6 Years in Alberta Today...
#16
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Re: 6 Years in Alberta Today...
Hi yes looked at it a while back and again today but it is not very active. The Island forum has had no new details since 2013. To be honest a lot of the people on there and here in our valley are Afrikaans descent and hated the English as much as everything else plus they also have nothing nice to say about SA or its politics and I find their negativity disturbing! Most of them were forced to leave due to no jobs and fear of their future and no real connection to Europe like a lot of us did have. SA has a very complicated history I have some friends, one Scottish, one English and a couple from South Africa. The ones from SA have settled nicely into life here having brought their entire families over. I sometimes meet up with them. It is the Canadians I find hard to get that "real" friend with. I have a few acquaintances (ones that have traveled extensively) and like them very much but I am always the one making the contact! Gets a bit tiring. My main problem is I do not like the winter and get depressed! Hopefully will be remedying that starting Dec this year!
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Re: 6 Years in Alberta Today...
. Accept certain facts:
1. No depth of conversation or understanding
2. No close friends (unless fellow expats)
3. Everything must be big
4. No humour
5. Same old same old and boring food
If you can just accept that and find your own niche and a nice job in a place that suits all three of you, then you are likely to settle better.
All the best
1. No depth of conversation or understanding
2. No close friends (unless fellow expats)
3. Everything must be big
4. No humour
5. Same old same old and boring food
If you can just accept that and find your own niche and a nice job in a place that suits all three of you, then you are likely to settle better.
All the best
#18
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Re: 6 Years in Alberta Today...
Hi Feelbritish, we haven't been here long enough to make friends with anyone yet, we only landed on 6th December 2014. We are originally from Zim, moved to SA, then UK and now here. To be honest, we do have a giggle because where we came from in the UK the British were the same, we never really made any good friends in 14 years, only with one family really, the rest was "skin deep". Oh we got on with all the neighbours etc. and had parties and BBQ's etc. but there was never that strong friendship connection. Most of the neighbours had lived in that community for 20 - 30 years and it was kind of hard to fit in. But the British complain about the same thing here, so I guess its each to their own. I know what you mean about the real Afrikaans people, we faced that in SA too, although we did make good friends there and we still keep in regular contact with our SA friends. Luckily here we have family so hopefully it won't be too bad. Once we are settled we will try and join clubs and see what happens. Its more difficult now because our kids are grown up so we won't get the connections that you usually do from their activities. My eldest plays rugby and cricket so hopefully he will get into some clubs around here and make friends that way.
Where abouts in SA are you from? We lived in Durban, it was great in the 80's. I don't think so now though.
Where abouts in SA are you from? We lived in Durban, it was great in the 80's. I don't think so now though.
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Re: 6 Years in Alberta Today...
Wow it shocks me to find myself on the opposite side. My take is you *can* have a decent conversation with people, though it takes a while to get to know them. You absolutely cannot, however, have a controversial conversation with someone you've just met and it's 50/50 if you joke around with someone you've just met whether they'll have a sour face or not. On the other hand, sometimes you can. The other day there were two young lads in home depot helping me with some stuff, loading it onto my truck. The one young lad had a sense of humour and joked around the same way I did whereas the other one had a deer in the headlights what's happening look to him. We also do have friends who are genuine people and who are both Canadian. That said, the vast majority of Canadians we meet socially are basically socially retarded. House parties are the best for that - you go to a house party full of Canadians and oftentimes nobody talks to you and when you try to strike up a conversation you get a shocked look. The hilarious thing is that Canadians do it to each other too. Our neighbour, an elderly lady was invited to our neighbour on the other side's party (as were we) and it was impossible to strike up a conversation. Our old lady friend said the same thing. That actually made me feel better - it pointed out that the party goers were just ignorant idiots instead of singling my wife and I out. Anyway, after a certain amount of time you just get used to not socializing very much. If we went back home (and it's on the card unless things get better economically) we'd probably not go out much because we've just gotten used to doing our own thing.
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Re: 6 Years in Alberta Today...
