pinkmcfarquhar

I think from reading your OP, (not finding day care, etc), your heart isn't really into going back to work? I know that you will have heaps to do preparing for the move as well as looking after the kids and with OH away. As others have said, as long as you are upfront with them I am sure they will be fine.

Elaine B.

Well I've decided there is no point in going back to work so I'll go to the office tomorrow morning and let them know what's going on. My stomach is in knots and I feel like such a git. I don't think I'll get much sleep tonight. Why do I feel like a teenager

Beastie

Good luck for tomorrow, will be thinking about you.

You're not a git you're a Mum who has decided that she wants to spend more time with her baby. You could also put it in such a way that you feel as if you're helping them - it wouldn't be fair of you to return as you know you're going to be fretting for your little one and therefore unable to concentrate properly on the job in hand (employers don't have to know all your reasons for not returning).

Let us know how it goes.

Lynne

rach_woz99

As an aside, I don't understand why you say you aren't receiving any benefits from your employer? I thought it was the law that maternity leavers have to be treated as if they were working normally or there is hell to pay with regards to benefits, bonuses etc??

Rachel

Elaine B.

Trouble is my boss is a real estate lawyer and will be dealing with the sale of the house plus the real estate agent we are using is a really good friend of his, so I can't exactly keep quiet about my reasons for leaving. Also even if I wanted to go back to work I really can't find a day care space that's close to work or home.

Elaine B.

I work in a very small office there are 2 lawyers and three assistants we don't receive any bonuses or benefits. I do however received Maternity benefits from the government which works out at 55% of my wage.

Beastie

Okay, so how about now that you've had the baby you've realised how much you miss the support network of your family and friends and have therefore made the decision to return home.

As for not being able to find childcare provision then you really have no alternative but to stay at home.

At the end of the day you've made your decision, you know you're moving back home so even if they decide to be funny with you it's not going to have a huge impact in the grand scheme of things.

I really wouldn't worry.

Lynne

Elaine B.

I know you're right I just need to get tomorrow over with

pinkmcfarquhar

Just think to yourself - this time in 24 hours it will all be over. I know I felt the same before handing in my resignation - but once I had done it, it felt like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders.

Fingers crossed it all goes well for you tomorrow.

Take care,
pink.

AlvicBC

Dont worry about it Elaine, very soon you'll be back in Larne and this will all be a distant memory

Let us know how you get on.

Elaine B.

It's funny I used to say the best thing about Larne was the boat leaving

Anyway I just got back from telling my boss I won't be coming back to work and it all went fine. I'm so glad it's over with now I can concentrate on getting the house ready to sell.

AlvicBC

You see, knew you could do it girl...that's one huge thing now to tick of the list

Elaine B.

Thanks Alvic

Now I wonder what I can stress about next? I get my list

Beastie

Hi Elaine, glad to hear today went okay. All that worrying and stressing and for nothing.

Now what's the next focus going to be?

Lynne

Elaine B.

selling this bloody house