Originally Posted by gobbyjock

Probably for the same reason that some people who are leaving UK take a pop at the UK - nowhere is perfect but if you are unsettled and unhappy everything seems worse. I just wish people would try and think about how the other person is feeling a bit more before jumping on them and verbally mugging them. It takes a lot of guts to say something isn`t working out and it takes even more guts to either stay or return "home". At the end of
the day I think posting your thoughts and feelings on here is a good way of letting off steam and it`s amazing how better it can feel for getting something off your chest. It never ceases to amaze me how supportive people can be on this site and yet others seem to enjoy kicking people when they are down.

Originally Posted by tiredwithtwins

good post Poll!!

sue x

Originally Posted by gobbyjock

Probably for the same reason that some people who are leaving UK take a pop at the UK - nowhere is perfect but if you are unsettled and unhappy everything seems worse. I just wish people would try and think about how the other person is feeling a bit more before jumping on them and verbally mugging them. It takes a lot of guts to say something isn`t working out and it takes even more guts to either stay or return "home". At the end of
the day I think posting your thoughts and feelings on here is a good way of letting off steam and it`s amazing how better it can feel for getting something off your chest. It never ceases to amaze me how supportive people can be on this site and yet others seem to enjoy kicking people when they are down.

Originally Posted by BESWETAJ

I - could - not - give - a - toss - what - people - think. Slap me in the face -ouch that hurts - criticise because I come and go and come and go - doesn't bother me in the least and the only people my country-hopping it affects are the people it affects.

The Poet

Originally Posted by debbiemc

I agree with all your comments polly and you write so eliquently. i was sorry to hear you are not well and i wish you good health soon.

i don't always agree when some go off on a tangent as sometimes as it gets too personal and i dont want to get involved. everyone has the right to opinions and others should show respect and rather than be critical try to answer constructively.

i remember my first couple of threads on here last year, it took me a good while to pluck up the courage to post, i was shot down to pieces for asking a question about consent from my ex! what i do remember though are the kind comments i recieved, one in particular from sue, who incidently we have since met, she came on my hen night!

i was only wondering this morning what happened to jills banana diarys i used to piss myself laughing some days, were they stopped because of critisisms from others then?

good luck with everything polly, and i hope one day you will find happiness wherever you are in this world.

debbie

Originally Posted by tracey.d

I feel that the slatings are getting more regular and hence I don't come on here as much as i used to. i think i will be one of those who dissapear for a while soon. it gets me down sometimes reading some of the nasty comments that are made. Everybody should be entitled to their opinion.

Tracey

Originally Posted by BESWETAJ

I - could - not - give - a - toss - what - people - think. Slap me in the face -ouch that hurts - criticise because I come and go and come and go - doesn't bother me in the least and the only people my country-hopping it affects are the people it affects.

The Poet

Originally Posted by suzannepatricia

Very well put. Yes other posters should be more open minded.My son has lived down under for quite a few years with his family, and knows me well enough to know that his old mum (nearly 62) will be happy when she gets there. It has taken me 3 years to make up my mind to go, and no, I am not expecting it be easy. At the end of the day, I believe there to be not the same problems to face that befalls those to migrate to places like Spain, like language, driving on a different side etc, but i know there will be problems of a sort. It will take adjustment. Also, I realise that living there will not be the same as being on holiday. A lot of folk go with unrealistic expectations, and the old saying " one mans meat is another mans poison" springs to mind. So roll on the time when I go(when the house sells) I cannot wait to take on the challenge. Read other peoples opinions by all means, but everyone is an individual. "Life is a box a chocolates............."
Suzz

Originally Posted by cre'sta57

I wrote somethin'g similar jus't the other night and delet'ed it for a couple of reason's. First one being it's u'sually the same peop'le doing the sla'ting, some ar'e very quick to judge. Second I'm of the same m'ind of a lot of po'ster's who've been here a w'hile, I'm ju'st no't bothered anymore. I can't be doin'g with the s'nide comment's. Forget an a'po'stro'phe, and some'one's the're to take the pi'ss.
Keep on po'sting, I wi'll, ju'st not a's often a's I u'sed to
Did I u'se enough ap'os'trophe's thi's time, I wonder?

Originally Posted by wildmark

This has to be the third post in as many hours on the same subject, is there not a special section for these types of posts?

Originally Posted by Pollyana

We've all read the recent threads from people who have packed up and gone back to the UK; they have their own reasons for it and I wish other posters would respect these reasons. Equally there have been some great threads lately from people who are settled here and happy - again, they have their own reasons for this, and are due the same respect.

Why are so many people so quick to judge others by their standards? Everyone is an individual, and everyone is entitled to their own views about how/where to live. And I'll bet a lot of the returnees have reasons that they don't make public, as well. Life's rich tapestry is made that way because we are all individual, and no one has the right to judge anyone else's reasons - because what is true for one person may be way off the mark when looking at what the next person wants out of life.

Yes, I'm waffling, but I hope some of it makes sense. I just want a few posters to learn a bit more tolerance - I guess thats the word. The forum exists for positive/negative/realistic views, and they all have an equal right to be written here.

I feel that also some people do not realise the heart-seeking that goes on when someone is not entirely happy in a new country. If some people knew what others go through in order to try to build a life in a new country, maybe they would not be so quick to condemn people for leaving.
When you know what its like to fight against constant ill-health, and discomfort, to feel lonely and in need of friends that understand you, to be totally baffled by systems and rules and methods of working; then you will start to understand why some people give up and leave.

This country is not paradise, no country is. This country does not suit everyone - no country does. Everyone has the right to make a choice to return or to stay and it takes guts to post their feelings about it. Have some respect, people, and instead of criticising, put yourselves in the shoes of the people writing the threads.

Polly
(sticking it out against the odds cos she's madly in love with The Bloke)