in a tiswas!!!!
Sep 11th 2010, 4:41 pm
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Re: in a tiswas!!!!
the walking law applies because she was already in ontario on holidays
Sep 11th 2010, 4:44 pm
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John B- the kids father wouldnt care less i could freeze to death as far as he is concerned..we decided to move when we did so its not his problem..we dont get along and never have done..
Sep 11th 2010, 4:59 pm
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IMO you really need to consult an Ontario family law specialist.
Googled from this Ontario law firm's website
http://www.blakefamilylaw.ca/#
There is no magic age at which a child has the right to decide where he or she is going to live. The court gives more weight to the child's wishes as the child matures. By the time a child has reached the teen years, a court would require very cogent reasons not to follow the child’s wishes. By the time a child has reached 14 years of age, the custody issue should be a moot point.
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Sep 11th 2010, 8:22 pm
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I let mine go and live with their father (who sounds a bit like your ex although would most likely set fire to the trailer whilst I was in it!).
My serious advice is to let them go. Kids grow up very quickly and it would put them in more of a situation to have to deal with "he said she said" or yelling, or lawyers, or split loyalties or hurt feelings.
I have to live with the fact that people didn't think I "fought" for mine - however knowing what arguing parents feels like when it's happening - sometimes its better to not fight - and just go with whats happening.
It doesn't make you weak - or a quitter - or not care, irrespective of what others might think.
To give in for the benefit of peace is my motto, and the kids know you love them.
Who knows - after they find the grass isn't greener they may come back with tails between their legs - as also is on the cards in my case too
Sep 12th 2010, 4:40 am
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Am now confused about the dogs- do you have 3 dogs? you said you re-homed them when you left the uk - or is that other dogs?? I am looking for a rental at the moment with 2 large hounds- have found some 
Sep 12th 2010, 4:49 am
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I think she may have bought new dogs over here, 2 slobbery and 1 not so slobbery.
It is tough to find rentals with digs but as Caz has proved - it can be done
(and her dogs are mental!!!!!!! 
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It is tough to find rentals with digs but as Caz has proved - it can be done
(and her dogs are mental!!!!!!! )
Sep 12th 2010, 5:02 am
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Sep 12th 2010, 11:17 pm
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thanks for your mail mandy im glad that this isnt just happening to me..as u say one day they will grow up and see exactly what there father truely is...we plan to move so i will at least still be able to see them..my heart goes out to u very brave decision u had to make but sometimes as much as u fight for them it doesnt mean the kids want the same thing as u...then things get messy and expensive...thanks again...we rehomed the dogs we had in england i have new dogs here...
Sep 12th 2010, 11:54 pm
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thanks for your mail mandy im glad that this isnt just happening to me..as u say one day they will grow up and see exactly what there father truely is...we plan to move so i will at least still be able to see them..my heart goes out to u very brave decision u had to make but sometimes as much as u fight for them it doesnt mean the kids want the same thing as u...then things get messy and expensive...thanks again...we rehomed the dogs we had in england i have new dogs here...
Kids are people. not properties, and it's not as though yours are 3 years old. Yours really are old enough to know how they feel - even if it is the teenage "grass is always greener" syndrome. They have to learn to make decisions - and this is a big one no doubt.
But if it goes wrong - you're still their mum and will be there if they need it (even if somedays you feel like saying "you buggered off and turned my life upside down - now you wanna waltz back in like nothings happened?????"!)
Let them stay with dad (just because you two don't get on doesn't make him a bad dad either btw - he may be just what they need right now and vice versa) and leave doors open
Sep 13th 2010, 1:08 am
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Thanks for the dog clarification!
Sep 13th 2010, 1:17 am
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Do you have any cats?
