We made it!
Oct 3rd 2013, 3:47 pm
#76
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Re: We made it!
Can you help me make the move too?!
My common law partner is a permanent resident in Canada. He moved over with his mother and step-father in 1981 when he was 11. He is not a Canadian citizen and has permanent resident status in Canada. He does still hold a British Passport. He wants to move back to England since he never wanted to come to Canada in the first place lol and he is and has been completely miserable since he got off the plan and I made things worse by sending him back over to England to visit his brothers that still reside in england and his father resides in Ireland for 6 weeks for his birthday.
We don't have anything holding us here like mortgages or fancy careers ...but we also don't have $20,000 in savings either.
Is he entitled to "Right of Return" and how would I go about getting him back home?
Is there any kind of help or assistance with jobs, housing etc until we get on our feet? He is worker if he has a couple of days off he's like a bare with a sore ass....so I know it would only be a matter of a couple of months until he found a job. any help in the right direction would be fantastic.
My common law partner is a permanent resident in Canada. He moved over with his mother and step-father in 1981 when he was 11. He is not a Canadian citizen and has permanent resident status in Canada. He does still hold a British Passport. He wants to move back to England since he never wanted to come to Canada in the first place lol and he is and has been completely miserable since he got off the plan and I made things worse by sending him back over to England to visit his brothers that still reside in england and his father resides in Ireland for 6 weeks for his birthday.
We don't have anything holding us here like mortgages or fancy careers ...but we also don't have $20,000 in savings either.
Is he entitled to "Right of Return" and how would I go about getting him back home?
Is there any kind of help or assistance with jobs, housing etc until we get on our feet? He is worker if he has a couple of days off he's like a bare with a sore ass....so I know it would only be a matter of a couple of months until he found a job. any help in the right direction would be fantastic.
Oct 4th 2013, 4:30 pm
#77
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Location: Formely of Phoenix, AZ USA, now Barry, UK
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Re: We made it!
I have been back over a year and the other day, in the village shop, the owner asked me for £2.75. I gave him £3.50 and he looked at me a bit oddly. I confused my 50p's with quarters. I felt like such an eejit, but I had a laugh about it any. Glad you are enjoying being back.
Oct 4th 2013, 8:16 pm
#78
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Location: Canadian Waters.
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Re: We made it!
I haven't been on for a while as the remaining few weeks in Canada were somewhat hectic and I was doing it all alone with the 2 kids as hubby was already working in England.
So we sailed back on the QM2 from NYC to SOU and wow what a great sailing. Loved it all and the sea was smooth as silk the whole way.
We even brought the sunshine with us, it's been glorious since we arrived on Saturday morning.
Totally loving it all so far. We are staying with friends in Caversham just outside Reading and it's a lovely area but not our choice for living once we find a rental.
I didn't realise before how friendly us Brits are. Everyone has been helpful and so kind. I've been chatting away to shop assistants and just random people really
We've been walking along the Thames with lots of other walkers, bikers and boaters and it's just been really nice.
I took my first train journey in years today just a few stops as we don't have a car just yet and even the train guards have become friendly and helpful.
So after 6 years in Canada depressed and living someone else's life, I am finally feeling like me again. I am home and very happy right now.
I haven't read much else on here yet but I hope MissB, Whofan and all the other new returnees are still enjoying being home.
So we sailed back on the QM2 from NYC to SOU and wow what a great sailing. Loved it all and the sea was smooth as silk the whole way.
We even brought the sunshine with us, it's been glorious since we arrived on Saturday morning.
Totally loving it all so far. We are staying with friends in Caversham just outside Reading and it's a lovely area but not our choice for living once we find a rental.
I didn't realise before how friendly us Brits are. Everyone has been helpful and so kind. I've been chatting away to shop assistants and just random people really
We've been walking along the Thames with lots of other walkers, bikers and boaters and it's just been really nice.
I took my first train journey in years today just a few stops as we don't have a car just yet and even the train guards have become friendly and helpful.
So after 6 years in Canada depressed and living someone else's life, I am finally feeling like me again. I am home and very happy right now.
I haven't read much else on here yet but I hope MissB, Whofan and all the other new returnees are still enjoying being home.
I am so happy that you arrived safely and are happy.
Last edited by Back2UK; Oct 4th 2013 at 8:19 pm.
Oct 5th 2013, 1:54 am
#79
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Re: We made it!
Can you help me make the move too?!
