Thursday 22 March 2012
How wonderful it is to live in these modern times of unusual families!
As you all know from the past few posts, I'm married, have a daughter and a cat and the plan is to get us all from the UK to the US with minimal chance of a nervous breakdown.
As it happens, my daughter's birth-father is making our lives difficult. I'm not allowed to go into detail as it's ongoing but basically, he wants sole custody (because he's mad, I think) which he isn't going to get because I'm in a stable home and not an unfit mother and he's...pretty much the opposite of me.
*sigh* all hell broke loose because I married my lovely American and changed mine and the little monster's names so that we're now Mr P, Mrs P and Miss P (Fuzzy still has my maiden name on her vet records but when I remember to change it, she'll be Moggy P) and despite Miss P never having her birth father's surname or having his name on her birth certificate, he's throwing a tantrum and trying to stop us going abroad. The judge, thankfully, seems to agree with the rest of the sane world in saying that it's better for Miss P to stay with us but that moving will complicate it. Don't get me wrong, I'm not denying him access, I'm just denying him the possibility to dictate what I do with my life, which he seems to think he has the right to do. If you ask Miss P, she'll say she wants to move to be with Daddy, Grandma and Grandpa and all her aunts, uncles and cousins in America, so it's not like she's against the idea either.
We'll know more about what's happening there in a few months time but until then, because of the confidentiality surrounding detail, I'm confined to talking to the cat about it. Like a crazy person.