6 Months Today and going back
#61
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#62
Re: 6 Months Today and going back
That's what I was thinking. I don't mean to come across as callous or rude but I just don't understand why a whole family would move back because a child doesn't like something. Did you move to Canada because the kid wanted to? Seems strange to me. Kids have to learn the ups and downs of life - you can't, and shouldn't, protect them from every upset. Weren't you upset at something when you were a child? I bet you dealt with it and moved on. Same thing would happen here.
#63
Re: 6 Months Today and going back
If we believe their posts, most emigrants allow their children to determine the fate of the family, "for the children" is the cliched reason to emigrate. If it's laudable to move out of England to advance their unstated desires it's surely laudable to move back again to advance their stated ones.
#64
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If we believe their posts, most emigrants allow their children to determine the fate of the family, "for the children" is the cliched reason to emigrate. If it's laudable to move out of England to advance their unstated desires it's surely laudable to move back again to advance their stated ones.
#65
Re: 6 Months Today and going back
teens will use whatever ammunition they have in their arsenal to get their own way.
#66
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Re: 6 Months Today and going back
Kids in general I'd say! The prospects for school leavers arn't great here at the moment! I wonder if they might regret the decision in a couple of years?! I'm pretty sure there's more to it than a kid not liking the school. Luckily, mine are chomping at the bit to move to Canada...so am I!!
#67
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Kids in general I'd say! The prospects for school leavers arn't great here at the moment! I wonder if they might regret the decision in a couple of years?! I'm pretty sure there's more to it than a kid not liking the school. Luckily, mine are chomping at the bit to move to Canada...so am I!!
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Re: 6 Months Today and going back
Hi all, we to are moving to Canada next summer, possibly Petawawa , the most important thing for me is to make sure my children will be happy, my eldest is 17 and will have finished A levels he will take a gap year to ponder uni , does anyone have any advice on university places in Canada , fees and if he will qualify ? My daughter is 15 and will have finished her gcse's I know nothing at present of education in Canada ,she would be doing her Alevels how does it work ?? Sorry I am clueless and have been searching the web. My husband will be working for the military so we will all have temporary citizenship, any help will be greatly appreciated , keeping teens happy are a worry, X
#69
Re: 6 Months Today and going back
Hi,
The best thing you should do is start a new thread with the same question in the Canada forum, that way more people will see it.
At 15 your daughter will go into High School until Grade 12 (18 years old or there abouts). She would probably go into Grade 10.
As for Uni, it's expensive and depending on subject depends on places just like in the UK. Someone will be able to offer more advice about that.
The best thing you should do is start a new thread with the same question in the Canada forum, that way more people will see it.
At 15 your daughter will go into High School until Grade 12 (18 years old or there abouts). She would probably go into Grade 10.
As for Uni, it's expensive and depending on subject depends on places just like in the UK. Someone will be able to offer more advice about that.
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Re: 6 Months Today and going back
Thank you, new to this !!!!
#71
Re: 6 Months Today and going back
Sarah, the first six months are the hardest. The first year is tough. The second year is tough but not as bad, but by the third year if you can stick it out you wont want to move back...
But look at it another way, if you did move back would you want regrets in thinking perhaps you should have given it a year or two? I know its a tough decision, but whatever you decide. Good luck.
But look at it another way, if you did move back would you want regrets in thinking perhaps you should have given it a year or two? I know its a tough decision, but whatever you decide. Good luck.
#72
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Sarah, the first six months are the hardest. The first year is tough. The second year is tough but not as bad, but by the third year if you can stick it out you wont want to move back...
But look at it another way, if you did move back would you want regrets in thinking perhaps you should have given it a year or two? I know its a tough decision, but whatever you decide. Good luck.
But look at it another way, if you did move back would you want regrets in thinking perhaps you should have given it a year or two? I know its a tough decision, but whatever you decide. Good luck.
#73
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I guess each case is different. I found from my experience, when I met expats I found a common theme that ran in regards to the timeline I mentioned.
You could move back sooner. But another perspective is that England is not going anywhere(i.e its not going to vanish off the map).
When I took the leap to work in Canada, it was a big decision. One good piece of advise a colleague gave me was that if it does not work out... well you can just come back.
You could move back sooner. But another perspective is that England is not going anywhere(i.e its not going to vanish off the map).
When I took the leap to work in Canada, it was a big decision. One good piece of advise a colleague gave me was that if it does not work out... well you can just come back.
#74
Re: 6 Months Today and going back
I guess each case is different. I found from my experience, when I met expats I found a common theme that ran in regards to the timeline I mentioned.
You could move back sooner. But another perspective is that England is not going anywhere(i.e its not going to vanish off the map).
When I took the leap to work in Canada, it was a big decision. One good piece of advise a colleague gave me was that if it does not work out... well you can just come back.
You could move back sooner. But another perspective is that England is not going anywhere(i.e its not going to vanish off the map).
When I took the leap to work in Canada, it was a big decision. One good piece of advise a colleague gave me was that if it does not work out... well you can just come back.
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Re: 6 Months Today and going back
So you think they should stay strong and force the kid to stay here?
I think if parents make a desicion and it shows serious effects on the kids then they should consider to change plans. And yes 6 months is not long but only Sarah knows how bad it is and how much and what they tried to persuade their son or help him to like it. I'd rather move back and have happy kids than live here and have to deal with sad and depressed children.
I guess everybody should do what they think is right and I wish Sarah all the best for her family.