Was it difficult breaking the news to your family?
Dec 1st 2010, 5:59 pm
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Re: Was it difficult breaking the news to your family?
For us it was mostly fine. My parents were very supportive. But some members of the wife's family were upset and declared that they would never come and see us. They haven't. Stuff like that can make it hard, especially when you have been close to them in the past.
When it comes to friends, lots of people say they will come out and visit. The reality is somewhat different. Out of all our UK friends, only 2 or 3 have come. It is mainly close family that visit us here.
When it comes to friends, lots of people say they will come out and visit. The reality is somewhat different. Out of all our UK friends, only 2 or 3 have come. It is mainly close family that visit us here.
Dec 1st 2010, 6:13 pm
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Re: Was it difficult breaking the news to your family?
At the end of the day life is short, and you have got to make the most of any opportunity that may come your way. We also thought it would be better for the children - which is turning out to be true.
At the end of the day you have got to be selfish yourselves and say 'this is the best thing for us' and do it - regardless of what anyone says or thinks.
best of luck
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Dec 1st 2010, 6:39 pm
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Re: Was it difficult breaking the news to your family?
Lots of really good posts on here! Thanks for all your responses and support - you all know what we're going through right now. It's nice to know that we're not alone too in what we're doing!
As a couple of you have already mentioned, we have to do what is best for us as a family unit, and like you say - life is too short!
We may break a few hearts by leaving, but we know that if we stay we'll continue in the rut we're presently in and always wonder "what if...?"
Monday is coming soon, the day we plan to break the news. Dreading it, but it'll also be a relief to finally have it out in the open...
As a couple of you have already mentioned, we have to do what is best for us as a family unit, and like you say - life is too short!
We may break a few hearts by leaving, but we know that if we stay we'll continue in the rut we're presently in and always wonder "what if...?"
Monday is coming soon, the day we plan to break the news. Dreading it, but it'll also be a relief to finally have it out in the open...
Dec 8th 2010, 2:07 pm
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Re: Was it difficult breaking the news to your family?
Just to update this thread.... we told them the news!
They are understandably upset, but actually are taking the news surprisingly well. We thought they would be a lot more upset and angry. But so far so good & we're still on speaking terms... although it's early days yet and they may still be in shock.
To be honest, telling them has been a lot more emotionally draining for us than we expected. It was much, much harder than we thought.
Thank you to everyone on here once again for your nice posts, they all helped us very much!
They are understandably upset, but actually are taking the news surprisingly well. We thought they would be a lot more upset and angry. But so far so good & we're still on speaking terms... although it's early days yet and they may still be in shock.
To be honest, telling them has been a lot more emotionally draining for us than we expected. It was much, much harder than we thought.
Thank you to everyone on here once again for your nice posts, they all helped us very much!
Dec 8th 2010, 2:23 pm
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Re: Was it difficult breaking the news to your family?
Commence phase II - reassurance.
May be worth reading up on the Kubler-Ross Model of 5 stages of grief.
If you can now start working to combat that through addressing the issues that they will be afraid of (We'll hardly see you!, You'll be so far away! etc) then it should make an easier transition for all. Skype is a wonderful thing; we started using it while still here in the UK (we live in NW and M-I-L is in the Midlands) so it is normal practice before we go out there.
May be worth reading up on the Kubler-Ross Model of 5 stages of grief.
If you can now start working to combat that through addressing the issues that they will be afraid of (We'll hardly see you!, You'll be so far away! etc) then it should make an easier transition for all. Skype is a wonderful thing; we started using it while still here in the UK (we live in NW and M-I-L is in the Midlands) so it is normal practice before we go out there.
