Originally Posted by Pollyana

Really sorry to hear its not worked out for you. Hopefully taking the decision to return home will make you start to feel better - I've seen other posters say that once you've decided to go back its like a light at the end of the tunnel, and it even allows them sometimes to view the rest of the time here as almost an extended holiday - take the chance to see places while you're here, especially if you have friends coming over. Try and enjoy their visit as much as you can, and then good luck for the move back
Hugs

Originally Posted by soapy

you now know u want to go home, so stup stressing yourself and try to enjoy the time you have left.
or tell your friends that you wont be here when they get here and maybe you can help them out if they decide to cancel
good luck anyway guys

Originally Posted by thomas and sarahjayne

Thanks soapy, we will try and get some things organised for when they get here as dont want to moap about and ruin their holiday. I do need to stop stressing about it.

cheers

sj

Originally Posted by thomas and sarahjayne

Like some other posts, we want to go home too. We have been here 5 months, and i just cant stand it at the moment. We have family here and thought because of that it would be so much easier and make it a little less stressful. The problem is my cousins were all born here and have been brought up in an aussie way, and i have realised we have nothing in common as have had completley different upbringings, so have different attitudes and morals and outlooks etc. They expect us to change and get into their way of thinking but its too hard when you are what you are. We left a nice lifestyle in scotland with financial security, and have done nothing but struggle here, we did not expect it to be easy but it has really put into perspective what we had and we took it all for granted. Our family here in Aus think we have no sense of reality and think we had it handed to us on a plate back home, when in fact we both worked our backsides off, they cant see how or why we would be homesick or would look back, but we do and that is that. The problem is we have a friends coming over in october but if it was not for that, we would be home by now, as its just not for us. Some people know and some dont, some people just take longer to get used to it, but we know where our bread was buttered. And now i sometimes wish we had never spent those 5 yrs planning to get here, as its not what we thought it would be for us. I suppose we had to come to get it out our system as we always wanted to come here, but i'm making myself ill, from anxiety and crying and mygrains etc and thats not normal behaviour.
So some people just Know !, whats for them and whats not.

sj

Originally Posted by soapy

you now know u want to go home, so stup stressing yourself and try to enjoy the time you have left.
or tell your friends that you wont be here when they get here and maybe you can help them out if they decide to cancel
good luck anyway guys

Originally Posted by Margaret3

soaps, i think your right, they've gotta think of themselves, and as I offered if the worst comes to the worst the pals can stay with us(and i genuinely mean that sj)

speak ta ya soon sj, chin up!!!! and if its defo what you want , then ya go. You've tried it and its now outta yir system, i know you will be going back and starting from scratch and as i keep saying, you've got youth on your side (lucky buggers), who knows maybe when your my age you'll come back (you can visit me, soapy, bordy and bix in our nursing homes then, lol)

of course your cousins dont know what your on about, how would they feel if they suddenly found themselves in lanarkshire, dafft buggers, i know hun and can appreciate all your saying, you left alot back and scotland ,you do what you all think is best. Of course i'd rather your stay, but that's for selfish reasons i.e you can understawn whit am sayen, lol


If yir definately staying until yir pals come in oct, you may be able to tie things up and be back a month or two after their visit, there that doesn't feel so long now does it, but remember that'll be dec, brrrrrrrrrrrr

Originally Posted by seasprite

well, I wont say too much, no point, see returning to Uk forum for more detail! I used to scorn people like me, but it was not worth getting ill about, so we came back. I am too English and we love it here! We could not have done more research, visits, lists and plans etc. The reality can be quite a shock and quite a dull one! Lovely place for hols, but not for us for a lifetime. (or even 6 months!), Would recommend keeping a property in Uk if you can. Try it, you wont know til you have. Good luck to all. Sorry bit brief, but bit p*****d! Everyone here was a great help,although a bit too positive! If your heart aches for home then come back!

Originally Posted by Rhia27

There's no place like home. It doesn't matter if its 10 kms away or 10000. If you miss it, you miss it.

I'm 3000 kms away from home (although not the place I was born-more like my spiritual home). Have 5 more months to do here in WA before I can go back.

A college friend of mine who is scottish has this CD of a scottish band which has a song that says "and I would walk 500 miles". Well I would walk a lot more than that, but I know I have to wait to finish college.

I made the decision to come here cos I know its best for my long term future, but to be honest I cant wait for this to be over and for my "future" to begin.

Good luck with your future in the UK.

Originally Posted by thomas and sarahjayne

Thanks soapy, we will try and get some things organised for when they get here as dont want to moap about and ruin their holiday. I do need to stop stressing about it.

cheers

sj

Originally Posted by Vegemite Kids

Stop stressing NOW! Thats an order

If your cousins came to the UK you would expect then to adapt but if they couldnt, I'm sure you would support them every way you could.

The fact that you havent been able to settle just means where you are isnt right for you right now. It may have ben right for you 5 years ago (it may even be right for you 5 years from now) but the fact is right here right now its wrong, so change it.

Originally Posted by SonicBird

Nah, most of them are Aussies, a couple of kiwis, some mates of ours moved over from UK, just before us, so we see them quite a bit. Have met other Poms thru Aussie mates, but most of our mates are Aussie. Bloody good show!

Sonic x

Originally Posted by raven

I have found it to be a bit 50 50 on the aussie poms friendship debate. although i wouldnt recommend trying to make friends through expats as most people u meet dont bother to get in touch again so we dont bother any more. Have found that the people we meet in everyday life to be the best people to make friends with
Raven

Originally Posted by raven

I have found it to be a bit 50 50 on the aussie poms friendship debate. although i wouldnt recommend trying to make friends through expats as most people u meet dont bother to get in touch again so we dont bother any more. Have found that the people we meet in everyday life to be the best people to make friends with
Raven

Originally Posted by Vegemite Kids

Ah, the proclaimers! Fab song, Fab band. I play them often and loud