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Old Feb 12th 2010, 10:01 pm   #16
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So sorry Songbird. Hang in there, hopefully it's nothing serious. Also, have you been in touch with the Breast Cancer Society, as it is a wonderful organization?
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Songbird...I am sorry you're having to go through all this. Please try not to worry too much until you hear something negative.

About 5 years ago an abnormal mass was detected during my routine mammogram. I had a pressure mammogram and ultrasound the following day. The doctor said I should see a breast cancer specialist immediately...I was a little taken aback by that statement. I remember driving home in a daze...then managed to talk myself around not to worry until I'm told there is something to worry about.

Within a couple of days I had an appointment to see a breast cancer surgeon. She looked at my records then gave me another ultra sound. She said she was almost certain it wasn't cancer...she asked if I wanted to go ahead with a biopsy but said in her opinion it wasn't necessary. I asked when one could be scheduled and she said she would do it immediately. A few days later I was given the all clear.

I hope you get the same result.
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If you are late in filing the I-751 for a reasonable and good reason, i.e. medical health issues are good reasons, your petition should be accepted and processed.

Song, do you belong to a church group or is there an organization in your area that assists seniors or the ill? I have found that most areas, especially those in places such as WV, do have private citizens who offer assistance such as you will need for yourself and your husband if you needed to have chemo and/or radiation. In turn you would pledge to give time to such a cause when you are well enough to do so.

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Only thing I would definitely make sure of is to make sure none of the monetary help you would get to pay for your treatments (if needed), would be classed as means-tested benefits. If it is, then your I-864 sponsor could get slapped with paying it back to the gov't.

Good luck hon and I hope for all of your sakes that this is a false alarm. Hopefully meauxna and Rete can give you some help re: immigration impacts.

EDIT: are you absolutely sure that he wouldn't be able to qualify for care on the NHS if you relocated to the UK? I know we were told I would get treatment for my pre-existing condition. Although you would possibly have a problem with sponsoring him if you don't have employment (from my understanding).
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Hey songbird...just to let you know that I'm thinking of you and hoping that everything turns out for the best on the 18th
It must be hard not to worry, but you seem a strong person so try not to unless there's going to be something to worry about (if that makes sense)
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Songbird...I am sorry you're having to go through all this. Please try not to worry too much until you hear something negative.

About 5 years ago an abnormal mass was detected during my routine mammogram. I had a pressure mammogram and ultrasound the following day. The doctor said I should see a breast cancer specialist immediately...I was a little taken aback by that statement. I remember driving home in a daze...then managed to talk myself around not to worry until I'm told there is something to worry about.

Within a couple of days I had an appointment to see a breast cancer surgeon. She looked at my records then gave me another ultra sound. She said she was almost certain it wasn't cancer...she asked if I wanted to go ahead with a biopsy but said in her opinion it wasn't necessary. I asked when one could be scheduled and she said she would do it immediately. A few days later I was given the all clear.

I hope you get the same result.
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Yep I had the pressure (aka squeeze your t*t off) mammogram - OUCHY is all I can say! Things have changed a lot since my last bout with this, the last time it was diagnosed via needle aspiration and then I had a general anesthetic lumpectomy and wide excision of the lymph nodes. For this biopsy they are going to do a Mammotome. As I understand it it's like a pressure mammogram, with a local anesthetic and they leave a 'marker' in if they have to go back again. Did you have that one?
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Thanks for that JG - I hear you! I'm so glad yours was all clear girl!
Yep I had the pressure (aka squeeze your t*t off) mammogram - OUCHY is all I can say! Things have changed a lot since my last bout with this, the last time it was diagnosed via needle aspiration and then I had a general anesthetic lumpectomy and wide excision of the lymph nodes. For this biopsy they are going to do a Mammotome. As I understand it it's like a pressure mammogram, with a local anesthetic and they leave a 'marker' in if they have to go back again. Did you have that one?
I don't recall anything about a marker.
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For this biopsy they are going to do a Mammotome. As I understand it it's like a pressure mammogram, with a local anesthetic and they leave a 'marker' in if they have to go back again. Did you have that one?
That is exactly what I had done 18 months ago. It isn't picked up at the airport screening.

You lay on your belly and your boob goes through a hole and then is gently squeezed and they view it through a sonagram type machine to pinpoint where the needle goes in.
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Songbird, I can't offer an advise just wanted to tell you that I'm wishing the best for you.
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That is exactly what I had done 18 months ago. It isn't picked up at the airport screening.

You lay on your belly and your boob goes through a hole and then is gently squeezed and they view it through a sonagram type machine to pinpoint where the needle goes in.
I was upright for mine...it was interesting to watch it on the screen.
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i can't do much but include you in my prayers tonight, which I will. It sounds like your doctor knows what he's doing, so try not to worry too much. That's easy for me to say, though. Just hang in there and keep your sense of humor. They say humor works wonders, so here's a bunny with a pancake on it's head:

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I just want to say how overwhelmed I am at the response both public and private I have received from the members of this board. If I could hug you all I would

My life to date in the USA has not been the smoothest of paths however, I've always considered myself fairly tough and resilient - even when faced with the most adverse of circumstances ( and lord knows the last three years have tested that! lol) I recall my first post on this board (when I was all bright eyed and doe tailed), sure I knew it wasn't going to be easy but my ignorance of just how hard it could be makes it embarrassing reading now You live and you learn - and one of the many things I am grateful for is that members of this board give time out of their lives to help others (just like they helped me) to make that rocky path a bit more easier to travel.

When someone on this board offers their advice / support / help (as so many of you have not just to myself and hubby but others having problems ) I KNOW it's sincere, none of that 'have a nice day' fakeness. We may just be pixels in a cyber world but we are all real people and that comes across so strongly especially at times like this. Thank you all for your support, thank you for being there for us, and most of all thank you making this difficult time a lot more easier to cope with.
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