My families adventure on the road to oz via Germany

A night mare of a day

Yesterday, i think must have been up there with the worst day of my life award.

It all started when i picked my youngest up. The teacher mentioned that she has some concerns over his lack of concentration and constantly on the go. She is thinking of having him assesed to see if there arre any reasons for his behaviour. I think she was trying to be polite, as i know he is hard to deal with I was very reluctant as i think he is just a naughty boy and i dont really want him to be labled as some one with special needs. 

 He has just this week been allowed out to play after being grounded for stealing sweets (dared to by an older kid). I kept him in for 2 weeks for that episode.

Well he topped that off big style yesterday afternoon , he asked to play with his little freind down the street, so after telling him to behave and keep out of trouble i let him. I had no sooner sat down with a cuppa when my door bell went . It was his freinds mother to tell me my son had scratched her car with a stone all down the side. I was mortified, he had ran away and no one knew where he was. I eventually found him and made him aplogise and have told the woman we will come to some aggreement over paying for the damage. I felt physically sick when i phoned V up . V has since gone round there and it turns out that her own son had told J to do it. We have told J he will not be allowed out any more this year. WE just cant trust him any more.

Im at a loss now on what to do with him, we disapline him we try our best to show him how to be a good boy, but it just doesn't seem to be sinking in. One of V's collegues has suggested we allow J to be assesed as they think he may have a mild form of ADH.( his behaviour is similar to their nephew)

So after the half term holiday it looks like J will be getting assesed. At the moment, as parents we fell like failures. V couldn't even bring him self to talk to J this morning (he was already in bed when V got back in )

Sending hugs

05:40, Fri 12 October 2007 .. Posted by Tiggs+Graz

Sent you a pm. A x

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10:21, Sat 13 October 2007 .. Posted by moneypen20

Whatever his problems are, you are not failures as parents. You love and care for the children and make sure they know right from wrong. If he needs help, you are providing it. Don't beat yourselves up. Parents don't get a manual when they get a child. It's all made up as you go along.

If you refused to get help, or ground him or blame the schools, then you would be classed a rubbish parent. You're not.