Hi Feelbritish, we haven't been here long enough to make friends with anyone yet, we only landed on 6th December 2014. We are originally from Zim, moved to SA, then UK and now here. To be honest, we do have a giggle because where we came from in the UK the British were the same, we never really made any good friends in 14 years, only with one family really, the rest was "skin deep". Oh we got on with all the neighbours etc. and had parties and BBQ's etc. but there was never that strong friendship connection. Most of the neighbours had lived in that community for 20 - 30 years and it was kind of hard to fit in. But the British complain about the same thing here, so I guess its each to their own. I know what you mean about the real Afrikaans people, we faced that in SA too, although we did make good friends there and we still keep in regular contact with our SA friends. Luckily here we have family so hopefully it won't be too bad. Once we are settled we will try and join clubs and see what happens. Its more difficult now because our kids are grown up so we won't get the connections that you usually do from their activities. My eldest plays rugby and cricket so hopefully he will get into some clubs around here and make friends that way.
Where abouts in SA are you from? We lived in Durban, it was great in the 80's. I don't think so now though.
Where abouts in SA are you from? We lived in Durban, it was great in the 80's. I don't think so now though.
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Re: 6 Years in Alberta Today...
Wow it shocks me to find myself on the opposite side. My take is you *can* have a decent conversation with people, though it takes a while to get to know them. You absolutely cannot, however, have a controversial conversation with someone you've just met and it's 50/50 if you joke around with someone you've just met whether they'll have a sour face or not. On the other hand, sometimes you can. The other day there were two young lads in home depot helping me with some stuff, loading it onto my truck. The one young lad had a sense of humour and joked around the same way I did whereas the other one had a deer in the headlights what's happening look to him. We also do have friends who are genuine people and who are both Canadian. That said, the vast majority of Canadians we meet socially are basically socially retarded. House parties are the best for that - you go to a house party full of Canadians and oftentimes nobody talks to you and when you try to strike up a conversation you get a shocked look. The hilarious thing is that Canadians do it to each other too. Our neighbour, an elderly lady was invited to our neighbour on the other side's party (as were we) and it was impossible to strike up a conversation. Our old lady friend said the same thing. That actually made me feel better - it pointed out that the party goers were just ignorant idiots instead of singling my wife and I out. Anyway, after a certain amount of time you just get used to not socializing very much. If we went back home (and it's on the card unless things get better economically) we'd probably not go out much because we've just gotten used to doing our own thing.
#22
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Re: 6 Years in Alberta Today...
HI
Our 6 year anniversary arrives tomorrow.
I too came with a job, and like you it was to Alberta (High River). We jumped through hoops to get our PR and eventually we got it, I will apply for Citizenship even though I have no intention of remaining in Canada. I find the only friends I have here are work mates (English), of which FRIENDS I would class 2 of them. Its hard to make friends with people that just dont get you, we have tried. We live in a great small community, however it took Canada's worst natural disaster for our town (which was devastated) to come together. And the togetherness was really brought to our attention with the thousands of volunteers from around the country that came to help those in need, I cant thank them enough. For those of you that live here, could you honestly say that people would help like that in the UK? So yes the Canadians are the nicest people you could meet, and our neighbors are great, but if they just don't get you its hard to make friends.
It is becoming very stagnant for us, go to work, go to bed, go to work. Not sure if any of you would agree, but i found the first 2 years were great (apart from the job), everything is new so you explore as much as you can, see what you can and do what you can... We have the Rockies on our doorstep, so some great adventures there.
Would be a lot better if we had some friends to enjoy it with. OMG this is depressing... Like others have said, a great place to live raise a family but do your research first.
If I could rewind the clock and do it all again, i would do exactly the same, believe it or not, i have no regrets. Although it is time for a change.
A great pub and a chip shop that doesn't open a box would make life better.
Our 6 year anniversary arrives tomorrow.