My common law partner is a permanent resident in Canada. He moved over with his mother and step-father in 1981 when he was 11. He is not a Canadian citizen and has permanent resident status in Canada. He does still hold a British Passport. He wants to move back to England since he never wanted to come to Canada in the first place lol and he is and has been completely miserable since he got off the plan and I made things worse by sending him back over to England to visit his brothers that still reside in england and his father resides in Ireland for 6 weeks for his birthday.
We don't have anything holding us here like mortgages or fancy careers ...but we also don't have $20,000 in savings either.
Is he entitled to "Right of Return" and how would I go about getting him back home?
Is there any kind of help or assistance with jobs, housing etc until we get on our feet? He is worker if he has a couple of days off he's like a bare with a sore ass....so I know it would only be a matter of a couple of months until he found a job. any help in the right direction would be fantastic.
My common law partner is a permanent resident in Canada. He moved over with his mother and step-father in 1981 when he was 11. He is not a Canadian citizen and has permanent resident status in Canada. He does still hold a British Passport. He wants to move back to England since he never wanted to come to Canada in the first place lol and he is and has been completely miserable since he got off the plan and I made things worse by sending him back over to England to visit his brothers that still reside in england and his father resides in Ireland for 6 weeks for his birthday.
We don't have anything holding us here like mortgages or fancy careers ...but we also don't have $20,000 in savings either.
Is he entitled to "Right of Return" and how would I go about getting him back home?
Is there any kind of help or assistance with jobs, housing etc until we get on our feet? He is worker if he has a couple of days off he's like a bare with a sore ass....so I know it would only be a matter of a couple of months until he found a job. any help in the right direction would be fantastic.
Good luck.
Oct 5th 2013, 5:42 pm
#80
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Location: San Diego, California
Posts: 9,652
Re: We made it!
Can you help me make the move too?!
My common law partner is a permanent resident in Canada. He moved over with his mother and step-father in 1981 when he was 11. He is not a Canadian citizen and has permanent resident status in Canada. He does still hold a British Passport. He wants to move back to England since he never wanted to come to Canada in the first place lol and he is and has been completely miserable since he got off the plan and I made things worse by sending him back over to England to visit his brothers that still reside in england and his father resides in Ireland for 6 weeks for his birthday.
We don't have anything holding us here like mortgages or fancy careers ...but we also don't have $20,000 in savings either.
Is he entitled to "Right of Return" and how would I go about getting him back home?
Is there any kind of help or assistance with jobs, housing etc until we get on our feet? He is worker if he has a couple of days off he's like a bare with a sore ass....so I know it would only be a matter of a couple of months until he found a job. any help in the right direction would be fantastic.
My common law partner is a permanent resident in Canada. He moved over with his mother and step-father in 1981 when he was 11. He is not a Canadian citizen and has permanent resident status in Canada. He does still hold a British Passport. He wants to move back to England since he never wanted to come to Canada in the first place lol and he is and has been completely miserable since he got off the plan and I made things worse by sending him back over to England to visit his brothers that still reside in england and his father resides in Ireland for 6 weeks for his birthday.
We don't have anything holding us here like mortgages or fancy careers ...but we also don't have $20,000 in savings either.
Is he entitled to "Right of Return" and how would I go about getting him back home?
Is there any kind of help or assistance with jobs, housing etc until we get on our feet? He is worker if he has a couple of days off he's like a bare with a sore ass....so I know it would only be a matter of a couple of months until he found a job. any help in the right direction would be fantastic.
With regard assistance that won't be assessed until he is back in the UK and proves permanent residency. He should plan on sorting out his own housing etc for a couple of months at least - he could stay with his relatives.
Oct 8th 2013, 3:24 pm
#81
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Re: We made it!
Thanks for information. Him going back home is easier than renewing his passport lmao.
I wish I could get on a plane and go somewhere that easily.
Maybe I will send him back again for his birthday!
He has 3 brothers so I am sure he could stay with one of them until he gets on his feet and gets a job!
I wish I could get on a plane and go somewhere that easily.
Maybe I will send him back again for his birthday!
He has 3 brothers so I am sure he could stay with one of them until he gets on his feet and gets a job!
Oct 12th 2013, 10:06 am
#82
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Location: NS, Canada 2007-2013. Now....England!
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Re: We made it!
I am just laughing at some of the replies about getting the wrong change out when paying for things when they return home. I have been lucky, I guess, that I haven't had this problem (yet)
It is amazing how many people choose to return home. I find it hard to read so many people stay away for 20/30 years due to kids and grandkids or financial reasons, and are so unhappy. I can't imagine it as I was dreadfully unhappy and very depressed, and we were only in Canada 6 years!
