Meltdowns - how often?
Feb 1st 2011, 4:30 pm
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Meltdowns - how often?
So, after throwing a humungous, toddler style tantrum in the kitchen today I wondered how often people really lose it here. I'm quite fiery and flare up quickly but I seldom lose the plot like this morning. Maybe once every few years. But I've had three since august - two due to stupid arse shite involving the family visas and school fees payments (again they were at the end of various other bureaucratic bollocks and just tipped me) and this morning's gas cooker fandango.
Contrast that with one major serious rage incident in several years in the uk - and that was down to something really serious and terrifying (son had a stroke, local a&e negligent)
Am I the only one who loses the plot more easily here? Am I the only one who really NEEDS a medicinal gin of an evening? Am I the only one who throws paper about and then kicks the cooker out of sheer frustration and helplessness?
Contrast that with one major serious rage incident in several years in the uk - and that was down to something really serious and terrifying (son had a stroke, local a&e negligent)
Am I the only one who loses the plot more easily here? Am I the only one who really NEEDS a medicinal gin of an evening? Am I the only one who throws paper about and then kicks the cooker out of sheer frustration and helplessness?
Feb 1st 2011, 4:35 pm
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Re: Meltdowns - how often?
So, after throwing a humungous, toddler style tantrum in the kitchen today I wondered how often people really lose it here. I'm quite fiery and flare up quickly but I seldom lose the plot like this morning. Maybe once every few years. But I've had three since august - two due to stupid arse shite involving the family visas and school fees payments (again they were at the end of various other bureaucratic bollocks and just tipped me) and this morning's gas cooker fandango.
Contrast that with one major serious rage incident in several years in the uk - and that was down to something really serious and terrifying (son had a stroke, local a&e negligent)
Am I the only one who loses the plot more easily here? Am I the only one who really NEEDS a medicinal gin of an evening? Am I the only one who throws paper about and then kicks the cooker out of sheer frustration and helplessness?
Contrast that with one major serious rage incident in several years in the uk - and that was down to something really serious and terrifying (son had a stroke, local a&e negligent)
Am I the only one who loses the plot more easily here? Am I the only one who really NEEDS a medicinal gin of an evening? Am I the only one who throws paper about and then kicks the cooker out of sheer frustration and helplessness?
You get used to it. At some point your sanity becomes more important than being right.
Feb 1st 2011, 4:44 pm
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Re: Meltdowns - how often?
After spending over a year in Saudi I have got my meltdowns down to one a month, nobody seems to notice I need psycho therapy as everyone is mad, its great!!!!!!
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Feb 1st 2011, 5:10 pm
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Re: Meltdowns - how often?
So, after throwing a humungous, toddler style tantrum in the kitchen today I wondered how often people really lose it here. I'm quite fiery and flare up quickly but I seldom lose the plot like this morning. Maybe once every few years. But I've had three since august - two due to stupid arse shite involving the family visas and school fees payments (again they were at the end of various other bureaucratic bollocks and just tipped me) and this morning's gas cooker fandango.
Contrast that with one major serious rage incident in several years in the uk - and that was down to something really serious and terrifying (son had a stroke, local a&e negligent)
Am I the only one who loses the plot more easily here? Am I the only one who really NEEDS a medicinal gin of an evening? Am I the only one who throws paper about and then kicks the cooker out of sheer frustration and helplessness?
Contrast that with one major serious rage incident in several years in the uk - and that was down to something really serious and terrifying (son had a stroke, local a&e negligent)
Am I the only one who loses the plot more easily here? Am I the only one who really NEEDS a medicinal gin of an evening? Am I the only one who throws paper about and then kicks the cooker out of sheer frustration and helplessness?
Feb 1st 2011, 5:59 pm
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Re: Meltdowns - how often?
So, after throwing a humungous, toddler style tantrum in the kitchen today I wondered how often people really lose it here. I'm quite fiery and flare up quickly but I seldom lose the plot like this morning. Maybe once every few years. But I've had three since august - two due to stupid arse shite involving the family visas and school fees payments (again they were at the end of various other bureaucratic bollocks and just tipped me) and this morning's gas cooker fandango.
Contrast that with one major serious rage incident in several years in the uk - and that was down to something really serious and terrifying (son had a stroke, local a&e negligent)
Am I the only one who loses the plot more easily here? Am I the only one who really NEEDS a medicinal gin of an evening? Am I the only one who throws paper about and then kicks the cooker out of sheer frustration and helplessness?
