ABCDiamond

Hi Simone

I think the idea of deleting the account yourself, is to force yourself into a position of not being able to come on again, other than by signing on under a new name


That actually sounds like a very good idea at times

Simone

Yeah, for me too!

But as I said, I'd still come on here and read everything.... and then probably just make another account in the end...

And I don't want to leave permanently, to many nice people on here, and I do sometimes like helping someone.

Ozzy4life

I am not trying to pick a fight here mate but you have only registered this month, hang around a bit and you will see plenty of fights and steady times.
There have been many characters here over the years, you might of heard of PB or Wilf, dotty, WBB or many of the other people who made this forum what it is today, they are kind of the pioneers of this site and none of them are around anymore. Things change. Cycles are the go.

kirsty&al

You can turn off the email notifications in your options. You can then go into "My Profile" at your leisure to check whether there's been any posts in the threads that you are interested/posted in.

A

Simone

Yep, I know, but thanks
I like having it on, otherwise I can forget about threads.
I'm trying to solve the sickness, not do away with the symptoms....errrrrrrr.... sort of.... something

Now I'm posting less, I get way less emails, especially if they're not 'heated' threads.

Oh, and I'm a bit busier at work, that's helping. And my parents and brother were staying with us the last weeks, that's given me less time on computer too....

suzy

I joined this forum in June and was pretty shocked that one of my early postings (and it was a fairly sensible query) was answered rather spitefully by an 'old' poster. It became apparent with a few exceptions that this 'old' poster seemed to be well liked although not by people I can relate to really well.

Thankfully I stuck with it (although I felt like leaving right away) and have found alot of lovely helpful people on here.

That doesn't stop me agreeing with BLC that there is some 'playground bullying' going on and it always seems to be the same people making the nasty comments. By all means don't stifle a good debate but personal attacks are out of order. Perhaps now that the 'silly season' is over this forum will be a nicer place to be.

Suzy

Brisben

Let's hope so Suzy, But I am sure their is no malicious intent

Jonahs_mummy

I know what you mean... there is defo something going on.... its almost like there is an influx of trolls making this their patch or something

G'Day

I've really enjoyed this thread. Especially since I've been on both ends of this issue before.

In the end I think one should allow the other person to "leave" the thread, then return and get on with life. There are many people who post here with whom I have, at one time or another, had nicely heated debates. Viva La differance! But then we have also sent each other Karma at times or given support when a very good post was posted at a later stage.

People WILL disagree, but to me it only gets hairy when a poster stalks me from one thread to another bashing me for weeks at a time :scared: over one debate we had ages ago.

I once put someone on "ignore" (and called them a potty mouth) because I didn't like the language they were using during a debate we had. I was stalked for months afterwards by this poster and their friends and received a lot of crappy PM's and other stuff. Many decent threads on this forum and others were hijacked by these posters for personal venting against me because I'd made the mistake of posting something (that had nothing to do with them or the issue we'd had) on those threads. I finally went away for a while until they found someone else to torment. I think this is the point where it gets to be rediculous and where many people pack up & leave.

ozzieeagle

Heres hoping G'day.

I feel that a lot of people that do attack others on a personal level, are doing so as a form of projected Anger

Which is probably way safer than having a go at the underlying issue in their lives that needs to be resolved.

There would be very few of the personal snipers that would do it face to face thats for sure.

I wonder how long this BBS, will stay bully free though.

Great to see you again G'day


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G'Day

Great to see you again too!

You're very right in your observations. They also tend to be of the variety who can dish it out, but can't take it themselves, which is probably why they hunt in packs

seang

Also remember some people here have said they wouldnt post again as they were ticked off with the clichs that seem to form here. I , myself , stopped posting for a while due to this. You could post and no one would reply and then a little later the same thing would be posted and , presto, heaps of replies. Some newbies felt left out.
So it is not just aggressive posts that drive people away.Some people stop as they seem to just be ignored.
Personally it has been awhile since i have seen aposter being "hounded" i.e any thing they posted would be jumped on. Usually it is a post or a thread that gets the treatment not a person. And some people do "fight" back and then wonder why the thread gets out of hand.

floweroscotland

Well spoken BLC, this is why I left this forum last year, as I was sick of being put down at every opportunity from certain members of this forum, I posted before I came to Australia then when I arrived I thought I would post and try to be helpful for the one's yet to come, but with so many negative replies to my posts and threads I gave up and didn't come on for a long time. I came back a few months ago and started to post again, but I see nothing has changed, a few new names and faces but still the same crap attitudes from a lot, anything positive you have to post on here is always turned to a negative. I am coming on less again as I just feel it's a complete waste of time, why should I bother to help and assist people on here with their new life, when I could be out enjoying mine. I feel sorry for the people on here that really want the help, as the idiots are driving the decent one's away

Lisa

The A Team

I've been ignored many times on the forum..........sometimes I just feel invisible. I'm mostly sending PM's and emails to a handful of people now and just join in the less controversial threads. Life is stressful enough at the moment with trying to sell the house, business and get the visa, without feeling bullied or ignored

bridiej

I dont think it's a case of being ignored, just that sometimes there's loads of posts to read and I guess it's human nature sometimes to pick out the ones started by people you know and are familiar with if you've not got much time.

Will send you some "i'm not invisible" k