Reluctantly returning to UK....:(
#46
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Re: Reluctantly returning to UK....:(
Just been reading a thread in the Barbie, Jazzy's first 5 weeks, don't know how to put link to thread here
Jazzy is a single parent, and has been arranging child support etc, it might be worth you taking a look, or even contacting him to see if he can help you out on this one.
Kind Regards,
Maggie
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Re: Reluctantly returning to UK....:(
Been looking into it and because there is a two year qualifying period before I can get any help with rent, childcare, family assistance etc, I am not going to be able to afford to stay here as a single mom. My job pays $50,573 per year. I pay out $200-300 per week on childcare and have the car to pay for out of that.
Now that I am pregnant too (yes you heard me right, bad timing or what!?) I will not be able to cope on my own. So looks like its back to the UK.
Thanks to all of those who have offered their support. This means so much. I wouldn't want to bother you all with my worries though you probably have enough to think about already...hopefully I can come back to oz as soon as possible.
Now that I am pregnant too (yes you heard me right, bad timing or what!?) I will not be able to cope on my own. So looks like its back to the UK.
Thanks to all of those who have offered their support. This means so much. I wouldn't want to bother you all with my worries though you probably have enough to think about already...hopefully I can come back to oz as soon as possible.
Good luck in what you decide, but just remember all you've been through to get here
N xx
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Re: Reluctantly returning to UK....:(
Been looking into it and because there is a two year qualifying period before I can get any help with rent, childcare, family assistance etc, I am not going to be able to afford to stay here as a single mom. My job pays $50,573 per year. I pay out $200-300 per week on childcare and have the car to pay for out of that.
Now that I am pregnant too (yes you heard me right, bad timing or what!?) I will not be able to cope on my own. So looks like its back to the UK.
Thanks to all of those who have offered their support. This means so much. I wouldn't want to bother you all with my worries though you probably have enough to think about already...hopefully I can come back to oz as soon as possible.
Now that I am pregnant too (yes you heard me right, bad timing or what!?) I will not be able to cope on my own. So looks like its back to the UK.
Thanks to all of those who have offered their support. This means so much. I wouldn't want to bother you all with my worries though you probably have enough to think about already...hopefully I can come back to oz as soon as possible.
Take care and look after yourself...
Jackie in Perth
#49
Re: Reluctantly returning to UK....:(
Been looking into it and because there is a two year qualifying period before I can get any help with rent, childcare, family assistance etc, I am not going to be able to afford to stay here as a single mom. My job pays $50,573 per year. I pay out $200-300 per week on childcare and have the car to pay for out of that.
Now that I am pregnant too (yes you heard me right, bad timing or what!?) I will not be able to cope on my own. So looks like its back to the UK.
Thanks to all of those who have offered their support. This means so much. I wouldn't want to bother you all with my worries though you probably have enough to think about already...hopefully I can come back to oz as soon as possible.
Now that I am pregnant too (yes you heard me right, bad timing or what!?) I will not be able to cope on my own. So looks like its back to the UK.
Thanks to all of those who have offered their support. This means so much. I wouldn't want to bother you all with my worries though you probably have enough to think about already...hopefully I can come back to oz as soon as possible.
Dorothy
#50
Re: Reluctantly returning to UK....:(
Been looking into it and because there is a two year qualifying period before I can get any help with rent, childcare, family assistance etc, I am not going to be able to afford to stay here as a single mom. My job pays $50,573 per year. I pay out $200-300 per week on childcare and have the car to pay for out of that.
Now that I am pregnant too (yes you heard me right, bad timing or what!?) I will not be able to cope on my own. So looks like its back to the UK.
Now that I am pregnant too (yes you heard me right, bad timing or what!?) I will not be able to cope on my own. So looks like its back to the UK.
http://myaccount.centrelink.gov.au/w...5odG0!#7_0_5RT
The waiting period does not cover employer provided benefits. Nor does it cover the baby bonus or Medicare.
Thanks to all of those who have offered their support. This means so much. I wouldn't want to bother you all with my worries though you probably have enough to think about already...hopefully I can come back to oz as soon as possible.