Well, we have been home 3 months today!
I have nothing negative to say at all, so far. I am loving where we live, it is just perfect for us.
My neighbour arranged a ladies day out to a local falconry last week and invited me. I met a few lovely ladies, it was a really great day, and apparently they do something different each month. Next month it may be 'Go Ape' or rock climbing!
I said I would just sit and watch as I hate heights
My hubby is loving his job but hates the commute. I think he is generally happy here and notices the very positive change in me. I am so much calmer and happier, at peace.
My eldest just started her first job. It's just weekends right now, but it's a start. My youngest is settling at school and is going off to Dorset next week on a school trip. She is so excited!
I am still looking for work but that's ok. We are ok financially and I am just enjoying spending quality time with my eldest right now to be honest. We didn't really have a lot of time together in Canada as I worked full time, putting on a fake face for the company and customers.
I definitely have no regrets about returning and will never leave again!
To all those who are nervous about returning, please don't be. It obviously does very much depend on the area you are returning to, but if you choose right then you will be very happy.
It is amazing how many people choose to return home. I find it hard to read so many people stay away for 20/30 years due to kids and grandkids or financial reasons, and are so unhappy. I can't imagine it as I was dreadfully unhappy and very depressed, and we were only in Canada 6 years!
Well, we have been home 3 months today!
I have nothing negative to say at all, so far. I am loving where we live, it is just perfect for us.
My neighbour arranged a ladies day out to a local falconry last week and invited me. I met a few lovely ladies, it was a really great day, and apparently they do something different each month. Next month it may be 'Go Ape' or rock climbing!
I said I would just sit and watch as I hate heights My hubby is loving his job but hates the commute. I think he is generally happy here and notices the very positive change in me. I am so much calmer and happier, at peace.
My eldest just started her first job. It's just weekends right now, but it's a start. My youngest is settling at school and is going off to Dorset next week on a school trip. She is so excited!
I am still looking for work but that's ok. We are ok financially and I am just enjoying spending quality time with my eldest right now to be honest. We didn't really have a lot of time together in Canada as I worked full time, putting on a fake face for the company and customers.
I definitely have no regrets about returning and will never leave again!
To all those who are nervous about returning, please don't be. It obviously does very much depend on the area you are returning to, but if you choose right then you will be very happy.
Oct 12th 2013, 7:21 pm
#83
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Re: We made it!
I am just laughing at some of the replies about getting the wrong change out when paying for things when they return home. I have been lucky, I guess, that I haven't had this problem (yet)
It is amazing how many people choose to return home. I find it hard to read so many people stay away for 20/30 years due to kids and grandkids or financial reasons, and are so unhappy. I can't imagine it as I was dreadfully unhappy and very depressed, and we were only in Canada 6 years!
Well, we have been home 3 months today!
I have nothing negative to say at all, so far. I am loving where we live, it is just perfect for us.
My neighbour arranged a ladies day out to a local falconry last week and invited me. I met a few lovely ladies, it was a really great day, and apparently they do something different each month. Next month it may be 'Go Ape' or rock climbing! I said I would just sit and watch as I hate heights
My hubby is loving his job but hates the commute. I think he is generally happy here and notices the very positive change in me. I am so much calmer and happier, at peace.
My eldest just started her first job. It's just weekends right now, but it's a start. My youngest is settling at school and is going off to Dorset next week on a school trip. She is so excited!
I am still looking for work but that's ok. We are ok financially and I am just enjoying spending quality time with my eldest right now to be honest. We didn't really have a lot of time together in Canada as I worked full time, putting on a fake face for the company and customers.
I definitely have no regrets about returning and will never leave again!
To all those who are nervous about returning, please don't be. It obviously does very much depend on the area you are returning to, but if you choose right then you will be very happy.
It is amazing how many people choose to return home. I find it hard to read so many people stay away for 20/30 years due to kids and grandkids or financial reasons, and are so unhappy. I can't imagine it as I was dreadfully unhappy and very depressed, and we were only in Canada 6 years!
Well, we have been home 3 months today!
I have nothing negative to say at all, so far. I am loving where we live, it is just perfect for us.
My neighbour arranged a ladies day out to a local falconry last week and invited me. I met a few lovely ladies, it was a really great day, and apparently they do something different each month. Next month it may be 'Go Ape' or rock climbing!