I too came with a job, and like you it was to Alberta (High River). We jumped through hoops to get our PR and eventually we got it, I will apply for Citizenship even though I have no intention of remaining in Canada. I find the only friends I have here are work mates (English), of which FRIENDS I would class 2 of them. Its hard to make friends with people that just dont get you, we have tried. We live in a great small community, however it took Canada's worst natural disaster for our town (which was devastated) to come together. And the togetherness was really brought to our attention with the thousands of volunteers from around the country that came to help those in need, I cant thank them enough. For those of you that live here, could you honestly say that people would help like that in the UK? So yes the Canadians are the nicest people you could meet, and our neighbors are great, but if they just don't get you its hard to make friends.
It is becoming very stagnant for us, go to work, go to bed, go to work. Not sure if any of you would agree, but i found the first 2 years were great (apart from the job), everything is new so you explore as much as you can, see what you can and do what you can... We have the Rockies on our doorstep, so some great adventures there.
Would be a lot better if we had some friends to enjoy it with. OMG this is depressing... Like others have said, a great place to live raise a family but do your research first.
If I could rewind the clock and do it all again, i would do exactly the same, believe it or not, i have no regrets. Although it is time for a change.
A great pub and a chip shop that doesn't open a box would make life better.
#23
Re: 6 Years in Alberta Today...
HI
Our 6 year anniversary arrives tomorrow.
I too came with a job, and like you it was to Alberta (High River). We jumped through hoops to get our PR and eventually we got it, I will apply for Citizenship even though I have no intention of remaining in Canada. I find the only friends I have here are work mates (English), of which FRIENDS I would class 2 of them. Its hard to make friends with people that just dont get you, we have tried. We live in a great small community, however it took Canada's worst natural disaster for our town (which was devastated) to come together. And the togetherness was really brought to our attention with the thousands of volunteers from around the country that came to help those in need, I cant thank them enough. For those of you that live here, could you honestly say that people would help like that in the UK? So yes the Canadians are the nicest people you could meet, and our neighbors are great, but if they just don't get you its hard to make friends.
It is becoming very stagnant for us, go to work, go to bed, go to work. Not sure if any of you would agree, but i found the first 2 years were great (apart from the job), everything is new so you explore as much as you can, see what you can and do what you can... We have the Rockies on our doorstep, so some great adventures there.
Would be a lot better if we had some friends to enjoy it with. OMG this is depressing... Like others have said, a great place to live raise a family but do your research first.
If I could rewind the clock and do it all again, i would do exactly the same, believe it or not, i have no regrets. Although it is time for a change.
A great pub and a chip shop that doesn't open a box would make life better.
Our 6 year anniversary arrives tomorrow.
I too came with a job, and like you it was to Alberta (High River). We jumped through hoops to get our PR and eventually we got it, I will apply for Citizenship even though I have no intention of remaining in Canada. I find the only friends I have here are work mates (English), of which FRIENDS I would class 2 of them. Its hard to make friends with people that just dont get you, we have tried. We live in a great small community, however it took Canada's worst natural disaster for our town (which was devastated) to come together. And the togetherness was really brought to our attention with the thousands of volunteers from around the country that came to help those in need, I cant thank them enough. For those of you that live here, could you honestly say that people would help like that in the UK? So yes the Canadians are the nicest people you could meet, and our neighbors are great, but if they just don't get you its hard to make friends.
It is becoming very stagnant for us, go to work, go to bed, go to work. Not sure if any of you would agree, but i found the first 2 years were great (apart from the job), everything is new so you explore as much as you can, see what you can and do what you can... We have the Rockies on our doorstep, so some great adventures there.
Would be a lot better if we had some friends to enjoy it with. OMG this is depressing... Like others have said, a great place to live raise a family but do your research first.
If I could rewind the clock and do it all again, i would do exactly the same, believe it or not, i have no regrets. Although it is time for a change.
A great pub and a chip shop that doesn't open a box would make life better.
#24
Re: 6 Years in Alberta Today...
HI
Our 6 year anniversary arrives tomorrow.
I too came with a job, and like you it was to Alberta (High River). We jumped through hoops to get our PR and eventually we got it, I will apply for Citizenship even though I have no intention of remaining in Canada. I find the only friends I have here are work mates (English), of which FRIENDS I would class 2 of them. Its hard to make friends with people that just dont get you, we have tried. We live in a great small community, however it took Canada's worst natural disaster for our town (which was devastated) to come together. And the togetherness was really brought to our attention with the thousands of volunteers from around the country that came to help those in need, I cant thank them enough. For those of you that live here, could you honestly say that people would help like that in the UK? So yes the Canadians are the nicest people you could meet, and our neighbors are great, but if they just don't get you its hard to make friends.