It may well be a one way trip back to the U.K., therefore, even if you have a valid visa.
Reading between the lines, your relationship appears to be in a lot of trouble anyway, so aren't you just going to make it worse if you end up going back to the U.K.?
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Re: Reluctantly returning to UK....:(
Bit like migrating to rescue a relationship, I guess - if its on the rocks, the stress of migrating or returning won't help.
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Re: Reluctantly returning to UK....:(
I think this young woman has a very hard decision to make and even though we, as outsiders, can look at her situation and decide how we would act, we have to respect her right to decide the future for herself and her children.
Personally, I think she will find more support for her situation here in Australia than in UK.
I would hope that she will find the strength to stand up to her partner and that he would recognise her strength and begin to appreciate what a remarkable partner he has rather than feeling that he has to continually push her to extreme limits of choice for his own self gratification.
As I have said on this thread previously, I believe that he is a bully!
My heart goes out to her and I hope she makes the right decision for herself and her children.
Maggie
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Re: Reluctantly returning to UK....:(
I feel for you in this predicament. But, trust me, you'll be making a very big mistake coming back here! The place is going to the dogs.
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Re: Reluctantly returning to UK....:(
I think it's been established that Ozzienurse would like to remain in Australia. I dont think she is judging England or if it has gone to the dogs or not, at the moment she has more important things on her mind.
I also feel that she is being bullied and her self confidence is at zero which makes any decision making extremely hard.
It cannot be easy to know what to do for the best when your partner is putting that much pressure on you.
Hope it works out for you Rach.
I also feel that she is being bullied and her self confidence is at zero which makes any decision making extremely hard.
It cannot be easy to know what to do for the best when your partner is putting that much pressure on you.
Hope it works out for you Rach.
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Re: Reluctantly returning to UK....:(
oh s-d off people like you do not help.....why don't you just stick to the other site....you know the one....where you are all leaving the U.K you can winge about it as much as you like...this young lady needs support....and you are not helping.
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Re: Reluctantly returning to UK....:(
Well said, my family live in a nice area (where I was brought up) and they are all very happy there....this person is off to Canada to live so the country will be well rid of him....watch out Canada...
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Re: Reluctantly returning to UK....:(
Only a certain range of benefits are covered by the 2 year waiting period. Not all of them. The waiting period can be waived in certain instances:
http://myaccount.centrelink.gov.au/w...5odG0!#7_0_5RT
The waiting period does not cover employer provided benefits. Nor does it cover the baby bonus or Medicare.
Rachael - your choice obviously, but you do need to understand that if you go back to the U.K. and then split up, your partner will most likely be able to prevent you taking the children back to Australia.
It may well be a one way trip back to the U.K., therefore, even if you have a valid visa.
Reading between the lines, your relationship appears to be in a lot of trouble anyway, so aren't you just going to make it worse if you end up going back to the U.K.?
http://myaccount.centrelink.gov.au/w...5odG0!#7_0_5RT
The waiting period does not cover employer provided benefits. Nor does it cover the baby bonus or Medicare.
Rachael - your choice obviously, but you do need to understand that if you go back to the U.K. and then split up, your partner will most likely be able to prevent you taking the children back to Australia.
It may well be a one way trip back to the U.K., therefore, even if you have a valid visa.
Reading between the lines, your relationship appears to be in a lot of trouble anyway, so aren't you just going to make it worse if you end up going back to the U.K.?
Al the best
Jackie
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Re: Reluctantly returning to UK....:(
Her problem will be that if she returns to the U.K. and she splits up, her partner may then be able to veto the children leaving.
On the other hand, if she stays in Australia, she would have a good chance of being able to insist that the children remain.
Bottom line - in issues of cross-border child custody, the country where the child lives has the jurisdiction. Move the child voluntarily, and jurisdiction changes.
On the other hand, if she stays in Australia, she would have a good chance of being able to insist that the children remain.
Bottom line - in issues of cross-border child custody, the country where the child lives has the jurisdiction. Move the child voluntarily, and jurisdiction changes.