Contrast that with one major serious rage incident in several years in the uk - and that was down to something really serious and terrifying (son had a stroke, local a&e negligent)
Am I the only one who loses the plot more easily here? Am I the only one who really NEEDS a medicinal gin of an evening? Am I the only one who throws paper about and then kicks the cooker out of sheer frustration and helplessness?
I was at school with a guy who became a psychoanalyst (or something like that). He went to Noo Yoik Siddy and set up a private clinic for 'Anger Management' (he's rich now).
I caught up with him a few years ago, and asked him if he ever 'loses it', and if he treats himself like he would treat any of his patients.
"Yes" he said".
"So what do you do?" I said.
"I go up to my mother" he replied casually "and punch her in the face."
"You punch your own mother in the face??"
"No......... I stop myself. Then I find I can put everything in perspective. I'm fine after that............"
Feb 2nd 2011, 2:55 am
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Re: Meltdowns - how often?
So, after throwing a humungous, toddler style tantrum in the kitchen today I wondered how often people really lose it here. I'm quite fiery and flare up quickly but I seldom lose the plot like this morning. Maybe once every few years. But I've had three since august - two due to stupid arse shite involving the family visas and school fees payments (again they were at the end of various other bureaucratic bollocks and just tipped me) and this morning's gas cooker fandango.
Contrast that with one major serious rage incident in several years in the uk - and that was down to something really serious and terrifying (son had a stroke, local a&e negligent)
Am I the only one who loses the plot more easily here? Am I the only one who really NEEDS a medicinal gin of an evening? Am I the only one who throws paper about and then kicks the cooker out of sheer frustration and helplessness?
Contrast that with one major serious rage incident in several years in the uk - and that was down to something really serious and terrifying (son had a stroke, local a&e negligent)
Am I the only one who loses the plot more easily here? Am I the only one who really NEEDS a medicinal gin of an evening? Am I the only one who throws paper about and then kicks the cooker out of sheer frustration and helplessness?
Feb 2nd 2011, 3:19 am
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Re: Meltdowns - how often?
my misses will throw a temper tantrum over ANYTHING... happens two or three times a day at least... not your usual (frustrated expat life syndrome) type stuff but instead seems to have been 16 for 5 years... infuriating... i dont really ever fly off the handle however ive noticed my patience becoming increasingly short since starting the new job lol dunno what it is... and that in turn makes me more irritated at her and well frankly shes so spoilt and up her own arse it pretty much impossible to aviod a couple of fights everyday... this place does affect people...
Feb 2nd 2011, 4:52 am
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Re: Meltdowns - how often?
ANGRY? ME? WHO YOU ******* CALLING ANGRY?
Feb 2nd 2011, 5:07 am
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Re: Meltdowns - how often?
It's the lack of control and dealing with people completely unable to help you. It's not like the UK where we can go to another store or office if the initial one is helpless. We can take control of our actions - but out here...
I find it best to laugh and let it go. Stove won't work? Flog it on Dubizzle and get another one. Far quicker and less stressful than trying to fix the problem in the first place.
I find it best to laugh and let it go. Stove won't work? Flog it on Dubizzle and get another one. Far quicker and less stressful than trying to fix the problem in the first place.
Feb 2nd 2011, 5:12 am
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Feb 2nd 2011, 6:04 am
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Re: Meltdowns - how often?
"no belief in the concept of marriage"
Why?
Why?
id rather be that total arsehole who for some reason theyre totally infatuated with, always seemed to work out better. how long you been married? i think its going to be rather straightforward for me, i have my prenup (in which shes entitled to absolutley **** all if we split for any reason) and i hve no belief in the concept of marriage it just makes things safer and more straightforward living together here...
Feb 2nd 2011, 6:06 am
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Re: Meltdowns - how often?
ok wrong choice of words, its not that i dont believe in it but its not something i take very seriously... im the kind of person whod get married to someone after knowing them for 10 minutes for a laugh... i dont view it as a very important staple in life, which is odd because my parents and the rest of my family all have very very stable marriages ...
Feb 2nd 2011, 9:20 am
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Re: Meltdowns - how often?
She needs to grow up. That's just childish spoilt princess behaviour.