Between a Rock and a Hard Pile
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Between a Rock and a Hard Pile
Wife's auntie, who I like and lives just round the corner, has just had a stroke. Her sister/my M-i-L will be arriving soon and has told the wife she will be staying with us, uninvited. From previous experience, every time she stays her and the missus end up fighting, I end up at shouting at both. M-i-L finds alternative accommodation arrangements and wife makes alternative sleeping arrangements. The only friend I have is the dog, who last time they had an argument, bit both of them.
Do I put my foot down before M-i-L turns up and say she is not staying here and endure short term wrath from 'her in doors'.
or
Suffer M-i-L visit and end up as the bad boy from both as I explain how grown-ups behave.
Keeping quiet is not one of my strong points.
Do I put my foot down before M-i-L turns up and say she is not staying here and endure short term wrath from 'her in doors'.
or
Suffer M-i-L visit and end up as the bad boy from both as I explain how grown-ups behave.
Keeping quiet is not one of my strong points.
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Re: Between a Rock and a Hard Pile
Its about expectations? How about agreeing with her indoors that last time was bad, and you are concerned - for the harmonious relationships of all of you, and that this time, if it goes bad again, it has to be the last time... If necessary get her indoors to relay the same message to the mil [or not if youre being sneaky]... Either she will realise the hurt she has caused and be on best behaviour, or she will know and cant argue when she tries to move in next time and will know why she aint gonna stay with you again. I was considering mother in law scented treats for the dog, but thats not kind to dumb animals [think about it...]
Balls then in her court, and you have agreed future actions with your other half...
Balls then in her court, and you have agreed future actions with your other half...
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Its about expectations? How about agreeing with her indoors that last time was bad, and you are concerned - for the harmonious relationships of all of you, and that this time, if it goes bad again, it has to be the last time... If necessary get her indoors to relay the same message to the mil [or not if youre being sneaky]... Either she will realise the hurt she has caused and be on best behaviour, or she will know and cant argue when she tries to move in next time and will know why she aint gonna stay with you again. I was considering mother in law scented treats for the dog, but thats not kind to dumb animals [think about it...]
Balls then in her court, and you have agreed future actions with your other half...
Balls then in her court, and you have agreed future actions with your other half...
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Re: Between a Rock and a Hard Pile
Well, say no, so long as your other half agrees. I was thinking of making sure that it goes that way next time if your wife and partner fulltime doesnt agree this time.
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Re: Between a Rock and a Hard Pile
Suggest you move in with the dog, if it will have you. After all, you will both be in the dog house and sharing is caring.
As the MIL is here to take care of her sister, why does she not be the 'in house carer' for her, or does aunty live with you?i
As the MIL is here to take care of her sister, why does she not be the 'in house carer' for her, or does aunty live with you?i
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I don't have a recommendation, but I would like to say that you have a smart dog!
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Well that went better than expected. Broached the subject about her mum finding somewhere else to stay during her visit. All I got was a smile and a "Thank you". Apparently she had only been letting her mum stay because she was frightened that I might think she was cruel if she told her to go and find somewhere else to stay.
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Well that went better than expected. Broached the subject about her mum finding somewhere else to stay during her visit. All I got was a smile and a "Thank you". Apparently she had only been letting her mum stay because she was frightened that I might think she was cruel if she told her to go and find somewhere else to stay.
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I bet the dogs are happy as well as they will not be sharing with you)
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M-i-L's arrival was apparently a bit of a shouting match between her, the gate and an empty house, we had gone to town and dogs refused entry. She is now staying with her sister but still not a happy bunny as her house is not posh enough for her. Dogs on extra rations.
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