[acer rose]

Originally Posted by Hangman This is not meant as anything other than a comment regarding forums. I have been a member of this one for just over a year and find it one of the most civil I've frequented. I have frequented photo forums for over five years and an aviation forum for longer than that and this forum is friendly and polite to the nth degree in comparison. I have met people in person from this forum, I have never ever had the desire to do that on the aviation forum. So I guess I am saying that it all depends on your own personal experience and perspective. Cheers Steve

I have to agree there. There are several discussion groups out there (travel or specific location related) that regularly descend into rascist rants or just plain foul languaged slanging matches. This well-moderated (yeah, it's called sucking up ) group is the height of civility and tolerance in comparison.

I've been around here for a while, and I've used the internet since before it was widely available to the public. Sometimes, the information you find is contradictory, even from what seem to be kosher sources. Webpages often get moved rather than updated but the old ones stay out in the virtual world. Sometimes you just use the wrong search terms (often enough I've looked for a previous post that I know exists but it takes several attempts to hit it). Sometimes you just want somebody to say "don't worry, I've been there before and survived" but can't think of a "good" question to start the ball rolling.

If somebody really upsets you, use the ignore button. I have never got round to using it (though it has been tempting at times) as those that have been rude to me (in my opinion) have generally posted useful information elsewhere. Grow a thick skin (sarcasm can be quite entertaining to onlookers), be nice to other people, don't worry when people are not responding (it is not personal - they are not deliberately "dissing" you) and learn when to say sorry. It is amazing how much human interactions depend on body posture and facial expressions - not always possible to pick these up through a written medium.

Oh, and don't stress about how other people choose to advertise sending/receiving karma, messages etc. In the big scheme of things, there is more to worry about, even in the virtual world.

[Tiffin Tease]

I think everyone is just trying to get along and be as helpful as they can but sometimes, as in real life, people get up other's noses and it's just a matter of how you choose to deal with it.

One of the biggest problems in any written communication is that things sometimes get lost in translation - not just because the written word loses much of the emphasis that the voice and face bring to a conversation but also humour and, particularly the great British pastime of covert wit and comedy sarcasm or saucy remarks (and I do mean the genuinely funny, what makes us British humour type) can also be lost, which is a real shame (did I really say saucy? - how very 'Carry On' of me....ooooh matron!).

This doesn't happen a lot but I have noticed that it has caused a couple of problems here when someone has misread a completely innocent remark made in one of these ways.

Personally speaking I am soooo glad I found this site as it has been a great place to get advice (sometimes give some when I can) and the majority of people I have come across have been great so beers all round

[Alberta_Rose]

Originally Posted by acer rose If somebody really upsets you, use the ignore button.

I have two problems with the ignore button.

One is my own silly fault : I let my curiosity get the better of me, and take it off so I can see what "they've" written since I started ignoring them. (*slaps head*)

The other is more general, and that is the habit people have of replying with a quote (usually unecessary) which has my "ignoree's" rude/stupid/outrageous postings in full! so I think "why did I bother???"

[Tiffin Tease]

[quote=Morwenna]I have two problems with the ignore button.

One is my own silly fault : I let my curiosity get the better of me, and take it off so I can see what "they've" written since I started ignoring them. (*slaps head*)

Glad i'm not the only one who's a curious kitty....

[Steve_P]

Originally Posted by Ki76 Originally Posted by Morwenna I have two problems with the ignore button. One is my own silly fault : I let my curiosity get the better of me, and take it off so I can see what "they've" written since I started ignoring them. (*slaps head*) Glad i'm not the only one who's a curious kitty....

Me three.

[Craftybanshee]

Originally Posted by Ki76 Glad i'm not the only one who's a curious kitty....

You're not the only one, I'm a nosey banshee

[IceMaiden]

Originally Posted by mjanovitz ok, here is one of the threads under discussion with my response. ok little sarcasm at the beginning but also constructive. Whats wrong with that.......I would argue nothing????? http://britishexpats.com/forum/showt...55#post3669955 If I posted a thread and someone responded "Do a search as this has been answered many time before" I would think.....wow abrupt!!!! Mark

I didn't actually think your reply to that was that was bad. I was not necessarily referring to your posts. I hope you have not taken anything that I have said in the wrong vein. Sorry if I caused any offence.

[mjanovitz]

Originally Posted by IceMaiden I didn't actually think your reply to that was that was bad. I was not necessarily referring to your posts. I hope you have not taken anything that I have said in the wrong vein. Sorry if I caused any offence.

My reply wasn't that bad!!!!! Thanks for the endorsement I will sleep much better tonight!

[IceMaiden]

Originally Posted by mjanovitz My reply wasn't that bad!!!!! Thanks for the endorsement I will sleep much better tonight!

A touch of sarcasm me thinks. (See that did come across!!)

[mjanovitz]

Originally Posted by IceMaiden A touch of sarcasm me thinks. (See that did come across!!)

Was I being mean? I'm sorry

Sent you a PM and some Kama to make up for it

[IceMaiden]

Originally Posted by mjanovitz Was I being mean? I'm sorry Sent you a PM and some Kama to make up for it

Ditto to the above