It is becoming very stagnant for us, go to work, go to bed, go to work. Not sure if any of you would agree, but i found the first 2 years were great (apart from the job), everything is new so you explore as much as you can, see what you can and do what you can... We have the Rockies on our doorstep, so some great adventures there.
Would be a lot better if we had some friends to enjoy it with. OMG this is depressing... Like others have said, a great place to live raise a family but do your research first.
If I could rewind the clock and do it all again, i would do exactly the same, believe it or not, i have no regrets. Although it is time for a change.
A great pub and a chip shop that doesn't open a box would make life better.
Our 6 year anniversary arrives tomorrow.
I too came with a job, and like you it was to Alberta (High River). We jumped through hoops to get our PR and eventually we got it, I will apply for Citizenship even though I have no intention of remaining in Canada. I find the only friends I have here are work mates (English), of which FRIENDS I would class 2 of them. Its hard to make friends with people that just dont get you, we have tried. We live in a great small community, however it took Canada's worst natural disaster for our town (which was devastated) to come together. And the togetherness was really brought to our attention with the thousands of volunteers from around the country that came to help those in need, I cant thank them enough. For those of you that live here, could you honestly say that people would help like that in the UK? So yes the Canadians are the nicest people you could meet, and our neighbors are great, but if they just don't get you its hard to make friends.
It is becoming very stagnant for us, go to work, go to bed, go to work. Not sure if any of you would agree, but i found the first 2 years were great (apart from the job), everything is new so you explore as much as you can, see what you can and do what you can... We have the Rockies on our doorstep, so some great adventures there.
Would be a lot better if we had some friends to enjoy it with. OMG this is depressing... Like others have said, a great place to live raise a family but do your research first.
If I could rewind the clock and do it all again, i would do exactly the same, believe it or not, i have no regrets. Although it is time for a change.
A great pub and a chip shop that doesn't open a box would make life better.
#25
Re: 6 Years in Alberta Today...
Could it be that you're trying to fit in somewhere too rural? What is it that they don't "get" about you? Humour or something more?
#26
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Re: 6 Years in Alberta Today...
They sure dont understand humor,, especially Sarcasm..lol
I am a very outgoing person, when i have a beer inside; i can be one of the funniest and nicest guys you could meet....my head is full of one liners that can be thrown out at the blink of an eye. Just about any conversation, death of a family member, suicide bomber, natural disater; i can throw out a few one liners and turn the conversation from doom and gloom to pratically ROFL. Unfortunately the Canadians I know just dont get me, Ithink they are too serious. Dont get me wrong, i know when to switch it off too.
ANyway, here we are 6 years later, we have a beautiful house in the wonderful community of High River, Alberta (where basball caps are replaced with cowboy hats), and we have our first child (a little Canuck)... So in amongst the crap is something wonderful.
I am a very outgoing person, when i have a beer inside; i can be one of the funniest and nicest guys you could meet....my head is full of one liners that can be thrown out at the blink of an eye. Just about any conversation, death of a family member, suicide bomber, natural disater; i can throw out a few one liners and turn the conversation from doom and gloom to pratically ROFL. Unfortunately the Canadians I know just dont get me, Ithink they are too serious. Dont get me wrong, i know when to switch it off too.
ANyway, here we are 6 years later, we have a beautiful house in the wonderful community of High River, Alberta (where basball caps are replaced with cowboy hats), and we have our first child (a little Canuck)... So in amongst the crap is something wonderful.
#27
Re: 6 Years in Alberta Today...
Nope sarcasm and irony aren't big in rural parts. It's probably not so much seriousness as generally not being tuned to that kind of humour. With your little Canuck you'll have lots more opportunities to participate in your community and relate to people in different ways. And of course your one-liners and wit are more than welcome on BE!
#28
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Re: 6 Years in Alberta Today...
