Living apart, spouse visa?
Jan 28th 2018, 8:37 pm
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Re: Living apart, spouse visa?
Yes well he is renting a shared room at the moment, he says he doesn't think is fair that he pays for a deposit and month rent of place for ourselves and that's why he suggested me renting a hostel for some time but it's very expensive for me I was there last September and paid 500 pounds for 1 month in a hostel, the wages in my country are quite low like 400 per month so its quite difficult for me to save all that the 1.500 for the visa, the plane ticket and plus that I have to go twice to my neighbour country to make the English test and apply. And well he said he would not move with me to his parents house. So I would have to pay for that
Yet your husband is living in a shared house with mates, and is suggesting you either live with his parents, orin a hostel.
When you say he doesn't think is fair that he pays for a deposit and month rent of place for ourselves well, thats what married couples do.They get somewhere together, put down a deposit on it and pay rent on it
You are telling us that you have already been to the UK, where he made you pay to stay in a hostel,now you are paying for the visa, flights etc etc etc and when you get to the UK he does not even want to live with you?
If it sounds odd to us it is certainly going to sound odd to the immigration authorities. How on earth do you expect them to believe you are a genuine married couple if he isn't even prepared to rent a place and live with you?
Jan 28th 2018, 9:03 pm
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Re: Living apart, spouse visa?
I don't understand all this talk of you living in a hostel. You are moving to the UK on a Spouse Visa. Implicit in that is the fact that you are moving to be with your spouse and live as husband and wife.
Yet your husband is living in a shared house with mates, and is suggesting you either live with his parents, orin a hostel.
When you say he doesn't think is fair that he pays for a deposit and month rent of place for ourselves well, thats what married couples do.They get somewhere together, put down a deposit on it and pay rent on it
You are telling us that you have already been to the UK, where he made you pay to stay in a hostel,now you are paying for the visa, flights etc etc etc and when you get to the UK he does not even want to live with you?
If it sounds odd to us it is certainly going to sound odd to the immigration authorities. How on earth do you expect them to believe you are a genuine married couple if he isn't even prepared to rent a place and live with you?
Yet your husband is living in a shared house with mates, and is suggesting you either live with his parents, orin a hostel.
When you say he doesn't think is fair that he pays for a deposit and month rent of place for ourselves well, thats what married couples do.They get somewhere together, put down a deposit on it and pay rent on it
You are telling us that you have already been to the UK, where he made you pay to stay in a hostel,now you are paying for the visa, flights etc etc etc and when you get to the UK he does not even want to live with you?
If it sounds odd to us it is certainly going to sound odd to the immigration authorities. How on earth do you expect them to believe you are a genuine married couple if he isn't even prepared to rent a place and live with you?
Jan 28th 2018, 9:11 pm
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Re: Living apart, spouse visa?
Well first thanks for your answer. This time that I went to the UK we were separated and got together again, so that's why I stayed in a hostel. Now that we are together he just dont want to paid for he deposit and rent all by himself, he says he doesn't have enough money for that, I can pay him back there when I got a job in the UK but not at the moment cos of the wages here I was telling you before. That's why I suggested staying at his parents house in the spare room but then he said that is only a single bed so he was not gonna stay with me there. His parents and him live in the same city BTW. Thanks again Pollyana
Presumably he is paying rent in this place he is sharing? Why can't he leave there and move into somewhere with you instead? Immigration will expect you to be living as a married couple, and if you aren't, they will be looking for a good explanation. The fact that he is living in the same town as you, but not with you, will not go in your favour - it would look better if he was working 500 miles away and had to live near the job, but in the same town? Not going to go down well I'm afraid.
Jan 28th 2018, 9:34 pm
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I may sound a bit harsh and unfeeling about this, but honestly I'm not I'm just looking at it the way migration officials would, not just in the UK but elsewhere too.
Presumably he is paying rent in this place he is sharing? Why can't he leave there and move into somewhere with you instead? Immigration will expect you to be living as a married couple, and if you aren't, they will be looking for a good explanation. The fact that he is living in the same town as you, but not with you, will not go in your favour - it would look better if he was working 500 miles away and had to live near the job, but in the same town? Not going to go down well I'm afraid.
Presumably he is paying rent in this place he is sharing? Why can't he leave there and move into somewhere with you instead? Immigration will expect you to be living as a married couple, and if you aren't, they will be looking for a good explanation. The fact that he is living in the same town as you, but not with you, will not go in your favour - it would look better if he was working 500 miles away and had to live near the job, but in the same town? Not going to go down well I'm afraid.
Jan 28th 2018, 9:46 pm
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Re: Living apart, spouse visa?
Hello everyone.
I have an important question... Me and my husband are hoping to apply for the spouse visa soon (he is from England and I'm from Latin America) currently he is renting a room in a shared house, he told me that maybe when I arrive there I can stay at his mums house but he cannot stay with me because the room only is a single bed. The other option he told me is that I stay at a hostel for some months until we find a place of our own. My question is can that be a big problem I mean he staying in one place and me in another. I send the question to and adviser but sadly I haven't had any reply. Thanks in advance.
I have an important question... Me and my husband are hoping to apply for the spouse visa soon (he is from England and I'm from Latin America) currently he is renting a room in a shared house, he told me that maybe when I arrive there I can stay at his mums house but he cannot stay with me because the room only is a single bed. The other option he told me is that I stay at a hostel for some months until we find a place of our own. My question is can that be a big problem I mean he staying in one place and me in another. I send the question to and adviser but sadly I haven't had any reply. Thanks in advance.
