Unromantic Men - Can you Change Them?
Apr 15th 2008, 11:24 pm
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Re: Unromantic Men - Can you Change Them?
have you tried highlighting it on the calendar? Or maybe having a sitdown with him and telling him that you want him to buy at least a card on such occasions, especially with you not having the family and friends around to do your own thing with? I know it's not great that he doesn't think to do it on his own but a combination of them both may do the trick
Apr 15th 2008, 11:27 pm
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Re: Unromantic Men - Can you Change Them?
Done the calendar thing, mentioned that it would be nice to get a card but I get the "I work all day and don't have time to get it" which personally I think its a crap excuse. Used to really upset me but now I just don't expect anything and then I am not dissapointed! Odd thing is - if I do the same to him on birthday's etc to teach him a lesson he gets all upset...men hey!!!
Apr 15th 2008, 11:34 pm
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Apr 15th 2008, 11:35 pm
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Apr 15th 2008, 11:50 pm
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Re: Unromantic Men - Can you Change Them?
I share your frustration of being married to a man who is not overtly romantic. However, he is totally trustworthy, forgiving of my faults, hardworking and loves me and his children.
Yes, it would be nice to get a huge bunch of flowers on valentines day or come home to champange and strawberries. Would I swap him for a man who regularly does huge romantic gestures but doesn't have the other qualities I value so much.
NOT IN A MILLION YEARS
I knew what he was like long before I married him. If he a once been a romantic and changed dramatically I might have reason to complain, but no.
He is who he is and I love him for it.
Yes, it would be nice to get a huge bunch of flowers on valentines day or come home to champange and strawberries. Would I swap him for a man who regularly does huge romantic gestures but doesn't have the other qualities I value so much.
NOT IN A MILLION YEARS
I knew what he was like long before I married him. If he a once been a romantic and changed dramatically I might have reason to complain, but no.
He is who he is and I love him for it.
Apr 15th 2008, 11:51 pm
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Unromantic Men - Can you Change Them?
Yes, as long as you keep the receipt and return them within 28 days of purchase.
I'm not sure what to suggest....I'm in the middle of an 'amicable' divorce, so I'm the last person to have all the answers, but he does still buy me birthday presents. Go figure?
I always made gift giving simple for my ex, I was clear and straightforward in what I liked, so it was easy for him, bless. So, clear views on flowers, jewellery, fragrance, etc. That way it's minimal effort.
A thought, don't know if it'd work? Get a friend to remind him of the big birthday a couple of weeks before with a list of suggested presents and where he can get them from? Worth a shot.
If not, go fishing with him?
Anyway, happy belated anniversary.
Sas xx
Yes, as long as you keep the receipt and return them within 28 days of purchase.
I'm not sure what to suggest....I'm in the middle of an 'amicable' divorce, so I'm the last person to have all the answers, but he does still buy me birthday presents. Go figure?
I always made gift giving simple for my ex, I was clear and straightforward in what I liked, so it was easy for him, bless. So, clear views on flowers, jewellery, fragrance, etc. That way it's minimal effort.
A thought, don't know if it'd work? Get a friend to remind him of the big birthday a couple of weeks before with a list of suggested presents and where he can get them from? Worth a shot.
If not, go fishing with him?
Anyway, happy belated anniversary.
Sas xx
Apr 16th 2008, 12:11 am
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Re: Unromantic Men - Can you Change Them?
I share your frustration of being married to a man who is not overtly romantic. However, he is totally trustworthy, forgiving of my faults, hardworking and loves me and his children.
Yes, it would be nice to get a huge bunch of flowers on valentines day or come home to champange and strawberries. Would I swap him for a man who regularly does huge romantic gestures but doesn't have the other qualities I value so much.
NOT IN A MILLION YEARS
I knew what he was like long before I married him. If he a once been a romantic and changed dramatically I might have reason to complain, but no.
He is who he is and I love him for it.
Yes, it would be nice to get a huge bunch of flowers on valentines day or come home to champange and strawberries. Would I swap him for a man who regularly does huge romantic gestures but doesn't have the other qualities I value so much.
NOT IN A MILLION YEARS
I knew what he was like long before I married him. If he a once been a romantic and changed dramatically I might have reason to complain, but no.
He is who he is and I love him for it.
This is also true for me - would not swap him for anyone else (hmm perhaps Michael Buble? no no no...!) but am allowed to moan about him sometimes - its my job!
Apr 16th 2008, 2:49 am
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Re: Unromantic Men - Can you Change Them?
I also share the unromantic husband and he used to be more romantic, now he doesn't have to bother I suppose
Today is my birthday, first one alone here in Canada and I got up this morning to a scrap of paper with "Happy Birthday dear" scribbled on it...think that was worse than no card! He did bring me a card home from work though but no pressie! To add insult to injury we are going to buy my pressie this Saturday, wait for it - a BBQ
something he has been wanting since we arrived in Canada.OH is good at fixing stuff and wiring up water softeners and insulating his garage etc etc etc and I love him dearly, but I still think they could make a bit of an effort for one day in the year.
Apr 16th 2008, 3:04 am
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Re: Unromantic Men - Can you Change Them?
Then pick between your birthday, valentines day, Christmas and your anniversary