HI
Our 6 year anniversary arrives tomorrow.
I too came with a job, and like you it was to Alberta (High River). We jumped through hoops to get our PR and eventually we got it, I will apply for Citizenship even though I have no intention of remaining in Canada. I find the only friends I have here are work mates (English), of which FRIENDS I would class 2 of them. Its hard to make friends with people that just dont get you, we have tried. We live in a great small community, however it took Canada's worst natural disaster for our town (which was devastated) to come together. And the togetherness was really brought to our attention with the thousands of volunteers from around the country that came to help those in need, I cant thank them enough. For those of you that live here, could you honestly say that people would help like that in the UK? So yes the Canadians are the nicest people you could meet, and our neighbors are great, but if they just don't get you its hard to make friends.
It is becoming very stagnant for us, go to work, go to bed, go to work. Not sure if any of you would agree, but i found the first 2 years were great (apart from the job), everything is new so you explore as much as you can, see what you can and do what you can... We have the Rockies on our doorstep, so some great adventures there.
Would be a lot better if we had some friends to enjoy it with. OMG this is depressing... Like others have said, a great place to live raise a family but do your research first.
If I could rewind the clock and do it all again, i would do exactly the same, believe it or not, i have no regrets. Although it is time for a change.
A great pub and a chip shop that doesn't open a box would make life better.
Our 6 year anniversary arrives tomorrow.
I too came with a job, and like you it was to Alberta (High River). We jumped through hoops to get our PR and eventually we got it, I will apply for Citizenship even though I have no intention of remaining in Canada. I find the only friends I have here are work mates (English), of which FRIENDS I would class 2 of them. Its hard to make friends with people that just dont get you, we have tried. We live in a great small community, however it took Canada's worst natural disaster for our town (which was devastated) to come together. And the togetherness was really brought to our attention with the thousands of volunteers from around the country that came to help those in need, I cant thank them enough. For those of you that live here, could you honestly say that people would help like that in the UK? So yes the Canadians are the nicest people you could meet, and our neighbors are great, but if they just don't get you its hard to make friends.
It is becoming very stagnant for us, go to work, go to bed, go to work. Not sure if any of you would agree, but i found the first 2 years were great (apart from the job), everything is new so you explore as much as you can, see what you can and do what you can... We have the Rockies on our doorstep, so some great adventures there.
Would be a lot better if we had some friends to enjoy it with. OMG this is depressing... Like others have said, a great place to live raise a family but do your research first.
If I could rewind the clock and do it all again, i would do exactly the same, believe it or not, i have no regrets. Although it is time for a change.
A great pub and a chip shop that doesn't open a box would make life better.
#29
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Re: 6 Years in Alberta Today...
Could never have lived in Alberta myself! Enough of them here with a very different attitude to a lot of us in BC. We were going to go back to UK this year but have decided to stay and make this our home for next 7 years. Accept certain facts:
1. No depth of conversation or understanding
2. No close friends (unless fellow expats)
3. Everything must be big
4. No humour
5. Same old same old and boring food
If you can just accept that and find your own niche and a nice job in a place that suits all three of you, then you are likely to settle better.
Good for you going for citizenship. The ceremony is a good way of feeling welcomed to Canada!
All the best
1. No depth of conversation or understanding
2. No close friends (unless fellow expats)
3. Everything must be big
4. No humour
5. Same old same old and boring food
If you can just accept that and find your own niche and a nice job in a place that suits all three of you, then you are likely to settle better.
Good for you going for citizenship. The ceremony is a good way of feeling welcomed to Canada!
All the best
No problems having deep conversations with our Canadian friends.
Lots of close friends that we can rely on, only 2 of which are expats.
The Canadians we hang out with have a great sense of humor, get the British humor, sarcasm etc.
Lots of great and varied food (wine & craft beer also!)
Everything must be big...if you are talking trucks, RVs, houses etc then I don't see anything wrong with this, in fact I love that there is lots of space to have "big" stuff.
I think when expats only have expats as friends that can be a problem as conversations can revolve around putting Canada and Canadians down which can feed into a negative perspective on life and people here.