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Emotional ChristmasFri 4 January 2008
Its been a while since I wrote in my blog, I guess I've been waiting for some consistency in our lives and something more solid to write about.  The job has continued to get progressively worse.  I won't write out all the details here, but suffice to say I am now left feeling that my boss is sub human.  The atmosphere is painful in the office and towards to Christmas I did everything I could to avoid going in.  Ironically, I spent a lot of time there during Christmas because my Boss refused to pay me otherwise.  Not something thats in my contract I hasten to add, but at least it was empty in there and I could head in at lunchtime and head out at lunchtime(!), making sure I sent a couple of emails to log that I've actually been there.  Anyway, not feeling incredibly Christmassy I'm afraid I was a bit of a bah-humbug this year.  I reluctantly gave in to Steve's demands for a tree and three days before xmas saw me driving at 40 ks along the motorway with a huge pine tree precariously balanced on my roof!  Christmas Day saw us with a huge xmas tree completely flat on one side!  Anyway, just before Christmas my parents tearfully called me to tell me that their best friend that they'd grown up had been admitted to hospital with blood poisoning and a failing liver/kidneys.  How dreadful, he'd gone the doctors with ulcers on his legs and the doc had sent him away with some antibiotics - as they do.  They didn't work, so he went back.  The Doctor dismissed him.  Five weeks later he was so incredibly ill and his wife called the Doctor and begged him to come over.  He flatly refused telling her to bring him to her, she explained that she can't drive and still he refused.  Finally he went to hospital and was given two days to live.  He didn't respond to any of the medication and they warned his family to expect the worse.  Then he suddenly gained strength, the Doctor have him two weeks live and told his family to go home and rest because he would make it through xmas.  On returning to the hospital on Xmas eve, his wife walked into his room to find him dead.  He leaves behind his wife and two children aged 18 and 15.  I was good friends with him also, Dad, him and I used to listen to Black Sabbath tracks and saw the Ozzfest at MK bowl.  I included him email 'funnies' and he'd send me the odd joke.  In fact some of those will be still be sitting in his inbox unopened.  I can only imagine the horrific trauma that his family are going through.  The younger child is hysterical and cannot process what has happened.  During this time, his wife's phone bill remained unpaid so BT cut her off.  My parents are dealing with all the paperwork and bills at the moment for her.  They are just devastated.  Its hard listening to my parents be emotional whilst I am so far away, as especially as they rarely show emotion.  Our Nanny decided to tell me she was leaving just after I had put the phone down from my parents.  Timing was way off base.  I couldn't handle it.  She promised Steve she would look after the girls at the end of January (my xmas pressie was to see Bon Jovi!).  She will keep that promise and leave afterwards.  I suppose it shouldn't come as any surprise, she clearly didn't want to be here, working for money.  I think she wanted more a holiday, expenses covered.  I'm tired of sneaking into her bathroom to clean her towels/toilet and shower!  She is very good with Pip though, Pip adores her and I feel so sad for the girls because they've gotten used to her.  Ah well, hopefully we'll find someone really awesome and can lay ground rules from the start.  Steve and I are still pretty definite about leaving NZ when our lease is up.  We do love this house and know that we have got it good, but it seems the travel bug never really leaves you.  I would love for the girls to experience life in a pacific lsland, but of course, I am always drawn to Aussie as well.  Steve's been looking at some other jobs which involve travel but we've decided to take the year as it comes.  We're both a lot more relaxed having made up our minds.  The world feels like our oyster once more!  Here's hope for an exciting 2008!  And the timely reminder to enjoy life and family everyday. 

Untitled CommentFri 4 January 2008
Happy New Year to you and I hope 2008 is your year because you deserve it.
Posted by Professional Princess

Ah, there you are :0)Sun 6 January 2008
Hiya - was wondering what had become of you. Happy New Year, and good luck with 2008 - I'm sure it'll be a marked improvement on the year just gone, wherever you end up, whatever you end up doing.
Posted by Wiz'n'Ton

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