I said I would just sit and watch as I hate heights My hubby is loving his job but hates the commute. I think he is generally happy here and notices the very positive change in me. I am so much calmer and happier, at peace.
My eldest just started her first job. It's just weekends right now, but it's a start. My youngest is settling at school and is going off to Dorset next week on a school trip. She is so excited!
I am still looking for work but that's ok. We are ok financially and I am just enjoying spending quality time with my eldest right now to be honest. We didn't really have a lot of time together in Canada as I worked full time, putting on a fake face for the company and customers.
I definitely have no regrets about returning and will never leave again!
To all those who are nervous about returning, please don't be. It obviously does very much depend on the area you are returning to, but if you choose right then you will be very happy.
Great news that you are so happy. About your job hunting, I am not sure what age you are but is there a possibility of being discriminated with age? I am asking for myself as I want to work part time but will be almost 60 when we go back! I hate to set myself up for a "fall" According to the new NI rules I have to work now until 66 anyway before I can get my OAPI would rather work in UK any day than in Canada!
Oct 12th 2013, 11:03 pm
#84
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Re: We made it!
I am just laughing at some of the replies about getting the wrong change out when paying for things when they return home. I have been lucky, I guess, that I haven't had this problem (yet)
It is amazing how many people choose to return home. I find it hard to read so many people stay away for 20/30 years due to kids and grandkids or financial reasons, and are so unhappy. I can't imagine it as I was dreadfully unhappy and very depressed, and we were only in Canada 6 years!
Well, we have been home 3 months today!
I have nothing negative to say at all, so far. I am loving where we live, it is just perfect for us.
My neighbour arranged a ladies day out to a local falconry last week and invited me. I met a few lovely ladies, it was a really great day, and apparently they do something different each month. Next month it may be 'Go Ape' or rock climbing! I said I would just sit and watch as I hate heights
My hubby is loving his job but hates the commute. I think he is generally happy here and notices the very positive change in me. I am so much calmer and happier, at peace.
My eldest just started her first job. It's just weekends right now, but it's a start. My youngest is settling at school and is going off to Dorset next week on a school trip. She is so excited!
I am still looking for work but that's ok. We are ok financially and I am just enjoying spending quality time with my eldest right now to be honest. We didn't really have a lot of time together in Canada as I worked full time, putting on a fake face for the company and customers.
I definitely have no regrets about returning and will never leave again!
To all those who are nervous about returning, please don't be. It obviously does very much depend on the area you are returning to, but if you choose right then you will be very happy.
It is amazing how many people choose to return home. I find it hard to read so many people stay away for 20/30 years due to kids and grandkids or financial reasons, and are so unhappy. I can't imagine it as I was dreadfully unhappy and very depressed, and we were only in Canada 6 years!
Well, we have been home 3 months today!
I have nothing negative to say at all, so far. I am loving where we live, it is just perfect for us.
My neighbour arranged a ladies day out to a local falconry last week and invited me. I met a few lovely ladies, it was a really great day, and apparently they do something different each month. Next month it may be 'Go Ape' or rock climbing!
I said I would just sit and watch as I hate heights My hubby is loving his job but hates the commute. I think he is generally happy here and notices the very positive change in me. I am so much calmer and happier, at peace.
My eldest just started her first job. It's just weekends right now, but it's a start. My youngest is settling at school and is going off to Dorset next week on a school trip. She is so excited!
I am still looking for work but that's ok. We are ok financially and I am just enjoying spending quality time with my eldest right now to be honest. We didn't really have a lot of time together in Canada as I worked full time, putting on a fake face for the company and customers.
I definitely have no regrets about returning and will never leave again!
To all those who are nervous about returning, please don't be. It obviously does very much depend on the area you are returning to, but if you choose right then you will be very happy.
I knew within the first 10 years, but my Grandy became so distressed I promised I would stay.
One copes down those years by not really acknowledging the slow mental and physical erosion; and it does occur.
My only fear now is that the uber stress of this process--- (every single step of it has thrown up a problem that had to be revisited)---will put me in hospital with a heart attack or summat!
At times I've been telling myself 'stay calm or you won't make it'.
In the first world, we also develop our own 'survival' skills. Mine as I said was simply to block how I really felt.
However, you can't con your subconcious...
I found out in February this year that I could return, and I hit the ground at warp speed.
Years of unhappiness have surfaced. I'm trying to keep it at bay, but feel like someone who is increasingly weakened, crawling toward an oasis.
I would add that I didn't get to this stage in life by having any illusions. NO country is Utopia. But for me the UK is MY Utopia.