If not, could he rent somewhere for you both ?
I thought the point of a Spouse visa was living together? How long do you both expect the proposed accomodation to be for?
Jan 28th 2018, 10:36 pm
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Re: Living apart, spouse visa?
Yes well he is renting a shared room at the moment, he says he doesn't think is fair that he pays for a deposit and month rent of place for ourselves and that's why he suggested me renting a hostel for some time but it's very expensive for me I was there last September and paid 500 pounds for 1 month in a hostel, the wages in my country are quite low like 400 per month so its quite difficult for me to save all that the 1.500 for the visa, the plane ticket and plus that I have to go twice to my neighbour country to make the English test and apply. And well he said he would not move with me to his parents house. So I would have to pay for that
Whats not fair about paying a deposit and rent? Doesn't he know being a husband (or boyfriend) means looking after you, taking care of you, especially as you are leaving your country to join him.
Can't quite believe he would make you stay in a hostel when you came last time and pay for all of it too.
Jan 28th 2018, 10:40 pm
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Re: Living apart, spouse visa?
In addition to all the other expenses you will also have to pay for a house inspection report.
Also, your in-laws will need to provide a letter saying you can stay there plus proof of their either owning or renting their property.
If that bedroom with the single bed is less than 50 square ft it will not be acceptable.
Account is taken only of rooms with a floor area larger than 50 square feet and rooms of a type used either as a living room or bedroom.
Also, your in-laws will need to provide a letter saying you can stay there plus proof of their either owning or renting their property.
If that bedroom with the single bed is less than 50 square ft it will not be acceptable.
Account is taken only of rooms with a floor area larger than 50 square feet and rooms of a type used either as a living room or bedroom.
Jan 29th 2018, 12:43 am
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Re: Living apart, spouse visa?
Well first thanks for your answer. This time that I went to the UK we were separated and got together again, so that's why I stayed in a hostel. Now that we are together he just dont want to paid for he deposit and rent all by himself, he says he doesn't have enough money for that, I can pay him back there when I got a job in the UK ....
Jan 29th 2018, 1:21 am
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[QUOTE=Pulaski;12429387]Are you have second thoughts yet about whether being married to this guy is a good idea? ..... If not then I would venture to say that you blöödy well should be
Jan 29th 2018, 1:26 am
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Wow. If this is true then I feel sorry for you, he sounds like a complete loser, surely you can do better?
Whats not fair about paying a deposit and rent? Doesn't he know being a husband (or boyfriend) means looking after you, taking care of you, especially as you are leaving your country to join him.
Can't quite believe he would make you stay in a hostel when you came last time and pay for all of it too.
Whats not fair about paying a deposit and rent? Doesn't he know being a husband (or boyfriend) means looking after you, taking care of you, especially as you are leaving your country to join him.
Can't quite believe he would make you stay in a hostel when you came last time and pay for all of it too.
Jan 29th 2018, 2:10 am
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Well dunno what to say like I said he doesn't have a lot of money but yeah I'm the one paying for the whole visa, the plane ticket, the two trips to the neighbour country, he says he will help me with the nsh payment, I told him I wanted a advicer but he thinks there is no need to. I just hope we stay under the same roof
Jan 29th 2018, 2:15 am
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Marriage is a partnership, not something that you get billed or invoiced for, everything is shared, income and expenses, assets and liabilities. When my wife came to the UK she didn't have a lot of practical skills that would help her get a job, so the first thing she did, at my insistance, was go to a business college to convert her knowledge and skills into something that would get her a job - in other words, her first impact on our family budget, was a significant expense, while she acquired skills to enable her to get a job. But that was OK, because she was my wife!
Jan 29th 2018, 3:02 am
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Re: Living apart, spouse visa?
Well dunno what to say like I said he doesn't have a lot of money but yeah I'm the one paying for the whole visa, the plane ticket, the two trips to the neighbour country, he says he will help me with the nsh payment, I told him I wanted a advicer but he thinks there is no need to. I just hope we stay under the same roof
I think you need to be very careful. Your husband is supposed to be financially sponsoring you to live in the UK, yet he's not even prepared to pay a deposit on a rental property so you can live together?
Something's not right..
Jan 29th 2018, 3:36 am
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What others have hinted at above, but I will come out and say in plain English: is that what your husband is proposing is not normal, not acceptable, and will sooner or later put you in a very difficult situation - and I would say sooner, rather than later.
Marriage is a partnership, not something that you get billed or invoiced for, everything is shared, income and expenses, assets and liabilities. When my wife came to the UK she didn't have a lot of practical skills that would help her get a job, so the first thing she did, at my insistance, was go to a business college to convert her knowledge and skills into something that would get her a job - in other words, her first impact on our family budget, was a significant expense, while she acquired skills to enable her to get a job. But that was OK, because she was my wife!
Marriage is a partnership, not something that you get billed or invoiced for, everything is shared, income and expenses, assets and liabilities. When my wife came to the UK she didn't have a lot of practical skills that would help her get a job, so the first thing she did, at my insistance, was go to a business college to convert her knowledge and skills into something that would get her a job - in other words, her first impact on our family budget, was a significant expense, while she acquired skills to enable her to get a job. But that was OK, because she was my wife!
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