Julie and I have been married 26 years today!   it seems such a long time when you say it, but funnily enough it doesn't seem that long when you live it.

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We still love each other (I think ) and the Tango instructor told us she loves to watch us Tango because we are so in tune, and intense

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Everything in those 26 years hasn't always been "roses around the door", but the trick is to work through the problems and stick together.  Here are some of my tips for making your marriage/partnership last.

• Communication is the answer to most problems, keep talking and trying not to take each other for granted.
• Compromise on things, don't hold out for your way all of the time. Remember  give and take is needed.
• Be Considerate of how the other person is feeling.
• Control any temper flares, once something is said it cannot be unsaid. Even though you may not mean it for real, we often throw words our as a verbal bricks in an argument just to score points.  Resist this destructive behaviour as much as you can. Become concious of it happening.
• Care about each other. Try to consider your partner's fears / dislikes and don't throw them into situations without a support net.

OK thats enough of my waffling, I am starting to sound like some sort of relationship person.  Everyone knows I am a thick skinned macho man.