Back 3 months and hating it!
Aug 1st 2014, 4:07 pm
#16
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Re: Back 3 months and hating it!
Like everyone else here I think its early days yet. To add to that I think its incredibly difficult to move to a major city like London if you are not a)prepared and seeking that thrill b) coming from a less 'concentrated' city. I lived in London in my university days and loved it then but I got tired of it in the end and moved to Cambridge which was a much better fit. Before you make your next move dig deep and do some research. There are many alternatives. Best of luck!
Aug 2nd 2014, 11:33 am
#17
Was in Canada, now home.
Joined: Aug 2011
Location: Devon
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Re: Back 3 months and hating it!
Remembering your posts when you were in Calgary, a lot of your feelings about being here or there seem to be influenced by your marriage breakdown and separation from your children.
I agree with the other people who have commented, that it is too early to decide that your children don't want contact with you. Contact for the non custodial parent is rarely easy and needs work. Your children's apparent indifference may be their way of coping. They may not be sure that you will hang around and be there for them. Like you, they have had to cope with changing countries and a lot of uncertainties.
I'm sorry the job isn't working out. Maybe you should treat it as a jumping off point for something better in Britain, and likewise your apartment. But, I think that having made a commitment to be closer to your younger children, you should stick with it.
I agree with the other people who have commented, that it is too early to decide that your children don't want contact with you. Contact for the non custodial parent is rarely easy and needs work. Your children's apparent indifference may be their way of coping. They may not be sure that you will hang around and be there for them. Like you, they have had to cope with changing countries and a lot of uncertainties.
I'm sorry the job isn't working out. Maybe you should treat it as a jumping off point for something better in Britain, and likewise your apartment. But, I think that having made a commitment to be closer to your younger children, you should stick with it.
Aug 2nd 2014, 2:15 pm
#18
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Re: Back 3 months and hating it!
Cheeky Monkey
Like you I gave up my 4,500sq ft house, basement and triple garage in Calgary for a tiny two bedroom bungalow in Essex. Teenagers are very selfish and apart from their friends very little else is important in their lives. I would continue to contact them either via email, phone or Skype so that they know you still want to be part of their lives.
Three months is far too early to be considering returning to Canada, believe me I was in the same boat this time last year but stuck it out and things have turned around and I am now enjoying my return to the UK.
I left all my worldly goods behind in Calgary when my marriage fell apart due to my ex having a major 'mid life crisis' I may not have all the trappings I had in Canada but I am richer for it!
I decided to not go back into my old career and am doing something completely different and live in a different area. London is far too expensive and impersonal. You should consider moving closer to your children in order to maintain a more 'hands on' relationship with them if that is what is important to you, the rest will follow.
I wish you all the best.
Back2Blights
Like you I gave up my 4,500sq ft house, basement and triple garage in Calgary for a tiny two bedroom bungalow in Essex. Teenagers are very selfish and apart from their friends very little else is important in their lives. I would continue to contact them either via email, phone or Skype so that they know you still want to be part of their lives.
Three months is far too early to be considering returning to Canada, believe me I was in the same boat this time last year but stuck it out and things have turned around and I am now enjoying my return to the UK.
I left all my worldly goods behind in Calgary when my marriage fell apart due to my ex having a major 'mid life crisis' I may not have all the trappings I had in Canada but I am richer for it!
I decided to not go back into my old career and am doing something completely different and live in a different area. London is far too expensive and impersonal. You should consider moving closer to your children in order to maintain a more 'hands on' relationship with them if that is what is important to you, the rest will follow.
I wish you all the best.
Back2Blights
Aug 2nd 2014, 4:38 pm
#19
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Joined: Sep 2009
Posts: 1,197
Re: Back 3 months and hating it!
Cheeky Monkey
Like you I gave up my 4,500sq ft house, basement and triple garage in Calgary for a tiny two bedroom bungalow in Essex. Teenagers are very selfish and apart from their friends very little else is important in their lives. I would continue to contact them either via email, phone or Skype so that they know you still want to be part of their lives.
Three months is far too early to be considering returning to Canada, believe me I was in the same boat this time last year but stuck it out and things have turned around and I am now enjoying my return to the UK.
I left all my worldly goods behind in Calgary when my marriage fell apart due to my ex having a major 'mid life crisis' I may not have all the trappings I had in Canada but I am richer for it!
I decided to not go back into my old career and am doing something completely different and live in a different area. London is far too expensive and impersonal. You should consider moving closer to your children in order to maintain a more 'hands on' relationship with them if that is what is important to you, the rest will follow.
I wish you all the best.
Back2Blights
Like you I gave up my 4,500sq ft house, basement and triple garage in Calgary for a tiny two bedroom bungalow in Essex. Teenagers are very selfish and apart from their friends very little else is important in their lives. I would continue to contact them either via email, phone or Skype so that they know you still want to be part of their lives.
Three months is far too early to be considering returning to Canada, believe me I was in the same boat this time last year but stuck it out and things have turned around and I am now enjoying my return to the UK.
I left all my worldly goods behind in Calgary when my marriage fell apart due to my ex having a major 'mid life crisis' I may not have all the trappings I had in Canada but I am richer for it!
I decided to not go back into my old career and am doing something completely different and live in a different area. London is far too expensive and impersonal. You should consider moving closer to your children in order to maintain a more 'hands on' relationship with them if that is what is important to you, the rest will follow.
I wish you all the best.
Back2Blights
