Shard

It's a funny concept..."don't regret... but with hindsight"...and I can apply it to moves/things I've done myself.

What I wonder is if it is in fact a regret or small regret - but just a fudge on accepting/admitting it.

I can see decisions in the past being right based on info known/circumstances, but then in the future when things do change... Is that not regret?

Not being critical, just musing...

Piff Poff

I get what your saying. I dont regret the move as we have done, seen and experienced, in hindsight, I think we could have been just as happy or happier or even just as disenchanted as we are elsewhere in the UK without the pain of missing loved ones.

feelbritish

Missing "loved ones" creeps up on you! I believe that what you think you want at age "add it in here" is not necessary what you still want when you get there! You cannot know how you will feel in 10 years time and cannot even plan for it! I am trying to live day by day and today is a happy one, sun is shining beautifully here on VI, not a cloud in the sky, very mild, garden is growing rapidly and I will be working in a T shirt shoveling fish compost on my beds! Only shoveling we have had to do this winter and I love it!

Shard

That's a really good point.

Shard

The "just as" idea makes sense.

Piff Poff

The loved ones thing gets you more as some of them peg it, I'm not sure we would have moved had we known that my Mum was going to be diagnosed with terminal cancer within months of us moving and that both of OHs parents were going to be gone in the 1st 3 years it makes the ònes left a bit more missable.

rivingtonpike

My two Grandmothers are clinging on to life like grim death! They seem determined not to pop off - even though they're both well past their sell by dates. It's sad really. Even though we're close, I've decided not to go back to the UK just to cremate them. I speak to each of them on the phone once a week.