What would you advise this troubled Parent?
Jan 24th 2008, 11:26 am
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What would you advise this troubled Parent?
I am a bit troubled. I believe my son has a girlfriend, because she left a dirty magazine with men in it under his bed. My son is only 16 and I really don't think he's ready to date yet. What's worse is that he's sneaking some girl to his room behind my back. I need help, God! I want my son to stop being so secretive!
Jan 24th 2008, 11:28 am
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Re: What would you advise this troubled Parent?
I am a bit troubled. I believe my son has a girlfriend, because she left a dirty magazine with men in it under his bed. My son is only 16 and I really don't think he's ready to date yet. What's worse is that he's sneaking some girl to his room behind my back. I need help, God! I want my son to stop being so secretive!
was made you finally disclose the truth?
Jan 24th 2008, 11:29 am
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Jan 24th 2008, 11:33 am
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Re: What would you advise this troubled Parent?
tell them he's gay...no big deal...
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Jan 24th 2008, 11:41 am
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Is there a punch-line to this thread?
Jan 24th 2008, 1:29 pm
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Re: What would you advise this troubled Parent?
In all honesty P2P,my best advice is to accept that he is of that age where the more you tell him not to do something, the more he will rebel against it.
If you confront him with it, unless you are really skilled at dealing with difficult conversations, chances are it will flare up. It does depend on your relationship with your son, how open it is, how much of a dialogue do you generally have with him ? etc etc.
He obviously feels that he is doing something that would not ,erit your approval, hence he is doing it behind your back. Firstly, do not take this personally and get defensive about it, he's probably as nervous and as uptight about it as you are.
Its similar to the whole drink / drugs issue. Rather than tell them not to do it, in some instances it's a case of advsing them of the best things they can do / not do in that situation.
Both of you need to sit down and have a chat. Thats the starting point.
If you confront him with it, unless you are really skilled at dealing with difficult conversations, chances are it will flare up. It does depend on your relationship with your son, how open it is, how much of a dialogue do you generally have with him ? etc etc.
He obviously feels that he is doing something that would not ,erit your approval, hence he is doing it behind your back. Firstly, do not take this personally and get defensive about it, he's probably as nervous and as uptight about it as you are.
Its similar to the whole drink / drugs issue. Rather than tell them not to do it, in some instances it's a case of advsing them of the best things they can do / not do in that situation.
Both of you need to sit down and have a chat. Thats the starting point.
Jan 24th 2008, 2:10 pm
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Re: What would you advise this troubled Parent?
In all honesty P2P,my best advice is to accept that he is of that age where the more you tell him not to do something, the more he will rebel against it.
If you confront him with it, unless you are really skilled at dealing with difficult conversations, chances are it will flare up. It does depend on your relationship with your son, how open it is, how much of a dialogue do you generally have with him ? etc etc.
He obviously feels that he is doing something that would not ,erit your approval, hence he is doing it behind your back. Firstly, do not take this personally and get defensive about it, he's probably as nervous and as uptight about it as you are.
Its similar to the whole drink / drugs issue. Rather than tell them not to do it, in some instances it's a case of advsing them of the best things they can do / not do in that situation.
Both of you need to sit down and have a chat. Thats the starting point.
If you confront him with it, unless you are really skilled at dealing with difficult conversations, chances are it will flare up. It does depend on your relationship with your son, how open it is, how much of a dialogue do you generally have with him ? etc etc.
He obviously feels that he is doing something that would not ,erit your approval, hence he is doing it behind your back. Firstly, do not take this personally and get defensive about it, he's probably as nervous and as uptight about it as you are.
Its similar to the whole drink / drugs issue. Rather than tell them not to do it, in some instances it's a case of advsing them of the best things they can do / not do in that situation.
Both of you need to sit down and have a chat. Thats the starting point.
My god! did you actually take something that P2P posted seriously
Jan 27th 2008, 2:51 am
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Re: What would you advise this troubled Parent?
In all honesty P2P,my best advice is to accept that he is of that age where the more you tell him not to do something, the more he will rebel against it.
If you confront him with it, unless you are really skilled at dealing with difficult conversations, chances are it will flare up. It does depend on your relationship with your son, how open it is, how much of a dialogue do you generally have with him ? etc etc.
He obviously feels that he is doing something that would not ,erit your approval, hence he is doing it behind your back. Firstly, do not take this personally and get defensive about it, he's probably as nervous and as uptight about it as you are.
Its similar to the whole drink / drugs issue. Rather than tell them not to do it, in some instances it's a case of advsing them of the best things they can do / not do in that situation.
Both of you need to sit down and have a chat. Thats the starting point.
If you confront him with it, unless you are really skilled at dealing with difficult conversations, chances are it will flare up. It does depend on your relationship with your son, how open it is, how much of a dialogue do you generally have with him ? etc etc.
He obviously feels that he is doing something that would not ,erit your approval, hence he is doing it behind your back. Firstly, do not take this personally and get defensive about it, he's probably as nervous and as uptight about it as you are.
Its similar to the whole drink / drugs issue. Rather than tell them not to do it, in some instances it's a case of advsing them of the best things they can do / not do in that situation.
Both of you need to sit down and have a chat. Thats the starting point.
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