immigration at JFK and the lady asks me over the phone all these same questions (I had no idea at the time that he'd been asked as well). I told them the truth as well, and they let him come through, but he decided not to visit the USA anymore. LOL So, nothing is ever guaranteed. They could have just as easily sent him back to the UK right then and there.
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Re: Experience of the UK Border for Americans
Thanks Pulaski and Rene. It makes sense, completely.
Ill make sure she only answers what she is asked, not as you put it, volunteer up further information.
Ill also make sure she has all the supporting documents she requires.
She is to if asked, say she is staying with her boyfriend, who she met online and has subsequently met in person in the us.
I have been a little confused, some people say 1) be honest about your relationship, but downplay it.
So last question, she is to be honest about the relationship but downplay it, so it means, answering truthfully but only if the question asked requires the information. How did you meet? we met online but have since met in person.
Would that be sufficient? and only say how many times we have met if asked? surely saying we met 10 times is better than just once, since it shows a history of meeting and leaving?
thanks for all your help, i really appreciate it, more than you can imagine.
Ill make sure she only answers what she is asked, not as you put it, volunteer up further information.
Ill also make sure she has all the supporting documents she requires.
She is to if asked, say she is staying with her boyfriend, who she met online and has subsequently met in person in the us.
I have been a little confused, some people say 1) be honest about your relationship, but downplay it.
So last question, she is to be honest about the relationship but downplay it, so it means, answering truthfully but only if the question asked requires the information. How did you meet? we met online but have since met in person.
Would that be sufficient? and only say how many times we have met if asked? surely saying we met 10 times is better than just once, since it shows a history of meeting and leaving?
thanks for all your help, i really appreciate it, more than you can imagine.
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IF the next question is "Have you since met in person?" Then, she can say "yes". Period. That's it. No more.
I'd stop worrying about what MIGHT be asked, because that could go on forever. Just keep the simple rule of "only answer the exact question asked. Do not volunteer further information unless specifically asked". Although it seems you have a hard time with that, you and she both need to practice that concept if you're to deal further with immigration.
If the question is "Do you know what time it is?" The answer is "yes" or "no". Not "yes, my watch says it's 1:00 pm". See?
and only say how many times we have met if asked?
surely saying we met 10 times is better than just once, since it shows a history of meeting and leaving?
Rene
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Rene and I don't agree on the "friend v boyfriend" thing. "Boyfriend" has no legal status, and cannot easily be proved or disproved. I believe that describing you as her boyfriend is the first step on a slippery slope of probing and intrusive questioning from which no good will come. IMHO to describe you as a (mere) "friend" is both honest and sufficient. So when I said "downplay", I meant "drop the 'boy', stick to 'friend' ".
Rene and others don't agree with me. Only you and your "friend" can decide what you're comfortable with.
Rene and others don't agree with me. Only you and your "friend" can decide what you're comfortable with.
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Thanks guys, really appreciate it.
Makes complete sense.
Once again, alleviated my worries and shall be referring to this as of when i need reassurance!
Daniel
Makes complete sense.
Once again, alleviated my worries and shall be referring to this as of when i need reassurance!
Daniel
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FFS, Please go and look up what "downplay" means!