Almost two years on and.........friendships are hard to come by!!!!

love30stm · Nov 14th 2011, 12:42 am

yep agree most of my friends are english and irish , the kiwis are a strange lot thought they were very friendly at first but its all fake.

i made friends more when i started working as a demostrator at supermarkets get to meet all kinds of people, the friends ive made are from the uk though so that about says it all dont it?

when i first arrived i inivited kiwi neighbours around never got a invite back, they are a tight lot they dont even send christmas cards whats with that????

sandra arnott · Nov 14th 2011, 12:55 am

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Originally Posted by love30stm

yep agree most of my friends are english and irish , the kiwis are a strange lot thought they were very friendly at first but its all fake.

i made friends more when i started working as a demostrator at supermarkets get to meet all kinds of people, the friends ive made are from the uk though so that about says it all dont it?

when i first arrived i inivited kiwi neighbours around never got a invite back, they are a tight lot they dont even send christmas cards whats with that????

Hi i now what you mean not one card from work and for the secret santa wanted it to be a $5 gift what on earth can you buy for that

love30stm · Nov 14th 2011, 1:00 am

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Originally Posted by sandra arnott

Hi i now what you mean not one card from work and for the secret santa wanted it to be a $5 gift what on earth can you buy for that

really?? omg $5.00 thats riduculous!

where in Nz are you btw??? message me if you want a chat and im on facebook

Irish Guinness · Nov 14th 2011, 1:03 am

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Originally Posted by tweetweet

bellasmum hi thanks for your message. Well we never got the 'friendly kiwi approach' from our neighbours so pass on that one! instead we found two lots of neighbours in our garden on various occasions cleaning our fruit trees of all their fruit by the sackful! i was not sure if that is the kiwi way so asked someone who said 'no we dont do that here'!

we really tried when we got here to make an effort and invite people that we met around, for bbqs and tea etc, if they did come round we never got an invite back so now we dont try. we get a lot of 'oh you must come round for a bbq' and 'we must get you round for a meal' but nothing happens. but saying that we have made about four friends - more acquaintances.

Cant complain though because the NZ scenery is beautiful and being on the outside teaches one to be self reliant and resourceful.

Could have wrote that myself,same in Oz,invitie them in dinner, wine, make them welcome but no invite back ( PERHAPS IT'S MY COOKING LoL )

love30stm · Nov 14th 2011, 1:05 am

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Originally Posted by Irish Guinness

Could have wrote that myself,same in Oz,invitie them in dinner, wine, make them welcome but no invite back ( PERHAPS IT'S MY COOKING LoL )

Irish Guinness · Nov 14th 2011, 1:05 am

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Originally Posted by love30stm

yep agree most of my friends are english and irish , the kiwis are a strange lot thought they were very friendly at first but its all fake.

i made friends more when i started working as a demostrator at supermarkets get to meet all kinds of people, the friends ive made are from the uk though so that about says it all dont it?

when i first arrived i inivited kiwi neighbours around never got a invite back, they are a tight lot they dont even send christmas cards whats with that????

How true.... got that right and we are in OZ.

sandra arnott · Nov 14th 2011, 1:12 am

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Originally Posted by Irish Guinness

How true.... got that right and we are in OZ.

polly.glot · Nov 14th 2011, 6:10 am

Mr G, ex-Mancunian, would say differently - he has been so impressed by the friendliness of Kiwis and has been made to feel really at home. Compared with the snobs we encountered in Hertfordshire, who despised his northern accent and my being from the Antipodes, this is paradise. But then, he is open-minded and takes people as he finds them. Also he never whinges about "back home".......

polly.glot · Nov 14th 2011, 6:37 am

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Originally Posted by love30stm

yep agree most of my friends are english and irish , the kiwis are a strange lot thought they were very friendly at first but its all fake.

i made friends more when i started working as a demostrator at supermarkets get to meet all kinds of people, the friends ive made are from the uk though so that about says it all dont it?

when i first arrived i inivited kiwi neighbours around never got a invite back, they are a tight lot they dont even send christmas cards whats with that????

I really do take exception to sweeping generalisations such as the one you have made above .."but it's all fake". How dare you be so insulting?

tweetweet · Nov 14th 2011, 7:34 am

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Originally Posted by polly.glot

I really do take exception to sweeping generalisations such as the one you have made above .."but it's all fake". How dare you be so insulting?

they are chippy too

Bellasmum · Nov 14th 2011, 7:39 am

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Originally Posted by polly.glot

Mr G, ex-Mancunian, would say differently - he has been so impressed by the friendliness of Kiwis and has been made to feel really at home. Compared with the snobs we encountered in Hertfordshire, who despised his northern accent and my being from the Antipodes, this is paradise. But then, he is open-minded and takes people as he finds them. Also he never whinges about "back home".......

Sounds like my OH. He has never had any problems making good friends.

Bellasmum · Nov 14th 2011, 7:40 am

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Originally Posted by polly.glot

I really do take exception to sweeping generalisations such as the one you have made above .."but it's all fake". How dare you be so insulting?

Don't worry polly. It's the norm in here. Says more about the posters than anyone else.

polly.glot · Nov 14th 2011, 7:49 am

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Originally Posted by tweetweet

they are chippy too

While many Brits of my acquaintance are simply ignorant and cannot even write a coherent sentence in their own language.

polly.glot · Nov 14th 2011, 7:52 am

Quite frankly, I am not surprised that you don't easily make friends in this country, with an attitude like yours. Pathetic.

luvwelly · Nov 14th 2011, 9:49 am

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Originally Posted by polly.glot

Quite frankly, I am not surprised that you don't easily make friends in this country, with an attitude like yours. Pathetic.

FGS lighten up. Expat websites have to be full of generalisations. Got to vent somewhere.
It's her opinion based on her experience - who are you to judge? Be grateful if your experience has been better.

Should she have said this? 'Of course we can't generalise but in my experience most Kiwis are fake but then maybe it's my fault I have perceived them to be this way or maybe I have simply been unlucky. Anyway no offence meant if any Kiwis are reading this 'British Expats' website but since I don't have a single Kiwi friend and all my friends are Irish and English, I do have to conclude that there is something I am obviously doing wrong to not be able to make friends with Kiwis' ???

On second thoughts maybe I shouldn't feed the troll.

Nov 14th 2011, 6:10 am	#38
polly.glot Forum Regular Joined: Apr 2010 Posts: 39	Re: Almost two years on and.........friendships are hard to come by!!!! Mr G, ex-Mancunian, would say differently - he has been so impressed by the friendliness of Kiwis and has been made to feel really at home. Compared with the snobs we encountered in Hertfordshire, who despised his northern accent and my being from the Antipodes, this is paradise. But then, he is open-minded and takes people as he finds them. Also he never whinges about "back home".......

Nov 14th 2011, 7:52 am	#44
polly.glot Forum Regular Joined: Apr 2010 Posts: 39	Re: Almost two years on and.........friendships are hard to come by!!!! Quite frankly, I am not surprised that you don't easily make friends in this country, with an attitude like yours. Pathetic.

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love30stm	Re: Almost two years on and.........friendships are hard to come by!!!! yep agree most of my friends are english and irish , the kiwis are a strange lot thought they were very friendly at first but its all fake. i made friends more when i started working as a demostrator at supermarkets get to meet all kinds of people, the friends ive made are from the uk though so that about says it all dont it? when i first arrived i inivited kiwi neighbours around never got a invite back, they are a tight lot they dont even send christmas cards whats with that????