Oct 13th 2013, 7:39 am
#85
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Re: We made it!
Lorry1...I agree with your comment that you have lost the emigration bug...ME TOO!!!
Oct 13th 2013, 8:20 am
#86
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Re: We made it!
Great news that you are so happy. About your job hunting, I am not sure what age you are but is there a possibility of being discriminated with age? I am asking for myself as I want to work part time but will be almost 60 when we go back! I hate to set myself up for a "fall" According to the new NI rules I have to work now until 66 anyway before I can get my OAP
Oct 13th 2013, 9:05 am
#87
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Joined: Apr 2010
Location: NS, Canada 2007-2013. Now....England!
Posts: 2,211
Re: We made it!
FeelBritish, I am (almost) 40 so am not sure about age discrimination at work (yet!). It's not that I haven't found work, it's that I am holding out for the right job. I am a specialist luxury cruise consultant and so don't want to just go back into a high street travel agency. I am looking to work at home and have a couple of jobs lined up, but one is not becoming available until early December unfortunately.
for you finding work. If you are qualified and enthusiastic, I am sure you will have no trouble.
Emporer, WOW! I really feel for you. I just can NOT imagine spending 37 years in Canada feeling how I felt throughout the 6 years. I look back on that person and I do not recognise her. I am totally different now.
I really hope you love England when you return and are able to find peace. I know I have.
Here's to the next 5 weeks whizzing by for you
(I know it's early here, but it's after 5pm somewhere in the World )
Emmbritt, Yep well and truly over emigrating. I am happy to do a short stint in another Country for a few weeks or so, as I may well do for hubby's work when the kids are grown, but then I want to come home
for you finding work. If you are qualified and enthusiastic, I am sure you will have no trouble.Emporer, WOW! I really feel for you. I just can NOT imagine spending 37 years in Canada feeling how I felt throughout the 6 years. I look back on that person and I do not recognise her. I am totally different now.
I really hope you love England when you return and are able to find peace. I know I have.
Here's to the next 5 weeks whizzing by for you
(I know it's early here, but it's after 5pm somewhere in the World )Emmbritt, Yep well and truly over emigrating. I am happy to do a short stint in another Country for a few weeks or so, as I may well do for hubby's work when the kids are grown, but then I want to come home
Oct 16th 2013, 4:43 am
#88
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Location: Belfast, Northern Ireland UK again!
Posts: 1,085
Re: We made it!
'All of the above'! I did 37 years. 5 weeks to go.
I knew within the first 10 years, but my Grandy became so distressed I promised I would stay.
One copes down those years by not really acknowledging the slow mental and physical erosion; and it does occur.
My only fear now is that the uber stress of this process--- (every single step of it has thrown up a problem that had to be revisited)---will put me in hospital with a heart attack or summat!
At times I've been telling myself 'stay calm or you won't make it'.
In the first world, we also develop our own 'survival' skills. Mine as I said was simply to block how I really felt.
However, you can't con your subconcious...
I found out in February this year that I could return, and I hit the ground at warp speed.
Years of unhappiness have surfaced. I'm trying to keep it at bay, but feel like someone who is increasingly weakened, crawling toward an oasis.
I would add that I didn't get to this stage in life by having any illusions. NO country is Utopia. But for me the UK is MY Utopia.
I knew within the first 10 years, but my Grandy became so distressed I promised I would stay.
One copes down those years by not really acknowledging the slow mental and physical erosion; and it does occur.
My only fear now is that the uber stress of this process--- (every single step of it has thrown up a problem that had to be revisited)---will put me in hospital with a heart attack or summat!
At times I've been telling myself 'stay calm or you won't make it'.
In the first world, we also develop our own 'survival' skills. Mine as I said was simply to block how I really felt.
However, you can't con your subconcious...
I found out in February this year that I could return, and I hit the ground at warp speed.
Years of unhappiness have surfaced. I'm trying to keep it at bay, but feel like someone who is increasingly weakened, crawling toward an oasis.
I would add that I didn't get to this stage in life by having any illusions. NO country is Utopia. But for me the UK is MY Utopia.
Oct 19th 2013, 5:39 pm
#90
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Posts: 9,740
Re: We made it!
What has surprised me is how easy I found to carve a biche for myself here after returning. I came back to Scotland but to the West Coast. I grew up on the East and had no family, friends or contacts here. I worked on it and now it is a nice feeling when people greet me by name as I take my dog for a walk. Moral ? Live in a small community !